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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 7:28:22 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Since I pretty much pass out after an orgasm, I wouldn't know whether or not I lose creativity.

Ron

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 7:49:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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ORIGINAL: pompeii

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orgasm and ejaculation are separate actions


Huh? When I was in third or fourth grade, orgasm wasn't accompanied by ejaculation - but since about fifth grade - no way.

Is there any guy out there who has had orgasm without ejaculation? I'm amazed that I, an old fart, can learn something new every gosh-darned day! I never would've believed it possible. Wow.



Like most things sexual and sprititual, the East is far ahead of us.  Basically, the male learns to control the same muscles you use to stop peeing to prevent ejaculation.  You experience a softer orgasm but one you can have over and over again.  Years ago I had gotten pretty good at it but my last partner was quite delicate and there was no point in prolonging things.  My current partner is insatiable in a wonderful way and when we live together I am going to have to relearn this skill in order to survive...

Pick up a copy of The Multi Orgasmic Man, not the easiest read but it is the most accessible source for this info.


Yes.. exactly...

A multi orgasmic man is a wonderful thing... and seldomly thrown out of bed.. let me tell you! *winks and chuckles*

Esp for those of us who are greedy and insatiable.

The ability to make him climax again and again, and again... and then finally at the end *just wow*. My poor slave works on this for weeks at a time. Thankfuly for him he has a wife to go take it all out on when he goes home. The lil shrew should be sending me thank you letters. *chuckles*

I wish you luck in any who endevor to learn this art... it is well worth it.

Gwyn

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 7:58:52 AM   
GhitaAmati


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Since I pretty much pass out after an orgasm, I wouldn't know whether or not I lose creativity.

Ron


Mental note...after Ron has an orgasm we can molester him while he is unconcious.....Im stocking up on toothpaste and magic markers.....

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 8:00:28 AM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Since I pretty much pass out after an orgasm, I wouldn't know whether or not I lose creativity.

Ron


Mental note...after Ron has an orgasm we can molester him while he is unconcious.....Im stocking up on toothpaste and magic markers.....


And let's not forget the clown makeup-and the digital camera.

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 9:13:35 AM   
Estring


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ORIGINAL: pompeii

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ORIGINAL: Estring
And the problem is?


Well, basically, I ENJOY the erotic thoughts and creativity to play with a willing sub, the way she looks, the way she feels, the way I make her feel. However, after orgasm, I'm surprised that all that eroticism melts away and, it all just seems silly. That's what I'm trying to get to the bottom of.

Why is a seductively arranged woman so extremely erotic one moment, yet, for the next, not erotic anymore. I lose my command structure and go into a cuddle mode. I'm kind'a wondering why, I guess, I go from erotic command to soft cuddle simply because of an ejaculation/orgasm pair.

It doesn't amaze you this unconscious dichotomy occurs?



When you eat and become full, does it amaze you that you are not hungry anymore, and you couldn't stand another piece of pizza? You are overthinking again.

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 11:05:27 AM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: Estring

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ORIGINAL: pompeii

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ORIGINAL: Estring
And the problem is?


Well, basically, I ENJOY the erotic thoughts and creativity to play with a willing sub, the way she looks, the way she feels, the way I make her feel. However, after orgasm, I'm surprised that all that eroticism melts away and, it all just seems silly. That's what I'm trying to get to the bottom of.

Why is a seductively arranged woman so extremely erotic one moment, yet, for the next, not erotic anymore. I lose my command structure and go into a cuddle mode. I'm kind'a wondering why, I guess, I go from erotic command to soft cuddle simply because of an ejaculation/orgasm pair.

It doesn't amaze you this unconscious dichotomy occurs?



When you eat and become full, does it amaze you that you are not hungry anymore, and you couldn't stand another piece of pizza? You are overthinking again.


We ARE animals, and our conciousness is tied to our bodies. I find it silly that people seem to try and seperate the two, as if they have no influence on each other.

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 11:15:50 AM   
CreativeDominant


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ORIGINAL: pompeii

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ORIGINAL: Estring
And the problem is?


Well, basically, I ENJOY the erotic thoughts and creativity to play with a willing sub, the way she looks, the way she feels, the way I make her feel. However, after orgasm, I'm surprised that all that eroticism melts away and, it all just seems silly. That's what I'm trying to get to the bottom of.

Why is a seductively arranged woman so extremely erotic one moment, yet, for the next, not erotic anymore. I lose my command structure and go into a cuddle mode. I'm kind'a wondering why, I guess, I go from erotic command to soft cuddle simply because of an ejaculation/orgasm pair.

It doesn't amaze you this unconscious dichotomy occurs?


