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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 12:37:54 PM

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I found that when I was really angry and frustrated, any type of physical labor would help. I used to "weed whack" when I lived on 25 acres... if I was really out of sorts, I'd do the fields instead of hedging the lawn. I also purchased a scythe at a garage sale and manually sheared the "field". Now that I live in town, I no longer have that outlet, but then again, no longer living with an alcoholic, I have a lot less stress and less to be angry over.

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 12:38:04 PM

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I've always been fascinated with pulling things apart and putting them back together. And I've been itching to learn how to work on cars so I can do most of my own basic maintenance

All i can tell you is, restoring old cars is just about the last thing i'd recommend for reducing frustration and anger.

Sounds like a heavy bag is the way to go. Don't forget that you can kick it when your arms get tired.

If you've got a project to justify it, i found digging and hauling dirt or sand to be a good way to burn off angry energy, with the benefit that you can see a positive outcome when you're done.

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 1:04:59 PM

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Thank you everyone for the continued advice. I know for certain that I'll be putting a good chunk of it to use.

One reply suggested Karate, while another mentioned martial arts. I admit I'm quite curious to explore that route. I find that watching it gives me a thrill.

I'm not sure if I'm as coordinated as I need to be... but perhaps that can be taught or coaxed from me in class. I'm also a bit on the short side, so I wonder if there's an art form out there that may be better for those with a lower center of gravity. Any help with this matter would be very much appreciated.

Dari, I believe the fires were northwest of where I'm from. I'm farther down in the valley. (SanFran.)

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 1:09:39 PM

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I'm afraid there isn't much to weed whack around here. Our yard is pretty small and I think the grass died off years ago. But thank you very much for the suggestion.

petdave, I see your point about restoring cars. However, in that case, I think it would be more about giving my mind something else to wrap around... or even get angry about.

I'd know that at some point down the line that's a problem I can fix... either by getting the right parts... or beating the snot out if with a wrench.

I think having a problem that I can solve might give me a few good moments when I stop thinking about the one I can't fix.

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 1:13:58 PM

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Yes i would also like to know

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 1:19:12 PM

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Any interest in tennis? The combination of running and smashing the ball might offer an outlet.

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 1:21:04 PM

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Hmm... I can certainly see the merit in that. There was a guy I knew in high school that continued to play after he'd left. However, I haven't spoken to him in a few years. I'll have to see if he's still local and playing.

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 2:01:45 PM

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i find that music works for me, depending on my mood. Music comes in all different forms
and i'm sure one can find a pattern of sound that can bring relaxation to them..

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 2:27:26 PM

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I wish I could be of help, but when I get that upset/worked up, I take it out on myself.

It's not something I would recommend

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 2:57:05 PM

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Hang an old tire from a tree branch or rafter with a rope, then whale on it with a baseball bat or length or rattan.

One of the best martial arts "punching bags" I've ever used was a dummy made of three or four tires. Two in a "figure 8" sort of configuration formed the bodt, and a smaller tire bolted to the top was the head, and long folded over strips of tread formed legs and arms. It's got mass to it, and give, and it can be a moving target (tether the bottom if you want less movement).

But a single tire hung from a rope works very well also. The rubber of the tires gives a little bounceback and is easier on your hands and body than hitting an unyielding substance as you would in chopping wood. And you're much less likely to accidentally hit your own leg with a sharp axe because you are mad and distracted using the tire target.

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RE: Dealing With Frustration & Anger - 12/2/2007 5:52:32 PM

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Music sounds like a good idea. And perhaps some sort of physical activity to go along with it. Thank you for the suggestion!

Not to worry, childoftheshadow, I'm too much of a wuss. In darker days I did give it some consideration. But cutting and the like to "deal with" depression or emotional overload didn't make much sense to me after I gave it a good look from a scientific standpoint.

I also seem to be incapable of transmuting pain into pleasure... or any sort of good feeling, for that matter. Pain is pain is pain. And I'm not masochistic. I'm so far the other end of that spectrum that I go out of my way to avoid it in day-to-day living.

Accidents do happen, however. And when I was at my worst mentally... I was also hugely clumsy. I'd run into anything at shin-height or get my fingers caught in doors. And if I got upset after, I was apt to swear a blue streak and kick something in a knee-jerk response... not always while wearing shoes. Perhaps it was, in some convoluted way, a lesser evil than picking up a razor/knife/etc.

Thank you for the suggestion, Drifa. And you certainly make a good point. I can only imagine how awful it'd be to lose a toe or three because I was too irked to watch where the axe was coming down. I'm also finding it hard to justify splitting wood given where I live. It's only just now started to cool down in these parts and we're getting into December. This house hasn't got a fireplace, wood burning or otherwise. So I'm not sure what I'd do with a stack as tall as I am once I was finished.

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