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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 12:03:42 PM   
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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 12:32:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		But he'd also like to be kissed, and licked, and rubbed, and fondled, and caressed, and massaged, and stroked, and ...

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 1:02:37 PM   
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But he'd also like to be kissed, and licked, and rubbed, and fondled, and caressed, and massaged, and stroked, and ...
is it just me, or is it getting hot in here?

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 1:21:22 PM   
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There comes a point where just plain sex is as satisfying as a McDonalds cheeseburger in the car, okay if you're starving but not nearly as good as a proper meal. Sometimes you just are no longer interested in casual sex and need a relationship.



This is a great point.  10 yrs ago I tried to get sex 24-7.  then i grew out of it.  recently i started eating well-

i am too selfish for a relationship...

--the man who posted he likes the neck thing- ok- i did not know if it was a female thing.
- the comment on the hickey;  not with the fling. he has always been fair with me.  we dont love eachother, tho we do have a closeness neither has found elsewhere.  I known him along time...his phone his addess, he had me over too. being that he has always been fair with me-  the   one time we did argue- he talked it out and   it was  a bad situation- he did not lie-    he  scored  alot of points  ---     I never knew  anyone  that  could radar me-lol-

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 1:28:05 PM   
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i am too selfish for a relationship...


Nah.  The key is in finding someone with a similar toleration as you for what they can give and maintain as far as a relationship.  They are different types of relationships, just as they are different types of people.  You know, what they say, different strokes.


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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 1:33:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		On Popeys comment-  I gather a number of men wont do oral on a female...ild guess the men that do- will get more offerrs for sex.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 1:37:48 PM   
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ld guess the men that do- will get more offerrs for sex.


They will probably find a more agreeable and pliable partner if they know the tricks to getting to her.  


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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 2:33:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, I will let people I reallllly like do oral on me, since I generally don't enjoy it.  Everyone has their own stuff, if we were all alike it would be way too easy!

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 2:53:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Knowing what you want, and then sharing that information with the people from whom you want it works well.  It's no guarantee, but nothing really is.

That bit of advice isn't limited to sex, either.

(edited to correct spelling, since i posted in the spelling thread.)


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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 3:05:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I personally like a Master who likes to take his time. I am lucky in that regard right now. My master takes hours to play and scene. Orgasm is not the goal. Not everytime. he says if thats all he wanted from the expperience, he could use his hand and then its done. There is something to be said for the process. I am betting many here would agree or you wouldnt be involved in the drama and theatrics of BDSM scening.

With that being said, I did want to make mention that many bisexual men or men on the downlow, either dont feel comfortable with their liking other men, or they see women as the ones they have feelings for and guys being just for the sexual acts. I have seen more than one profile by men that play with men but wont kiss them.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 4:31:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have never met a man who didn't enjoy an hour long massage.  Or object to having his neck nibbled, or nipples sucked, or small bites from shoulders to knees.  Kissing seems to be lost though, I notice that men don't spend as much time kissing as they did when I was younger.  This may be because I am older, or they are, or that kissing as a prelude to passion which has become passe` with easier conquests.
If all a man wanted from me was an open hole for a few minutes, I would be unlikely to want him in my life.
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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 5:39:21 PM   
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I have never met a man who didn't enjoy an hour long massage.  Or object to having his neck nibbled, or nipples sucked, or small bites from shoulders to knees.  Kissing seems to be lost though, I notice that men don't spend as much time kissing as they did when I was younger.  This may be because I am older, or they are, or that kissing as a prelude to passion which has become passe` with easier conquests.
If all a man wanted from me was an open hole for a few minutes, I would be unlikely to want him in my life.
Kyst


I would agree with this. The question is are you gonna settle for being a hole or hold out for something more? Thats what women do alot( not me, I have no self-control) that men perhaps wont do(this is a completely generalized statement , I know). Just masterbate while holding out for more.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 6:04:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Necking is not something that gets me going, though it does wonders for Master, he can spend hours just kissing, nibbling, licking, nuzzling and he loves having it done back to him..well you get the point. I am a pain puppy, firm touches not butterfly, massages not tickles (not that I am ticklish), nips not nibbles, struggles not pets, and please gods don't grab my hair, it's an old abuse issue that made me keep my hair 1 inch long for ages and still puts me in fight mode. I do love fingers in the scalp however, go figure.

So how do I get what I want? Compromise. What ever he wants, and that usually leads to what I need.

The main thing is it is a relationship, not just getting together for a nice night. We almost have a ritual about it, starting with supper and moving to close times on the couch, talking, noodling, long before we are heading into bed. sometimes the wires do get crossed and it end up being all about him as well somedays the libidos just don't match up.

I don't think you are going to get what you are seeking from anything casual. It takes someone careing about you for them to want to learn your body and responses. Look for a person who is as involved with you as you are with them and i think you will find what you are seeking.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 6:10:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		pahunk, not all guys are just into fuck-n-go; some enjoy sensuality a great deal.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 6:42:59 PM   
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pahunk, not all guys are just into fuck-n-go; some enjoy sensuality a great deal.
*makes a mental note*

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 6:46:24 PM   
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i am too selfish for a relationship...

--the man who posted he likes the neck thing- ok- i did not know if it was a female thing.
- the comment on the hickey;  not with the fling. he has always been fair with me.  we dont love eachother, tho we do have a closeness neither has found elsewhere.  I known him along time...his phone his addess, he had me over too. being that he has always been fair with me-  the   one time we did argue- he talked it out and   it was  a bad situation- he did not lie-    he  scored  alot of points  ---     I never knew  anyone  that  could radar me-lol-



Okay, so that's a relationship. Friendship, honesty, communication.

But being in a relationship doesn't have to mean living together. It can be dating regularly, but only spending the night on weekends, having the place to yourself during the week. My mother's last relationship was like this. They saw each other once or twice during the week for dinner then separated. But they spent Friday night through Sunday midday together, then separated to see friends/family Sunday night and get an early start to the week.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 6:51:55 PM   
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pahunk, not all guys are just into fuck-n-go; some enjoy sensuality a great deal.
*makes a mental note*


Copy cat.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 6:53:07 PM   
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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 8:41:55 PM   
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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ !
I've observed that having oodles of money often helps.


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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:08:39 PM   
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necking
nibbling
licking
hickey-giving
biting
scratching
stroking
teasing
coaxing
slapping

kinda guy...

I'm all for cuddles, snuggles, warm lingering intimate touches.



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