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NightWindWhisper -> RE: Frustrated (12/9/2007 2:58:45 PM)
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Occasionaly a new'ish member sends out emails to someone who looks like a good fit--except that the person has not logged in for a month--or even a year. I don't think that's the case with you though.
I rarely do not receive a reply, and only very rarely have had an offensive piece of mail. It could be that I tend to read the person's profile carefully, more in an attempt to weed out those who clearly would not be a decent match. Also I'm quite happy to "just friends," and say so.
Yet if you research the physchology of the internet it is clear that many people do behave in opposition to how they would in the real world. Anonymity offers immunity to criticism--and rebuttal. There is a small but vocal subset that are abusive to women--bullies, just like there are in the real world. Delete and block and don't give them the time of day--and if they come back with other names--complain to a moderator. And if a person or couple you are writing to is overtly desirable to a large group, they can receive an overwhelming pile of email, and sometimes hostile mail from females (or males pretending to be females--who did not get a resopnse to a query). I tend to avoid new members for this reason. Often a month or two later--after they've learned how things work, a polite, well writtten note will be responded to.
As the good advice earlier mentioned--a well crafted, "I've read your profile," note is much more apt to be replied to. People vary as to the response to grammatical errors or general literary sloppiness--but there is a subset that will judge you as being out of their intellectual range--and there are others who don't mind i's instead of I and u2 and un-spell-checked notes, and it may be that one subset is for you and the other is not. At any rate your profile is well crafted--and that's what I'd pay attention. Do you write your notes as well crafted as your profile? This may not be a priority for either of you, but it may cost responses.
Are you writing to submissives who indicate a willingness to serve a couple, and a willingness to relocate? Certainly there are here that would respond to that, but there are many that do not care to be a "beta" submissive, and/or won't or cannot relocate--and a lack of indication that they are open to those terms may well get you nothing in return. Though I am often one to recommend collarme over alt, alt may be a better place for your needs--though it would be best to become a gold member with "ordinary members" can respond. That costs about $20@month on a year basis. You will simply have a larger exposure there.
Persevere--I'd think, in time, you'll find what you seek.
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