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greenearth21 -> RE: Keeping Options Open (11/10/2007 2:30:12 PM)
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Miladyh, it's funny that I came across your post because i've been wondering about that myself, and was going to ask the same question. No you are not alone in your approach, because I do the same thing. Maybe it's because i'm a commito-phobe, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting to make sure that you are focusing on the right person. I have had dom's as well as men in the vanilla world who weren't to happy with that, and thats unfortunate. I am coming out of a marriage that I seriously regret and has cost me thousands of dollars so I am not trying to make the same mistake again. Keeping your options open is definetely a good thing because you arent spending/wasting, even , your energy on someone or somethign that will not materialize to anything. My friends (vanilla) call me a playette, I just say i'm not settling. This is very much easy for me because I have met someone who is very understanding and mature and does nto want to put the cart before the horse, so to speak; and he's told me this..twice or so. It makes me feel very comfortable with the way things are because He and I are both under no obligation to each other, beside honesty. He too has the choice and I believe is keeping his options open. You just never know how things may turn out.
Although things do get tricky when friends ask me about my relationship with him and I say we are just friends; even though they disagree...but everyone has their own standards of what they call their relationships.
I see myself as someone who is not owned or under consideration etc (unless i'm mistaken then someone please give me some insight) therefore I am free to speak and do however I please (as long as they are within the respectful boundaries of whatever relationships I have).
Now that I know someone else is on the same boat as me, I have to ask...do you feel guilty when you are seeing more than one interest at a time? (not necessarily sexually)
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