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How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 7:00:40 AM

pahunkboy

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Ok- the problem is I tried to verbalize this and thus far it hasnt worked.

I view sex as a whole body experience. I must be wired in the head as a female. Do men like the neck nibled-licked? ear attention? I want to know. Take the guy that-usually wants cut to the chase-sex- sex organs only sex. It is direct- and per haps that has run its course with me.

Suppose the neck attention is un-agreable to the partner.[often a bi or str8 male] Then why not a back rub? If the hands are too rugged- then the stress areas in my shoulders would be pleasurable.

What do you want in bed? Maybe I should try a top lady.

Just this week I met a brick layer- 42. He wanted anal fucked. Married- secret. He did not get it- since there was no condom. basically he craved a projectile in him. nothing else. no kiss- no neck attn- no back rub. This type of man can have sex standaing up and with shoes on.

My regular fling came by a few weeks back. I thought I moved to Chicago- thats why I did not see him for 3 years. When I very 1st met him we did the petting thing. Then when the truth came out- it stopped. He expected to be blown, well- and often. [which I enjoy] At times he feels it is one sided in his favor. Im not sure what wording I can use. SO Im picking your brain.

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How do you rate necking?

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 7:22:30 AM

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Well I love having my neck kissed, nibbled, (and have a love/hate relationship with outright biting.) Whole body attention is a must, even if my partner is being rough, still need it to a certain extent. Hope you have better luck in the future.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 7:54:47 AM

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You have to ask, right? I am guessing that everyone is different, and if you are hooking up with a married guy, he is as afraid of getting caught as doing anything! Which is why he deserves a really awesome chest hickey.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 8:01:28 AM

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quote:

Do men like the neck nibled-licked? ear attention? I want to know.

As a guy, yes. I'm not even really that thrilled about blowing my load, it's the foreplay that's infinitely more fun and stimulating to me(Cmon, admit it. Blowing your load sucks guys, it's 15 seconds of stimulation followed by 10 minutes of just wanting to goto bed). Now, your milage may vary as I'm autistic and have some odd sensory issues, but, sex really isn't that big of a deal for me. If I wanted just sex, I can get that relatively easy... but it's not what I'm after in the sack, oddly enough.

Besides, for that, there's always my hand, man.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 8:20:13 AM

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PaHunk, this might not help you out too much but I like the 69 position with the woman on top so I can look up at her pussy.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 8:21:33 AM

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It's interesting to read different perspectives on the subject. It's obvious that we all occupy our bodies differently. I understand pahunkboy's longing for a more holistic experience than simple organ to organ encounter.

There's something to be said for the fact that the human body is immensely sensual. Me, it takes a few strokes on the inside of my hands, or on the white of my arms, or nibbles on the neck, and hey presto! I melt. Skin is tactile, it's made for touch. We're walking sexual miracles. Sometimes, I think we forget quite how fantastically pleasurable sex can be besides orgasm (which is no small feat, don't get me wrong: I wish I could record mine, and play them again - they're works of art. Kay, 'nuff bragging here

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Yummy

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:03:44 AM

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Well, if this is an answer to your question...

when that time comes that you and someone else are letting on that you'd both like to get intimate, lean in close, and tell them, "I like it slow and all over my body...and yours, too."

Maybe they'll say, what do you mean?

You say, with your head tilting, "May I?" and assuming they don't move away, slowly open your mouth on a tender spot, on their neck, and show them a few seconds of what you mean. You're very likely to hear that sharp inhalation that means their blood is rising.

There are a lot of men who get very excited by stimulation other than strictly genital and anal. I think that often, what determines whether a person is into full body stimulation is not whether or not their body is wired for it - it probably is - but whether or not it suits them personally, in other ways.

I do think that a person's more likely to be impersonal and "get in, get off, get out," if the sex itself is impersonal. And they're more likely to get close and glory in the details if there's more intimacy and feeling there. But there are people who behave in the opposite way, too - who like seduction and a long session, even with casual sex, and those who just don't have a sense of sex lasting any longer than a few kisses and a few minutes of intercourse, even with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

You can certainly find men out there who're into the sort of scene you want. If a man's not already into it the way you like it, question is, would he discover he liked it, if he ever got a taste of it that way? That is a question only experience may answer :)

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:05:27 AM

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There comes a point where just plain sex is as satisfying as a McDonalds cheeseburger in the car, okay if you're starving but not nearly as good as a proper meal. Sometimes you just are no longer interested in casual sex and need a relationship.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:09:23 AM

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wants a woman... top...bottom...sideways....diagonal.....makes no difference...

i want a woman...HEAR ME ROAR and hope she doesnt SNORE!

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:20:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

PaHunk, this might not help you out too much but I like the 69 position with the woman on top so I can look up at her pussy.

--Because theres nothing more fun then learning what your getting on face value.--

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:24:14 AM

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to the OP:

Take it.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:29:17 AM

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Personally, I get very little out of sex straight up no playtime first. I might get off on it, I might not.
Fox and I both prefer long kissy nibbly periods before anything happens. For us, sex can start on the couch an hour before we actually make it anything remotely SEX based. Kissing, touching, nibbling, biting (all fully clothed for a god while, then slowly losing clothes) and eventually, most of the time, actual sex. Without foreplay, its just scratching an itch.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 9:57:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasDom

quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

PaHunk, this might not help you out too much but I like the 69 position with the woman on top so I can look up at her pussy.

--Because theres nothing more fun then learning what your getting on face value.--

Exactly! And I like it wet and nasty!
Kitten, we should get together sometime!
I do that inside the arm thang too!

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 10:05:01 AM

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as a quick answer - I'd say dont go anywhere near the damned bed; reserve that for the final act.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 10:08:36 AM

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There's no recipe for what you want. In my experience, what you seek is the magic that happens when true feelings are involved. They're necessary ingredients for the general chemistry fang.

< Message edited by kittinSol -- 2/27/2008 10:09:00 AM >

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 10:35:14 AM

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quote:

the magic that happens when true feelings are involved

im convinced your advertising for e harmony here.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 10:44:04 AM

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Oh come on, we can't always be cynical about everything. I'm talking from my experience; it's quite obvious we all have different ones :-) .

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 10:45:08 AM

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well you could experience my magic...best of both worlds ya know...

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 11:53:54 AM

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My best partner is my hand.

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RE: How can I get what I want in bed ~ ! - 2/27/2008 12:02:31 PM

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quote:

to the OP:
Take it.

Wait. I thought the OP was the giver (of the projectile).

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