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ORIGINAL: Justme696

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

One person's sub is another's slave. You can be a slave in one relationship yet a sub in another. You can start in a relationship as a bottom, move to sub after trust and sufficient commonalities are found. You could move to slave if you feel that more appropriate with that certain someone.

Or you could be a slave in one relationship and a dominant in another. There is no hard and fast rules that apply to the human heart.

I totally agree, i just understood first that her Dom decided what she was.

In a sense, I did. The fact that she wants me to decide these things, and all others in life (UMs and some other exceptions aside) is what, to me, makes her a slave. I lead through persuasion, mostly and wish to build common understanding on these matters.

She knows very well that she does not have to let me decide these things. But she wants me to, or perhaps I should say needs me to. Life is so much better when my grip on her is firm and loving and much worse, if it weakens.

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

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ORIGINAL: tulitukka

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

One person's sub is another's slave. You can be a slave in one relationship yet a sub in another. You can start in a relationship as a bottom, move to sub after trust and sufficient commonalities are found. You could move to slave if you feel that more appropriate with that certain someone.

Or you could be a slave in one relationship and a dominant in another. There is no hard and fast rules that apply to the human heart.

I totally agree, i just understood first that her Dom decided what she was.

In a sense, I did. The fact that she wants me to decide these things, and all others in life (UMs and some other exceptions aside) is what, to me, makes her a slave. I lead through persuasion, mostly and wish to build common understanding on these matters.

She knows very well that she does not have to let me decide these things. But she wants me to, or perhaps I should say needs me to. Life is so much better when my grip on her is firm and loving and much worse, if it weakens.

Hello

thank you for explaining this from your side too. That takes a lott of questions away from me

D.

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Now that i've been back on this site more than not lately, i have noticed something in profiles that i am curious about. What i've noticed was that "they" (keeping it somewhat generic) are looking for "sub/slaves". Is it the idea of just not being specific in what you seek, is there no longer a difference in the two, or well... what is it?

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

One person's sub is another's slave. You can be a slave in one relationship yet a sub in another. You can start in a relationship as a bottom, move to sub after trust and sufficient commonalities are found. You could move to slave if you feel that more appropriate with that certain someone.

Or you could be a slave in one relationship and a dominant in another. There is no hard and fast rules that apply to the human heart.

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Hello

thank you for explaining this from your side too. That takes a lott of questions away from me

D.

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ORIGINAL: SilentTigresss

Now that i've been back on this site more than not lately, i have noticed something in profiles that i am curious about. What i've noticed was that "they" (keeping it somewhat generic) are looking for "sub/slaves". Is it the idea of just not being specific in what you seek, is there no longer a difference in the two, or well... what is it?

SilentTigresss Hello... I personally identify as a slave. I know what that means to me personally, and have discovered that some ladies who identify as submissives have alot of the same philosophies as I do...So whats the difference? I imagine its what your heart tells you you are