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ItalianSMistress -> RE: Emotional involvement and type of relationship. (1/30/2008 10:41:01 AM)
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I tried to look at your profile, to get more of an idea of what you are asking for there, but it was blank. If you look at Mine, I think we may be around the same idea. I state, quite clearly, that I don’t want a boyfriend/girlfriend, just a slave. I think it is very true that these type are harder to come by, in the meantime, I get flooded with messages from the ones that want to be live in, (even tho I clearly state that is NEVER an option). I have never been a loving type of Domme, right off the bat, this was My style. Its not something I choose, its just who I am. I had one slave, for over four years, and he told Me at the beginning, he did not know how long he could last with someone cold like Me, as it was months before I showed him any kind of affection. I do show affection, but in My own way, which is much different than most. I have had many slaves that after a few sessions, decide they can not handle the way I am, even tho it is sad to see them go, I can not force something that does not come naturally.
In My time, there was one slave I did become rather close to. I had her just over five years, first, and at the beginning, I told her what I wanted, and she seemed to want the same thing. About three years into the relationship, she started to change. She wanted to move closer to Me, and even said she never thought she would ever want to live with someone again, but yet felt she wanted that with Me. My opinion on a relationship like that never changed. However, I did fight to allow Myself to show her more affection and such during the last year, although it was still very very hard for Me, I was able to do it. As things went on, she became more and more dissatisfied with the arrangement. I told her that was what she signed up for, (and she also knew she signed up for a Domme that does not bend or change her rules for anyone), and I will never forget what she said to Me.
“I know that, but I thought after five years, one day you would look into My eyes and change your mind.”
She was wrong. It did not work out for much longer after that. As My friend Shawn said, “people are not robots”. I know that, but it does not change what I want, or who I am.
So, that being said, if you settle for something you do not want, it will not work out. And, quite frankly, you should not settle for anything less than what you want. It is out there, it is just hard to find. Like I have said in past posts, you have to have so many common interests for this to work, even more than in a “vanilla” relationship. If you get into something that is not for you, someone is going to get hurt, and that, never turns out good.
This, again, of course, is My opinon, based on My experiences. [;)]
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