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ORIGINAL: BlackPhx

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

If you were a master, you would know before you even started.

Sometimes I dance for me, and then is when I devour the pain like a starving woman at an all you can eat bar.
Sometimes I dance for Him and then is when I accept the pain as the thirsty earth drinks the rain.
Sometimes I dance for Us, and the music is heavy, tortured and perfect.
Master will never know which dance I do, without asking. I will never know which he does without asking. We only know that we dance. We cannot read minds.

poenkitten

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ORIGINAL: WingedSnake

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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

If you were a master, you would know before you even started.

Not necessarily. No master is all-knowing.

However, asking these questions here will not give him the answers he needs

That is most certainly wrong. In asking here this question and considering the answers, he can tap into his knowledge about her. That is the way i read his question anyway, as a question he suddenly asked himself, did i gone too far, did she really wanted it, will our relationship be the same when she awakes, doubts and self questioning are the abilities of somebody who is mastering, his/herself and others.

Ruth

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ORIGINAL: Hauptmann

I just pushed my little one very far. further than I thought she would go,

she is now asleep.

I hurt her a lot when she was awake.

the question is, is she doing it all cos she loves me? or because she really really likes it? she just wanted a cuddle?

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Yes, I agree with all of the others that say you should ask her.  Make no mistake that is My first comment to you.

Still, the question for the sake of discussion is a good one.  The answers do vary, of course, from sub to sub.  In My boy's case, I am of the very strong opinion that he does love Me because I hurt him.  That has helped to strengthen our bond.  The intensity of wiitwd is amazing.  That being said, he also loves Me because I am also the one who takes the pain away.  (Check for the onion factor there, because that statement has a lot of layers.)

For emphasis, I'd like to throw this comment in.  My boy and I were playing a couple of months or so back.  It was a harsh scene, even for a maso, and My sub certainly fits the definition.  I had been flogging him, caning him, pulled out the quirt, (you get the idea) and then I decided that on top of that, it was time to do a little torture time with clothespins.  I'd applied quite a number to his cock and balls.  The boy looked like a porcupine.  Then I placed one in just the right spot, and it seemed it would be the straw to break the camel's back.  His breathing started coming in a short panting rythym.  Under great strain, he said, "I can't do it.  I can't do it, m'Lady."  I put My had to his cheek and whispered, "Do it for Me, lil one."  His breathing calmed and his body relaxed.  The point of this being, because he was doing it for Me, he knew he could push himself, that I could push him, farther than he thought he could go.

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ORIGINAL: DisenchantedLife

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ORIGINAL: Hauptmann

I just pushed my little one very far. further than I thought she would go,

she is now asleep.

I hurt her a lot when she was awake.

the question is, is she doing it all cos she loves me? or because she really really likes it? she just wanted a cuddle?

you were feeling guilty when you wrote this.  Maybe you should question your motivation before you question hers.  Wondering why on earth she would come with you to the dark place?  What could she get out of meeting you there?  What was she like when she was there?  In tears?  Thankful?  Happy?  Fighting you every step of the way?  If you want to know why she is there - I'd say look at her reaction while she is there.  Analyze that. 

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ORIGINAL: luckybss

as a sub that takes my share and a little more... this spoke volumes about me, and made my breathing alter. delicious and delightful LadyPact, thank you for sharing.