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MistressVnus -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:05:49 PM)
quote: I almost feel safe enough to put my old naked profile pic up ... Oh puuuhhhlleeeeeeeezzzzz do!!! smile Let's us who appreciate beauty have a chance to perv you. chuckle

Gemini1766 -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:06:40 PM)
Rickroll them. There was a thread on it in the Casual Banter section but I can't find it now.

Leatherist -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:07:02 PM)
Actually, that never dissuades me. I know what responsibility is. It's when the sub refuses to accept her part in making it possible that I have issues. The work needs to come from both sides-never expect a Top to be a mind reader.

Gemini1766 -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:08:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ifyoudontknow well said sassysexygirl. smiles ok..i have opened my profile and added a sternly worded warning to the jerks out there.. we'll see if it works! Thanks to all who replied! mel It won't Just delete thier msgs, responding only encourages them. Unless of course you rickroll them.

sassysexygirl -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:08:43 PM)
greetings softness quote: almost feel safe enough to put my old naked profile pic up ... ack!!! lass, that still might not be such a good idea, there are slaves in these here waters that may just peek a lil too long winks and drools [8D] gemmie

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:34:40 PM)
I have also found that typing back a lovely message that states, "I love you. We'll be together forever. I want to have your children. Can I move in with you?", really does the trick. You'll never hear from them again! No worries, you can thank me later.

ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 2:59:14 PM)
**LOL...ok.. thats classic. writes that down* thanks NakedOnMyChain!!* mel**

peppermint -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 4:51:43 PM)
quote: i have to whole-heartedly disagree with this. what this means to me (as i too am under consideration) and probably to lots of others, is that He is also being considered by me, so i don't talk to other potentials while we're working on a possible dynamic. I've never been under consideration. Frankly, if he'd told me i was, i would have shown him the door. Neither have i had anyone under my consideration. We first became friends. Then we shared vacations and met family. It felt right. We felt we could accept the other's quirks. Our lifestyle goals seemed to be similar. He could and did see whomever he wished to see when we lived apart. I also could see whomever i chose to see. We lived together as friends and companions until a year later when....after much thought.... i was collared. Each person has their own interpretation of words and ideas. I have mine. You have yours. The men, some of them probably real Doms who are writing to mel have theirs. I was merely giving her one reason a Dom might continue to approach her even though she has stated she is under consideration.

GreedyTop -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 4:58:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ifyoudontknow well said sassysexygirl. smiles ok..i have opened my profile and added a sternly worded warning to the jerks out there.. we'll see if it works! Thanks to all who replied! mel it won't work..LOL But just ignore and/or block the ones that bug the crap outta ya :)

Real_Trouble -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 5:27:59 PM)
I have found, from personal experience, that failing to post a picture greatly reduces the amount of trash emails you get. The staggering majority that I get are either from people who spot my forum posts (those poor souls) or from those who actually read my profile and wish to speak with me. Why? Because I don't have any eye candy for them to judge me by first. Counter-intuitive, but it can be quite useful; I wouldn't recommend it if you are actively searching for someone, but I'm only sort of half-assed watching in case something particularly interesting comes along.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 5:36:13 PM)
Why are you letting other's poor behavior influence your self expression? If you want your profile public, make it public...and be thankful there is such a wondering weeding tool as obvious behavior flaws. Doesn't mean it's not annoying, though, but this is the nature of the net. Master Fire

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 7:17:47 PM)
The reason why is because a heck of a lot of collared/committed subs ARE easily swayed, shopping around and hoping for someone to rescue them away from their dom.

IronBear -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 7:42:33 PM)
Like everywhere else your going to find the same characters here just more concentratged due to the size of CM. There are good genuine people, wankers, polite folk and rude ignorant idiots. No differnece because of the BDSM sub-culture people are people first and they don't change their personalities because they are here. Girls I've either had in a collar, probationary or full, and girls, I;'ve acted as their on line Guardian for, have all adeded right upo front. if anyone wants to discuss anything more than just friendship they need to contact me first. It roughly halved the idiots who ewither were just ignorant/rude or didn't read a full profile. I get requests for collars from overseas people the ones who appear genuine I reply to those who can't even understand that I live in Aiustralia and not Aiustria or expect me to pay their moving costs get ignored and deleted. Iron Bear Master of Bruin Cottage (A Victorian Lifestyle poly home) "I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester)

AtlantaMistress -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 7:49:19 PM)
Don't assume just because you write it in your profile they will actually read it. I get emails from men who obviously don't read mine, and my boy has it BOLD with STARS across the top that he is collared by me, and still gets an occasional poacher. Some people want what they can't have, or think since someone else has you, or is "under consideration" that gives you more value. Take the advice already offered, and don't waste time or let the emails bother you. I used to spend a lot of time giving people a piece of my mind, then realized I was doing nothing but wasting my precious time and letting them know they pushed my buttons. Just hit Delete, then Block. For every 10 (or more) bad ones, there is one good one. CM has been great for me - I have not only met some great people from emails I have gotten, but learned and laughed a lot from reading the forum posts. I feel I have made some good connections with others, not wasting my time with the losers, but actually corresponding with the people who seem to be geniune. Good luck!

