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Just one thing - 10/26/2007 2:39:49 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		Was thinking as i browsed the boards this evening, that in the time i've been a member of cm i've recieved and seen some really great, and thoughtful advice.
Subjects, themes, topics, advice, thoughts, opinions here are always really varied but always in my opinion given with the best of intent.
So i thought maybe, maybe not   it would be nice to get a collective of general advice for newbies, not so newbies and definately not newbies .
Sooooooo if you could give just one piece of advice to someone what would it be?

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 2:53:09 PM   
Raechard


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:00:26 PM   
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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:05:48 PM   
completenz


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:06:41 PM   
SmokingGun82


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Status: offline 		Several people on here have it in their signatures, and it's a piece of advice I've given to many of my friends in the last few years...

Don't make anyone a priority who makes you an option.


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:15:38 PM   
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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:17:57 PM   
Celeste43


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:21:51 PM   
MissMagnolia


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:24:05 PM   
Lordandmaster


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:32:21 PM   
TotalState


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SmokingGun82

Don't make anyone a priority who makes you an option.


O, I like that one.


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 3:32:29 PM   
octavia


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Status: offline 		And I believe I learned this little gem from someone here on CM:

"when people show you who they are believe them."

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 4:10:55 PM   
hejira92


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Status: offline 		Don't be discouraged. You gotta kiss a lot of frogs...... to discover what it is you really want and need.

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 4:16:35 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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(My advice to Missturbation is to please start making more descriptive subject lines for her threads)

My advice for Novice Female Submissives

Newbie!

At a loss

I'm a new domme seeking advice

Does a slave also have to be a fool?

sub: totally new concept

Questions for other newbies

The Journey

Starting Out

New to the Life, Help

How to deal?

Request for Advice

Advice please: Relationships, bdsm, love and boundaries

First time sub seeking you advice- how to find the right master?

First time sub seeking advice

a newbie seeking advice

How can I be a great sub?

Brand new life

Help needed

Emotional Rollercoaster

Welcoming newbies

New to this

Just a few questions

Do's and Dont's

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 10/26/2007 4:17:48 PM >

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 4:34:51 PM   
SageFemmexx


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Status: offline 		There are as many needy doms as there are subs. The question comes into play whether his needs meet yours. If they don't are you willing to compromise your own in order to meet his? If the answer is yes, then you have to look inside yourself to figure out why you would sacrifice your needs for someone else. If the answer is no, are you strong enough to acknowledge your needs will not be met and walk away. At some point in every D/s relationship, these questions come into play.

Blessings and Be well,

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 4:51:50 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		My advice is:  To build a relationship based on D/s is like building a house on sand. Know who YOU are first.  Be a complete person on your own, THEN you will have something to offer another.

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 6:17:13 PM   
PsyVamp


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 6:21:50 PM   
MrSpectacular


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Status: offline 		My advice is dont take anything too seriously early on. Get to know someone over a period of weeks and months if need be.
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< Message edited by MrSpectacular -- 10/26/2007 6:25:28 PM >

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 6:39:34 PM   
maclough


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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 6:54:19 PM   
RRafe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Was thinking as i browsed the boards this evening, that in the time i've been a member of cm i've recieved and seen some really great, and thoughtful advice.
Subjects, themes, topics, advice, thoughts, opinions here are always really varied but always in my opinion given with the best of intent.
So i thought maybe, maybe not   it would be nice to get a collective of general advice for newbies, not so newbies and definately not newbies .
Sooooooo if you could give just one piece of advice to someone what would it be?


Doubt everything, if the words don't match the deeds-run.

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RE: Just one thing - 10/26/2007 7:20:12 PM   
AEslaveM


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