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Hauptmann -> The dark place (2/19/2008 3:44:31 PM)

I just pushed my little one very far. further than I thought she would go,

she is now asleep.

I hurt her a lot when she was awake.

the question is, is she doing it all cos she loves me? or because she really really likes it? she just wanted a cuddle?



angelikaJ -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:47:06 PM)

if she is your little one I am puzzled as to why you would not know.



CalifChick -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:47:06 PM)

Are these rhetorical questions? Do you really think anyone other than your girl can answer them?

Cali



MistressVnus -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:47:47 PM)

I think she is the only one that can answer that question.  When she wakes up, why don't you ask "her."

Or, did you just want to hear yourself tell us how far you pushed her?



camille65 -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:48:40 PM)

It could be any manner of reasons or any combination. I don't mean to blow you off but it is impossible to say why she does it because I'm not in her head. For me though, some of it is because I genuinely like it.Sometimes because I know it pleases him.Sometimes I don't know what's going to happen til it does. Mix/match any of those and it could be her reasons.



beargonewild -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:48:57 PM)

I wonder if you should ask her when she isn't asleep? I mean, I could postulate why she could do or think but that's all conjecture on my part. I believe you know your little one well enough that if you ask her directly, she will tell you exactly what her feelings are and you'll know that she is speaking truth.



LotusSong -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:49:32 PM)

If you were a master, you would know before you even started.



Paulsgirl -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:52:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

If you were a master, you would know before you even started.

[sm=applause.gif]



Hauptmann -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:53:34 PM)

with each thing you post, your post count increases.

you having a go at me?



chamberqueen -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:53:51 PM)

What you didn't say was if she enjoyed being hurt or whether by pushing her farther than you thought she would go that it was too much for her.

She could love (or like, or admire) you, OR she could truly enjoy being a submissive and craved what you did for and to her.  I am sure it was for more than the cuddle or she could have gone out on a vanilla date.  However, if you prasied her well and made her feel that she truly belonged then that could easily have meant as much to her as the rest.  That's why proper aftercare is so important - it literally can make the difference between a wonderful or a terrible session.



Hauptmann -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 3:57:20 PM)

chamber ... thank you. I understand a little better now. 



laurell3 -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 4:07:26 PM)

Ask her. 



celticlord2112 -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 4:10:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

If you were a master, you would know before you even started.


Not necessarily.  No master is all-knowing.

However, asking these questions here will not give him the answers he needs




CalifChick -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 4:23:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Hauptmann

with each thing you post, your post count increases.

you having a go at me?


I am aware of existing-number-of-posts + each-new-post = increase-in-post-count-by-one. 

Having a go at you? Seriously... how would strangers on the internet have ANY idea why your girl does what she does? Particularly with barely any information on what happened other than taking her so far, so as several of us have said, ask HER.

Cali



crouchingtigress -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 4:26:55 PM)

quote:

is she doing it all cos she loves me?


she loves you because you hurt her.



angelikaJ -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 5:45:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: celticlord2112


Not necessarily.  No master is all-knowing.

However, asking these questions here will not give him the answers he needs




You are right of course...but when you push your submissive do you have an idea of what drives her?

I would not be with someone who didn't...it would not feel safe for me.

Of course we know very VERY little of their dynamic: does she have a safe word, how long have they been together, how much experience do either of them have...?...there is so little information here.



Noah -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 6:19:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

If you were a master, you would know before you even started.


Baloney.

Unless, or course, you mean a TWUE master.



LadyHathor -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 6:54:06 PM)

If you are asking, huge disconnect.



BitaTruble -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 7:13:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Hauptmann

I just pushed my little one very far. further than I thought she would go,

she is now asleep.

I hurt her a lot when she was awake.

the question is, is she doing it all cos she loves me? or because she really really likes it? she just wanted a cuddle?



I do agree with most of the rest of the posts and that you should ask her .. but something which hasn't been mentioned, which I do believe is important, is that she may not be able to answer you. If I had been asked 25 years ago, I would have either burst out into tears or, more likely, been unable to answer as to what motivated me. I just wasn't that self-aware yet, so, you know, just something to think about as you continue your communication with her.

Celeste



SimplyMichael -> RE: The dark place (2/19/2008 7:31:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Noah

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

If you were a master, you would know before you even started.


Baloney.

Unless, or course, you mean a TWUE master.



Noah,

Some days you and I are 180 degrees apart, today isn't one of those days.

I am reasonably competent as a dominant and some days I am not sure why I do or she wants a certain thing.  I question whether this or that is healthy.  It is the ones who never have any doubts that terrify me, or the ones who think "real" masters are perfect.  Haven't met a perfect one yet.



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