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RE: Keeping Options Open - 11/11/2007 5:40:15 AM

miladyh

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ORIGINAL: greenearth21

Now that I know someone else is on the same boat as me, I have to ask...do you feel guilty when you are seeing more than one interest at a time? (not necessarily sexually)

I do not feel guilty at all...I have met with several guys and did not feel guilty, unfortunately none of them have met my expectations. I know what I want in a relationship and from a partner. In the last 3 years I have gotten out of a 10 year marriage and a 2 year dead end relationship..I believe I have earned the right to be fickle and not settle and hope that this person will "come around in time" . As far as sexually with these guys nope hasnt happened I have a f***buddy that takes care of that need.

Good luck to you

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RE: Keeping Options Open - 11/11/2007 5:44:35 AM

miladyh

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
That being said, I am submissive to my Dom without collaring, which I see as a commitment that goes with a wedding ring in my mind. Both are lasting symbols of commitment. I would not accept a collar unless marriage was a part of that. There are certain things I will not submit to until that deep commitment is made because I would just not feel it appropriate to.

I never thought of it that way but thank you for bringing this up...gives me something to think about :)

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RE: Keeping Options Open - 11/11/2007 6:00:25 AM

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I have also gone about meeting people in the same way. I don't see anything wrong with it. It is very much like dating. You may talk to several but when you find the one you have chemistry with then you worry about becoming exclusive. You can't possible tell if there is chemistry just by chatting online because you are only seeing one side of a person. I think it's wise to keep your options open until you find that one. I did the same thing with the Dom I was with and it lasted for 2 years. Once I met with him meeting with others stopped altogether. I think online is a nice place to find like minded people but after that I don't put to much stock into it. I think you are doing the right thing.

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RE: Keeping Options Open - 11/11/2007 6:16:38 AM

Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: bipolarber

Well, it's the same with dating, and with being "on the market" as a submissive... Just be subtle about it, and let people know the situation...

I'm on the market again ..is that subtle enough I wonder?

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RE: Keeping Options Open - 11/11/2007 7:34:31 AM

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Greetings Prinsexx :-)

i just wanted to comment on your new pic - it is awesome

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