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RE: Frustrated - 12/9/2007 11:03:00 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		saying this:  It’s also very hard to take someone seriously especially when they’re insulting and one who associates closely to a symbol of burden or synonymously a parasite.

and this: I’ll even spell it out for you since you appear to be so thick headed and closed minded you won’t get it any other way

in the same post is just ironic beyond belief.

This is a forum.  People have their opinions on forums and state them.  When they don't agree with yours, insulting, whining and throwing tantrums generally doesn't change their mind, it just makes them think you are a fool.


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RE: Frustrated - 12/9/2007 11:06:22 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		greetings neoanimaru and ladyeden,

or, perhaps some of the people you are emailing are like me. quite frankly, i'm not rude, i'm not an asshole, and i don't mind responding to polite messages that aren't one-liners...but i am just tired. a lot of the time the reason that i don't end up responding is that i don't have the energy at the moment, and then i forget. it's not intentional on my part; i'm just an absentminded, exhausted person most of the time, and i do like to put energy and thought into my responses to people. it would not hurt to give some of us the benefit of the doubt; "ignoring" messages is not always intentional.

respectfully,
annabelle.


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RE: Frustrated - 12/9/2007 11:20:48 PM   
neoanimaru


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Status: offline 		You seem to have forgotten I put an "and" in there. My handle is not synonymous to burden or a parasite. Furthermore my animosity (which is appropriate considering my handle) was in response to, not the cause of. If thinking I am only whining helps you sleep at night though. Be my guest.

That is good insight hisannabelle. It just seems they happen quite a lot.

< Message edited by neoanimaru -- 12/9/2007 11:21:53 PM >

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RE: Frustrated - 12/9/2007 11:28:11 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: neoanimaru
My handle is not synonymous to burden or a parasite.

As has been said "was a ship's good luck until some idiot went and shot it." 

The fact that you don't see the subtle irony and wit encased in the screen name only speaks to your lack of breadth, not my lack of taste.
quote:


Furthermore my animosity (which is appropriate considering my handle) was in response to, not the cause of.

ie "She started it"?

Which is funny because all I did was give my canned factual statement that it's not rude (remember?)- somehow you interpreted that as animosity to which you then began being so towards in response?

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 12:07:28 AM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		Man-to-man, Neo?  Know why you're not getting any action?  You're behaving like a jackass, and if I can see it you better believe women can see it too.

I've been on CM and Alt since May, and met several people in real.  Meeting another this weekend -- ClubFem Christmas Party in Houston, my Domme/date is on their Board of Directors.  I've met an attorney who was president of a legal association, a self-made millionaire, women who were so pretty they could "get any man they wanted," etc.  There are some high-quality kinky people in this online world, and they are genuinely looking.

I am not the first guy posting on this thread who does not have your problem.  And yes, it is YOUR problem.  I don't seem to have it, and neither do several other men I've spoken with.  *You* are the common element in this situation, not the asshole Doms and subs.

Eat some humble pie and grow up.

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 12:08:28 AM   
neoanimaru


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Status: offline 		You took my neutral response (I even apologized in advance incase I was wrong that is was your canned response) to your fallacy of a canned response (that was put in a thread without regard to what had actually been said) in a negative light and you replied to me in the way you did because of it and expect me to not react in kind? I could assume your not knowing what my handle means much less the language it is in could show your lack of culture which also happens to be construed as a persons knowledge on formalities and use that to say you've no idea what you're talking about when it comes to ideas concerning being polite. What you think is subtle wit and taste stands out as a testament to what you appear to be; a burden that would be lucky to have someone pick it up. Or perhaps that possibility is blinded to you because you are a lucky enough burden to have been picked up and as such won’t dwell on it? Your handle says many things without subtlety and none of them witty. It’s what you like and that is fine; however don’t attribute anything other than your desire for it on how others read it. How they read it is a reflection of how you are perceived, not others “lack of breadth”. However, your lack of breadth would say you wouldn’t even understand what I’ve just said. I will point out your continuing to hold it to be factual is rather uncouth and much like a child saying “nuh uh!”

If it needs to be said, then I’ll say I apologize for apparently upsetting you so much by disagreeing with you in the way I did. It was not meant that way. Now, if you still feel the need to continue this how about we take our attacks to private messages? This is starting to get very off-topic.

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 12:29:05 AM   
neoanimaru


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Status: offline 		Thanks for that assumption. This however isn't about getting action. I've been looking for a relationship. I have met two people (r/t) in two months through alt and only sent out six messages. I think you can see the implications of that math. Also, while we got along neither were matches. I can only assume if you've had such luck you wouldn't apparently be alone. I'll also point out you're situation is much different than mine simply from age difference. Lastly, your one sided comments also don't inspire me to take any heed in what you say. Perhaps you should think of such things in your attempt to "relate".

< Message edited by neoanimaru -- 12/10/2007 12:31:57 AM >

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 12:33:38 AM   
PlayfulGoddess


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Status: offline 		I started off the "polite route" as well... Some what FRUSTRATED myself at times tho as well!
 
 
I have a fairly detailed profile, provided PICS (even tho I'm married) and what I have requested from someone contacting me is:
 
1) that they provide ME with their pic (I can understand they might feel the need for discretion--for whatever reasons, and having NOT put their pic up on their profile but NOW they're wanting me to respond and "accept something" about them that they've presented to me) {generally it is their desire to submit to me / have me Domme them (sexually) and for me to play with a playmate in that manner I NEED TO FEEL SOME PHYSICAL ATTRACTION!!! And yet some start off with the scenario of what they're going to do to me / what they want FROM me, etc--all this withOUT them having given me the same courtesy of determining MY attraction (or not) to them}
 
2) FREQUENTLY, someone writes to me who is WAY ACROSS THE FRIKKEN PLANET when I clearly state that I'm looking for real time play. (and NO you cam'g for me is NOT what I'm generally looking for, thanks for the offer)
 
3) Same thing when someone looking for 24/7 contacts me saying they can RELOCATE. I AM MARRIED--MY HUSBAND DOES NOT PLAY. For me this is a "PART-TIME" play adventure.
 
