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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 11:20:36 AM   
Termyn8or


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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 11:30:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		It was an invasion of privacy; you can ALWAYS turn the tables on them and suggest that you use some of them on them, they might like it. 
 
The best thing it do is NOT react.  Just get a trunk like was suggested and keep the key on your key ring and a spare under the bed or somewhere else safe.  Then go over the 'house rules' of 'no snooping' and 'privacy.' 
 
My mother found my stuff a few years ago when she was looking for a suitecase to use on her trip, she grabbed my dufflebag instead of my suitcase; she was bright red when I got home, now, when she wants a suitcase she asks me to pull one out for her {giggles}.  She knows what I am invovled in NOW, but she still says she doesn't 'want to know' that much.

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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 11:31:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Although I think it it was an invasion of privacy.
 
Obviously your door was not locked and under your bed isn't exactly a secure place to put things you don't want found by others you live with.
 
So why are  you suprised when roommates go rummaging in your room? ~laughs~ Especially since this was NOT a clear boundary before. Personally, I think you need to be honest with them about how them going into your room made you feel. Once you do that -- if they ask questions about the bag, don't act ashamed. After all what do you have to be ashamed of?
 
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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 11:36:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		The best thing would be to laugh it off. If you really were so worried about the stuff being found, you should have locked it away somewhere. Maybe now you can borrow some of their dresses.

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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 11:39:04 AM   
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knew that they looked because my one roommate asked "do you like leopard print" (I have a leopard print dress my dom gave me just the other day.) and she also asked "do you like corn cobs" (I have a vibrator, that looks like corn on the cob)


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Im sure they won't bring it up because it will probably be awkward anyways for them.


One might argue that those questions constitute bringing it up.

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Im still just dumb founded as to why they would even LOOK under my bed and OPEN up a school bag anyways?


That's the part that baffles me too.

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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 11:40:35 AM   
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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 12:04:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would put a lock on my door and let them die
from curiosity.
 
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RE: Help! - 10/28/2007 10:06:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is nothing for you to be ashamed or embarassed about.  Society and the vanilla world has forced us to think these ways, so stop feeling guilty about exploring what you enjoy.

Secondly i would definitely have to say something to the roomates, be it men, women or the landlords daughter.  My room is private, do you want me snooping around your closet and under your bed?  i think not, respect one another and act as an adult. 

If they are questioning you, it is because you have struck a curiosity in them that they have not been strong enough to venture and explore.  They will only ask questions that their wee lil minds can understand, but be prepared, because they are going to ask questions based from what society and the vanilla interpretation understands.  Most of their understanding is going to be incorrect and very unknowledgeable.  The least that you will be doing will be expanding someones mind to understand and maybe even become more accepting to things within the lifestyle. 



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RE: Help! - 10/29/2007 8:50:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Or....you could go into THEIR rooms, rummage around in their diaries and such and then at breakfast..."so, Nancy...what was it like to fuck your (of course, non blood related) Uncle when your Mom was in the other room having breakfast with his wife?"

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RE: Help! - 10/29/2007 11:21:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		It depends on your comfort level with yourself. You can treat it as simple as they found a vibrator or you can make it as complicated as if they found your diary. I'd tell them...and if they complain about too much info, tell them to stay the hell out of your stuff.

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RE: Help! - 10/29/2007 11:28:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Make light of it and laugh and bring it up often...you will probably turn their faces red before you even get a chance to feel ashamed....heck its really no diff than prob 1/2 of the things they do.........

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RE: Help! - 10/29/2007 11:32:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Meh, my cleaner found my bag and boxes of tricks. I gave her a rousing rendition of Whip It by Devo and we had a laugh about it. Now she's always trying to bring up the subject because she thinks I'm great. Weird also, but great.

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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 5:20:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		I know it's too late, but you missed the opportunity to really have some fun. When one of them asked if you liked corn on the cob, my guess is you turned beet red and mumbled something incoherant. But of course the proper course of action would have been to turn the tables and look her right in the eye and with a leering grin and a silky smooth voice say, "Why yes, I LOVE corn on the cob, why do you ask?". Either she'll turn beet red and mumble something incoherant or she'll tell you why she likes corn on the cob and maybe you'll find out the two of you have something in common.

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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 5:54:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am very open about my kink but not as open about my privacy. I would make it clear that you knew they were in YOUR room without your permission and if this is how they choose to behave then you may have to find a new living situation.

If you want to tell them that the dress is for you as was the corn holer then that is up to you I don't think it is necessary as telling the truth offten leads to unspoken assumptions and the landlords daughter shuld have known better but I am sure doesn't care. It's her Parents place not hers.

If you are upset about the intrusion then get a LOCK. If you go online you can get Motel Locks which lock whenever you close you door, but you will have to always have a key on you and when you get locked out accidently that really sucks but this is an option.

If you think that it won't make living situation awkward then explain if you want to but remember things that are known cannot be unknown and should one of the roommates get annoyed with you this information could be used against you.

If you want to make them think in a different direction then say they both belong to your fuck buddy Mindy and she would appreciate you guys staying out of your business. Then go by said lock.

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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 8:29:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

Meh, my cleaner found my bag and boxes of tricks. I gave her a rousing rendition of Whip It by Devo and we had a laugh about it. Now she's always trying to bring up the subject because she thinks I'm great. Weird also, but great.


hehe...that reminds me of the time i forgot to put up my toys (insertable, anal, and clit vibrator, not a lot, just enoug to get embarrassed about) before the cleaner cleaned my bedroom (she doesn't do it on a regular basis)....and she organized my toys while she was in there....put them in order from biggest to smallest...after i got over the shock, then the embarrassment i had to lay down on my bed from the fits of laughter....


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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 8:37:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Next time they drop a hint like the leopard print or other comments, just wink at them and go on with what you were doing.  It leaves things up in the air and you've responded without committing to any viewpoint or ownership or anything...  They're left needing to ask for clarification, if they want it.

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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 9:06:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		it's none of their business so why should this even be an issue, they went snooping and when and if they ask just tell them that your private about what you do and leave it at that.  Very few people that I know in my vanilla life (work, friends etc) know of my actual lifestyle and what I do but even the ones that do know dont know every personal detail that goes on in my life, there is no need to explain bruising as I rarely have any......there's just no reason to talk about it.....and they never bring it up.  I really wouldn't worry about it. 

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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 9:16:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		It was a definite invasion of privacy. But since it happened I would just joke about it. The more relaxed about it you are, the more relaxed your friends are going to be about it too. 

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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 9:18:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mtl146687

Hello to all, a strange and scary scenario happened today, as I was hosting a halloween party with my roommates, my roommates decided to go under my bed, and needless to say found my bag where I put all my kinky toys. Now initally, Im thinking this is an invasion of privacy, and Im not sure if I should play stupid and pretend like they still dont know or just be blunt about it? thanks for your input.


This is always something that will be an issue.  I wouldn't say anything unless asked and when asked, I'd tell him what it is you are in to and be prepared to answer the (WHYs???!!!) 
 
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RE: Help! - 10/30/2007 8:12:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		thanks for your input everyone, I think theres a bit of justice going on right now, shes sick in bed, I know its mean, but I cant help but smirk a little lol

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