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SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 11:00:58 AM   
HAPPYvoyeur


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Status: offline 		I'm a voyeur and order my sub to wear sexy, slutty revealing outfits to please me. I also take her to bars, clubs, parties and order her to flirt outrageously and encourage men (one after the other) to fondle her (and more) while I sit back and get  incredible please from watching her. I like to invite a bunch of strangers to come home and gangbang her while I watch and take pics and viss for our collection or to post on our website (totally noncommercial).

I guess I enjoy her submission to demean and humiliate herself for my pleasure.

Is this kind of behavior common in D/s or am I just a sex addled freak?
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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 11:03:14 AM   
takenbyjohnr07


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Status: offline 		It's not common in my relationship. Thank God, but if You both enjoy have fun no matter what anyelse does.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 11:07:46 AM   
sexyone4you


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Status: offline 		I'm curious about how many people actually go for this!

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 11:23:55 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Eh... we don't but I think the fantasy is nice. While we wouldn't make it into a reality, I wouldn't call the behavior described in the OP as uncommon. But I could be wrong.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 11:45:22 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I consider it a better risk to just go to clubs where gangbangs are encouraged and do it there where things can be more controlled and less driving involved.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 12:00:12 PM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HAPPYvoyeur

I'm a voyeur and order my sub to wear sexy, slutty revealing outfits to please me. I also take her to bars, clubs, parties and order her to flirt outrageously and encourage men (one after the other) to fondle her (and more) while I sit back and get  incredible please from watching her. I like to invite a bunch of strangers to come home and gangbang her while I watch and take pics and viss for our collection or to post on our website (totally noncommercial).

I guess I enjoy her submission to demean and humiliate herself for my pleasure.

Is this kind of behavior common in D/s or am I just a sex addled freak?



We have talked about doing this.  I find the idea exhilarating.  He has not had me do it to a great extent though, but I have a feeling it is in my future.  So if you're a sex freak, well he is too, but there's certainly nothing wrong with that!!  Enjoy!

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 12:22:18 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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< Message edited by sambamanslilgirl -- 12/16/2007 12:23:06 PM >

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 12:24:34 PM   
flower2007


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Status: offline 		Totally not my thing, but I wouldn't think it's all tha rare.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 1:00:50 PM   
ghitaPVH


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Status: offline 		well...other than the inviting guys home for the gangbang it sounds like a typical friday night around here. sometimes we invite a couple over, but never a group of guys. shrugs. not that adventurous.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 1:05:59 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		Well, first, I must take your word that there is an aspect of humiliation or demeaning in your play since the activities you describe aren't inherently so.  (Not casting doubt on you, at all, just a statement in general... people often seem to think that that arrangement just would be demeaning or humiliating when it often isn't at all.)

Next, I have to say that this is semi-common in D/s and vanilla relationships, both, from what I've seen of people.

< Message edited by RumpusParable -- 12/16/2007 1:08:22 PM >

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 1:18:58 PM   
BondageSlaveMN


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

Well, first, I must take your word that there is an aspect of humiliation or demeaning in your play since the activities you describe aren't inherently so.  (Not casting doubt on you, at all, just a statement in general... people often seem to think that that arrangement just would be demeaning or humiliating when it often isn't at all.)

Next, I have to say that this is semi-common in D/s and vanilla relationships, both, from what I've seen of people.


In the context of mainstream American society, that scene most certainly is humiliating and demeaning. It portrays the rampant and ultimate objectification of the woman especially considering that the men most likely see it this way as well. Nonetheless, you are correct that the scene itself is not inherently humiliating or demeaning. Think of the ritual of Hieros Gamos. People in robes and masks encircle a man having sex with a woman. This would be seen as humiliating of demeaning in modern America, but in it's day, the woman was considered the key to spirituality and the only vessel through which communion with the gods could be achieved.

I think it is important to always consider the context of the act being perpetrated. People often say "who cares what they think," but the unfortunate fact of the matter is that what other people think can have a very profound impact on your opportunities. Read the thread on being outted. One poster explains that we was pretty much dismissed from his job because his boss discovered he lived the BDSM lifestyle.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 1:25:13 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		As long as its consensual and you take care that she doesnt get hurt in a bad way (or killed)or get some STD from it, then go for it. Its not what I would want to do with my sub but whatever floats yours and her boat.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 1:33:16 PM   
BondageSlaveMN


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

As long as its consensual and you take care that she doesnt get hurt in a bad way (or killed)or get some STD from it, then go for it. Its not what I would want to do with my sub but whatever floats yours and her boat.

~Lashra



Sorry in advance for this completely OT post. Lashra, I love your sig. It makes me sad and happy at the same time.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 1:50:40 PM   
Griswold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: HAPPYvoyeur

I'm a voyeur and order my sub to wear sexy, slutty revealing outfits to please me. I also take her to bars, clubs, parties and order her to flirt outrageously and encourage men (one after the other) to fondle her (and more) while I sit back and get  incredible please from watching her. I like to invite a bunch of strangers to come home and gangbang her while I watch and take pics and viss for our collection or to post on our website (totally noncommercial).

I guess I enjoy her submission to demean and humiliate herself for my pleasure.

Is this kind of behavior common in D/s or am I just a sex addled freak?



My only question is....does she have a sister?

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 3:06:37 PM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		I know of others that feel this is hot even I in fantasy feel it is hot but it will remain fantasy the risks of contracting STDs is not worth it to me, nevermind the fact that alcohol is involved and some people kind of get bit over reactive or abusive  once drinking

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 3:10:35 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		Sharing might be more common. Sharing with unknown, untested strangers picked up and brought to one's home is hopefully rare.  But as others have said if that's your thing good luck with it.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 3:16:33 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		He talked of them fondling her.  I don't know what "and more" means, and I see people assuming this means having sex.  Perhaps the OP can return to clarify.  I don't think an STD can be transmitted from fondling a breast or ass...OP??

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 3:18:05 PM   
sammiebabygirl


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Status: offline 		Now, why can't I find a Dom like the OP?
 
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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 3:19:48 PM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

He talked of them fondling her.  I don't know what "and more" means, and I see people assuming this means having sex.  Perhaps the OP can return to clarify.  I don't think an STD can be transmitted from fondling a breast or ass...OP??


I'm not sure taking home people from the bars would be something I would do either though...then again, as I pointed out, I'm not him.

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RE: SUB TO BE MY SLUT - COMMON OR RARE? - 12/16/2007 3:20:51 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: HAPPYvoyeur
Is this kind of behavior common in D/s or am I just a sex addled freak?


You're a FREAK!
 
(welcome to the club...)

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