4) People sending me an email that goes something like this "I want to serve you" or "I will do anything you want" (My question is what do you want to do for/with me? I can't really tell anything you're interested in because you basically have a BLANK PROFILE)
 
 
I have had spiteful emails back from people that I have politely "blown-off" so to speak; only to have them send me a barrage of snarly emails. "HEY YOU FAT UGLY BITCH" (well I might be a little more "padded" than I still want, but calling me ugly isn't very nice, neither is BITCH--as I am RARELY ever a bitch)
 
 
I have gotten as many as 200 emails a day, so here are the ones I GENERALLY bother to respond to...
 
Ones with pics attached, ones from people who have bothered to read my profile, and it does INDEED appear (at least at first glance) that there could be some kind of "match" (at least on "paper"),
 
and PEOPLE WHO ARE JUST BEING COURTEOUS AND SENDING ME A POLITE COMPLIMENT ON MY PROFILE, OR SOMETHING I'VE WRITTEN, etc.
 
 
"MASS MAILINGS", "wanking fodder", and "i want u 2 serv u" just usually get relagated to the trash can--generally withOUT a response from me.
 
 
I hope I haven't frustrated anyone that I might actually have a wonderful time getting to know better with my "policy"!
 
I hope you have a great day!

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 12:36:39 AM   
JulieorSarah


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Status: offline 		Going back to the original question.
I'm seeking a monogomous LTR hetrosexual relationship with a male 40s/50s in a small area of NSW, a state in Australia. I'm not willing to relocate.
I'm approached by bi males, females, bi females, couples, many from 18-39 years, offering a three or more way arrangement for their next trip to my locale, they can come from anywhere in Australia, UK, USA and one from Germany! a few have offered to relocate here or me there.

I still reply to all, unless i find them offensive in some way. or are not 'actively reading'. Many that I respond to - have not read my profile and have not read my response.  So I have not choice but to block them.

When someone doesn't respond to me - I just ACCEPT they are not interested.  Many don't come on here that often so every now and then I recieve a surprise response!

The original person, - don't get wound up over the non-responses.  You are marketing yourself - in a way - and you are either marketing to the wrong market/audience or are conveying the wrong message, or the right message in the wrong way.

There's my 2c worth.

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 12:47:12 AM   
neoanimaru


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Status: offline 		I may not be the OP, but these last two responces have been especially informative. Thank you both for them.

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 12:50:10 AM   
LadySeraphina


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From: Calgary, Canada
Status: offline 		Here, here, RedMagic. If someone as clearly well spoken as yourself messages me, even if they are not a match, I always reply politely. Hell, I've struck up conversations with male Doms on here, when their messages to me don't include trying to convince me to switch.

As for LuckyAlbatross, I always liked your name. Frankly, the albatross is an amazing bird, and I am always impressed to think how long they can soar without flapping their wings. Not that you need confirmation, but your handle is great, and most of us appreciate the irony.

Lady Seraphina

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 2:52:09 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		It's just not an issue on here, It's all dating websites in general.   The less than 20% is about the norm...

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 5:32:12 AM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: neoanimaru

I completely agree that with your profile there is little reason to reply to anyone save a person you already know. I assume it is rude behavior because I assume the person is actually looking, has received a well written message that shows knowledge of their profile, and has actually read that message. Otherwise yes, I agree a person is completely justified in not replying or even a degrading response for wasting their time.


before i put up the picture i have now, i was getting 5-6 emails a day from assorted dominants.  and that was AFTER i had put on my profile that i was already owned, and no longer looking, that i was only considering email friends.

i was not given any leeway that i stated i was taken, or that i was no longer looking.  in fact, i got at least one "drop that loser and you wont be sorry!" email a day.  that got old, fast.

oh yes and the "give me your IM and hook up your cam, and be ready to submit!"  uh-huh.  oh yeah, my knickers are slidin off right now i'm so excited!  NOT.

any polite email, i'm going to respond politely to, even if its "thank you for your interest, but i've been chosen by a dominant and am no longer looking.  i hope you find what you are seeking."  and then, again, there's the chance the dominant goes cujo on me for daring to be polite.

sometimes, yes, it is a lot easier to delete.

kitten, Daddy's girl

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 5:54:23 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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Status: offline 		The truth is, people will reply if and when they feel like it. That's life sadly. The only real question is why they -don't reply-, problem is there are a million reasons why not.

I'd try a different approach-let them contact you, I know you want to be proactive and want results so you think making contact with them is the best thing to do, because it gives them a reason to talk to you, but that hasn't worked. So....try posting on the boards-let people see you have opinions and thoughts that you want to express/share/what ever, and write in your journal as often as you can, that way, people will see you and be able to get to know you through what you write, then, in time -some- not all may get in touch.

Happy hunting.

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RE: Frustrated - 12/10/2007 6:17:06 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

any polite email, i'm going to respond politely to, even if its "thank you for your interest, but i've been chosen by a dominant and am no longer looking.  i hope you find what you are seeking."  and then, again, there's the chance the dominant goes cujo on me for daring to be polite.

sometimes, yes, it is a lot easier to delete.


When I get a canned email from a dom (which is the usual variety I get, and when I go and see who has looked at me, these sorts never show on that list), I cut and paste the portion of my profile that states they should contact my Daddy if they have anything to say to me... Some have actually emailed him

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