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RE: Jealusy WHos fault is it Dom domme or sub - 3/18/2008 4:59:44 AM

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Since I believe we are responsible for our own shit, owning our own emotions and reactions, whomever ever is feeling jealous is responsible for that feeling. They are also responsible for how they react to it.

Once again I agree with LaT.. the jealous person is responsible. The Jealous party should be held accountable for their actions

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RE: Jealusy WHos fault is it Dom domme or sub - 3/18/2008 5:27:15 AM

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If i found myself getting jealous it would be my problem, not his. But i am one that cannot lose sight of the plus side of a human emotion, and their always is a plus side. If i am jealous i need to look inward for the reason, recognize it and make improvements. However...there are situations where one partner makes the other jealous on purpose. If that is the case i would suggest they get their ass back in Junior High till they grow up.

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RE: Jealusy WHos fault is it Dom domme or sub - 3/18/2008 5:39:16 AM

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If the relationship is already over and someone left, then placing blame is pointless because it's over.
If you are in a relationship where that is happening and you apportion blame onto one or the other, then the relationship is doomed to end.

Blame is a wasteful accusation that assists in nothing.

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RE: Jealusy WHos fault is it Dom domme or sub - 3/18/2008 7:12:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Blame is a wasteful accusation that assists in nothing.

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as usually, wise words..and true.

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If i found myself getting jealous it would be my problem, not his

agree, but doesn't emean the partner can't help to solve it. That is what relations are about too.

< Message edited by Justme696 -- 3/18/2008 7:13:20 AM >

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RE: Jealusy WHos fault is it Dom domme or sub - 3/18/2008 4:25:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
I wouldn't suggest seeing jealousy as a fault anymore than physical pain is a fault when one bangs his knee against a table.

I think that's one of the most kick-ass ways to put it!

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
. If you don't have that level of trust and confidence I'd suggest you really don't have a partner - you have an acquaintance with common interests; waiting and susceptible to leave you if a better offer comes around. If you don't believe that to be the case - jealousy is irrational, bordering psychotic.

I view another's attention to beth as flattering.

This I think is more than a tad overkill.

I got jealous of my friend because two weeks ago, she had an awesome party, an awesome scene, and I couldn't go. I was definitely jealous that her friends got to experience that with her and I didn't.

I was ALSO thrilled that she had the experience and would never in any way try to take away from the experience she had.

I don't think the existence of my jealousy nullifies our friendship.

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RE: Jealusy WHos fault is it Dom domme or sub - 3/18/2008 5:52:19 PM

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In any relationship.. esp a D/s one.... *communication communication communication* it has to be there.

yup... communication is a must...... BUT..... it can't stay their..... we can talk and talk.... but hell the house is burning down... and no one was taking action and throwing water on the fire....... But we sure talked about it!!!

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RE: Jealusy WHos fault is it Dom domme or sub - 3/18/2008 7:50:42 PM

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I admit that I too have have been jealous at times. I am not proud of it but it is a fact. As a human being we have our weaknesses and are far from perfect. Jealousy finds its roots in our own self consciousness and esteem. If we are comfortable with who we are and trust those in our life then jealousy is not an issue. It is when one or more of those is non-existant that jealousy finds a way to enter into the picture. I do my best to keep that in check in my life and instead focus on the communications and building the relationship and establishing and maintaining the trust in the relationship which I believe is a much better use of our energy and time

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