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ifyoudontknow -> disrespect (3/28/2008 12:34:49 PM)

Ok,  This is really not a question, but more of a grrrrrrrrrrrripe.. heavy on the *grrrr*  I'm a relative newbie to the lifestyle,  under consideration with a wonderful Dominant.  Why do other Doms think it's okay to contact me and try to sway me or disrespect my Dom?  I've recently blocked a few, and have decided just to hide my profile to keep them off my case.. any input appreciated!
 
mel



Gleegal67 -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 12:40:18 PM)

Welcome to being the "Soup d'Jour" on CM!

Honestly, you'll delete and block a bunch before you get some really great connections.  My suggestion, stick to the forums, at least you'll get to know interesting people by their postings.




OmegaG -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 12:41:54 PM)

I must be fuglier then fuckin hell because the majority of e-mails I get from Dom's it to tell me how lucky m'Lord is, compliment my pictures or ask about my tatoo.

What am I doing wrong?

In all seriousness, no one's ever attempted to poach you outside of collarme?



ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 12:49:50 PM)

hehe.. you're not fugly at all!! And I have had a lot of very Cool people contact me as well.  That's what makes me grrrr.  I hate to cut off the nice people just to avoid the assholes..

and no.. no one has tried to poach me outside of here  :)

mel



MamaDomme1 -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 12:54:10 PM)

Possibly because they regard you as still available and will as long as you are just under consideration, maybe.

I don't behave that way, but many other Dominant types (as well as s-types) do.



submyt -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:03:53 PM)

I am going to heartily recommend that you put your profile back up.  You may find you want to define it a little if you haven't already...the Dominants who know what they're doing and who are respectful read between the lines. 
 
I have made quite a number of friends, and found a good support group here.  Just ignore, block, flip off the SOBs, and don't think twice about it.[sm=wave.gif]



ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:08:20 PM)

thanks for the advice submyt, i'll definitely consider it.  mel



KatyLied -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:26:10 PM)

So you decided to allow a bunch of goofy on-line guys dominate you?  (you gave them the power when you hid your profile).  Did you know that you can easily ignore them?



domahpet -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:27:04 PM)

like i read elsewhere, you can always tell them you will
also put 'them' under comsideration, if they can first prove themselves to you!



ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:31:40 PM)

 
quote:

So you decided to allow a bunch of goofy on-line guys dominate you?  (you gave them the power when you hid your profile).  Did you know that you can easily ignore them?
quote:



valid point.. grrrrs some more and smacks self in the forehead!




NakedOnMyChain -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:34:17 PM)

I'm married and have a young UM and it blatantly says in my profile that I am not looking for anyone.  I've had five e-mails today already that are soliciting me for things I'm obviously not offering.  The point is, there are a lot of trolls out there.  They're going to contact you no matter what you do with your profile, although limiting pictures and hiding your profile will help, so worrying about it really isn't worth your time.  If you see something that irritates you, just delete, block and forget about it.  Or, if you really need a pick-me-up, just make fun of them mercilessly.  All's fair.



peppermint -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:42:23 PM)

#1.  So what makes you believe that these "Dom" who are trying to sway you are really Doms?  Oh...because they said so on Collarme?  Now i see the problem.....

#2.  My personal definition of "under consideration" is that some guy wants to keep a sub from talking to other guys while he decides whether to keep sub A, sub B..or none of the above.  Perhaps your Dom poachers think those words mean the same that i do. 

#3  If you can't take the online nutcases, then you shouldn't be playing online.  Block 'em and get on with your life.  Don't let the crazies around here get under your skin.  Just do it.



MistressVnus -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:48:44 PM)

quote:

smacks self in the forehead!


Don't do that!  Come here.  Let me do it for you.  *chuckle*  (just kidding!!!)

And, as for advice..be like a duck and let the water roll of your back.



ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:50:05 PM)

*takes the swat from above, and makes a mental note that not all are what they seem.* 

silly trusting soul that i am.... *vows to toughen up*  



ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:51:48 PM)

quote:

Don't do that!  Come here.  Let me do it for you.  *chuckle*  (just kidding!!!)


LOL... *puts on her helmet*



peppermint -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:54:43 PM)

quote:

*vows to toughen up*  


Now you're on the right road. 



sassysexygirl -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 1:59:30 PM)

greetings E/everyone

quote:

#2.  My personal definition of "under consideration" is that some guy wants to keep a sub from talking to other guys while he decides whether to keep sub A, sub B..or none of the above.  Perhaps your Dom poachers think those words mean the same that i do. 


i have to whole-heartedly disagree with this.  what this means to me (as i too am under consideration) and probably to lots of others, is that He is also being considered by me, so i don't talk to other potentials while we're working on a possible dynamic.  there is sooooo much more to being a slave to someone than just His Dominance.  everything from can He take care of me to how well does He handle finances to does He have all His teeth and shower at least once a day?

TO THE OP ~~ i once had a Man whom i thought was hot tell me, even though i was considering someOne else, "I don't give a fuck about Him, I deserve someone good and you're not collared yet."  personally, i took that as a compliment.  although the email that said "hey bitch, what's up?" ..... blocked and soon forgotten.

so, there could be any number of reasons.  just block 'em or answer 'em or whatever makes ya happy.  it's only cyber  [;)]

well wishes, gemmie



LadyHathor -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:00:40 PM)

Because they can, social graces or the lack there of  aren't better here than in the corner bar.



ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:01:29 PM)

well said sassysexygirl.  *smiles*

ok..i have opened my profile and added a sternly worded warning to the jerks out there.. we'll see if it works! 

Thanks to all who replied! 

mel



softness -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:03:34 PM)

put some scary ass shit about Dominants having ultimately responsibility in your profile.... or that you actually mean what you say about TOTAL power exchange ... hasn't had a *single*email disuading me from my choice .. funny that.. must not be as much fun when the slut is actually deadly serious

Actually show them the truth...  and they stay the fuck away ... I almost feel safe enough to put my old naked profile pic up ...




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