OnlyMels -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 7:51:53 PM)
I've had a couple Doms try to sway me but the thing is you can yet your email to where any emasils for any Doms will just go right into your bulk mail. thats what I did. My daddy still goes through them and tells someone off every once in a while. I get alot of guys in their late 40's sending me messeges and its like eww. No thanks. My profile is even a couples profile cause I have my daddys info on there also.

IronBear -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 7:53:27 PM)
I agree, Just tell them to shove their heads up a cow's whatsit and have a woolly bull bonk the daylights out of the cow whilst the idiot's head is up there. Iron Bear Master of Bruin Cottage (A Victorian Lifestyle poly home) "I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester)

MaamJay -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 10:03:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint I've never been under consideration. Frankly, if he'd told me i was, i would have shown him the door. Neither have i had anyone under my consideration. We first became friends. Then we shared vacations and met family. It felt right. We felt we could accept the other's quirks. Our lifestyle goals seemed to be similar. He could and did see whomever he wished to see when we lived apart. I also could see whomever i chose to see. We lived together as friends and companions until a year later when....after much thought.... i was collared. Well ya know ... that's exactly what I would call being "under consideration"! Getting to know each other, sharing everyday life as well as lifestyles ... considering each other as potential life partners. You may not have chosen to use those words ... but that's essentially what it was. Not everyone has the same incredibly negative view of "under consideration" as you. It doesn't HAVE to mean that someone is FORCED to cut off contact with all others ... and I would advise any sub whose would-be Dominant tried to insist on that straight away to regard it as a huge red flag. However, as things progress, either/both sub and Dominant may voluntarily choose to discontinue developments with others in the process of focussing on the one that might be "it"! It can be a time thing as much as anything else. I did so voluntarily when I was pursuing a potential relationship last year ... when W/we didn't prove to be sufficiently compatible it wasn't hard to reconnect. To the OP ... while I know not everyone reads profiles, it can only help to make clear the situation right at the top of the profile and in the journal. Suggested wording: "i have met a great Dom and have voluntarily decided to not pursue other Dominant contacts for the time being until i know if this will work out". It avoids those contentious words, and makes it clear it is your choice. It just might reduce the idiots by a fraction. Otherwise, BLOCK! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

ifyoudontknow -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 10:33:44 PM)
*thanks for all the good advice.... everyone have a fantabulous weekend!!*

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 11:07:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint quote: i have to whole-heartedly disagree with this. what this means to me (as i too am under consideration) and probably to lots of others, is that He is also being considered by me, so i don't talk to other potentials while we're working on a possible dynamic. I've never been under consideration. Frankly, if he'd told me i was, i would have shown him the door. Neither have i had anyone under my consideration. We first became friends. Then we shared vacations and met family. It felt right. We felt we could accept the other's quirks. Our lifestyle goals seemed to be similar. He could and did see whomever he wished to see when we lived apart. I also could see whomever i chose to see. We lived together as friends and companions until a year later when....after much thought.... i was collared. It's great that you have the maturity it takes to start from such a solid point. It's not how all people do it, however, and it doesn't make them less mature for starting differently. In my experience a person has gotten to know their dominant on a surface level, making friends and feeling out compatibility. If that works out, I have seen friends submit to a collar of consideration. There's nothing odd in it. It simply gives them a period where they can, ideally, break that contract amicably if things don't work out, without the often more serious imprecations of an actual collar. In my experience, anything that has gone into the realm of "consideration" hasn't worked out, but has always ended in friendship. To each their own. It may not be how you or I would do it, but it doesn't make it any less valid. Nor does it make your way any less valid. Different people have different paths and need to seek the best one for themselves.

SimplyMichael -> RE: disrespect (3/28/2008 11:16:22 PM)
Perhaps they emailed you because they have no taste themselves AND they read your profile? quote: feisty, frisky soccer mom... needs to be controlled... was owned before.. looking for ultimate 24/7 relationship... i return all msgs, but be patient, might take awhile :) 03/28/08-Please be warned that if you message me and get rude, disrespect me or my Master, you will be kicked in the nuts, kicked to the curbed and generally ignored... oh.. and have a great day!!! :D

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