I like to do a lot of thinking about scenes before they occur and I always weave one or two threads through the tapesty of my mind that may add color to the scene or which may be done after the first intense scene after a resting period.  It all depends on the submissive and on my mood and direction I wish to take her in.

After a very intense scene, I do like to rest a bit but I don't find that the submissive looks silly to me...I find her still enchanting, sometimes even more so because she is now...hopefully...spent and just possibly in la-la land and rather than pushing against her bonds, she is relaxed into them.  She is enjoying her bondage, whether it be a physical one or a mental one. 

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 2:13:39 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		Nope not me. i tend to get probably a little more creative and turned on after i've had an orgasm. i found a new way to play afterwards as well *thank goodness for the thumb* 

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 2:39:41 PM   
RosaB


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Status: offline 		Folliwing an orgasm, especially if its been a long day, i've wished that "the one" would make like Houdini,  (untie, uncostume or whatever the circumstance and disappear immediatedly).   Believe me its not just a man thing, I'm happy for ya to roll over and play dead,  kidding honest . not kidding   don't play dead, just go.

Rosa

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 2:53:29 PM   
OnyxDelphi


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Nothing like filling your rape victim with cum and then cuddling together and falling asleep together. 


I absolutely adore that quote!

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 2:55:19 PM   
BossyShoeBitch


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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ORIGINAL: pompeii

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orgasm and ejaculation are separate actions


Huh? When I was in third or fourth grade, orgasm wasn't accompanied by ejaculation - but since about fifth grade - no way.

Is there any guy out there who has had orgasm without ejaculation? I'm amazed that I, an old fart, can learn something new every gosh-darned day! I never would've believed it possible. Wow.



Like most things sexual and sprititual, the East is far ahead of us.  Basically, the male learns to control the same muscles you use to stop peeing to prevent ejaculation.  You experience a softer orgasm but one you can have over and over again.  Years ago I had gotten pretty good at it but my last partner was quite delicate and there was no point in prolonging things.  My current partner is insatiable in a wonderful way and when we live together I am going to have to relearn this skill in order to survive...



I'm sure you'll survive just fine..:-)

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 2:56:43 PM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		I find that I feel more refreshed and ready to go if my pores aren't clogged-so I just drag her in and take a shower with her. Then I'm ready for another go.

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 3:16:05 PM   
DS4DUMMIES


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Status: offline 		This is why I built a fucking machine. No matter how spent I may be, I am still capable of manipulating the speed control knob to take care of a woman with a modicum of intensity - assuming of course, the electricity does not go out. Then, we'd be screwed. Well...not screwed really.

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 3:23:59 PM   
DS4DUMMIES


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Status: offline 		You know....a lot of men's thoughts turn to things like sports or the like after we find ourselves "spent". That, or food. Anyway, why not be creative and take that desire to go out and play some golf ... and turn it into dungeon play. Here is what you do.

Tie your lady face-up and spread-eagle on some artificial turf on the dungeon floor. Then, place a pretty good sized speculum in there and open it...oh...the size of a cup on the green. Then, stand about 10 feet away and practice putting. See how many you can get in.....whisper to her ... "you wanton woman.......you make me want to take my putter in my hand and ....(fill in blank).....

Hey....wouldn't that be ... "fore" play? <ducking>

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 7:03:46 PM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		after reading your post, i thank my lucky stars that it isn't all men in general because that would be no fun at all for me; more like boring and vanilla feeling!!!!!!!

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/23/2007 7:42:33 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		ditto that!  I was a very lucky woman with my ex.  LOL after this thread I can at least have that to hang on to!
Kyst
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after reading your post, i thank my lucky stars that it isn't all men in general because that would be no fun at all for me; more like boring and vanilla feeling!!!!!!!


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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/28/2007 4:37:30 PM   
Daddyskittin


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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

ditto that!  I was a very lucky woman with my ex.  LOL after this thread I can at least have that to hang on to!
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

after reading your post, i thank my lucky stars that it isn't all men in general because that would be no fun at all for me; more like boring and vanilla feeling!!!!!!!



I'm with you two... after reading thru this thread (giggles) I've got a multiorgasmic Daddy.... mmmmm it's good to be the kittin.



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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/28/2007 5:38:30 PM   
Griswold


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ORIGINAL: pompeii

Maybe it's just me; maybe it's men in general; maybe it's all of us?
I wonder ...

I have a tremendous amount of erotic creativity BEFORE orgasm. This creativity helps in long BDSM sessions by building up to the eventual orgasm, her first, then me.

Moments after orgasm, all my creativity leaves my body. For example, if she's still restrained, she looks silly whereas moments before she was a seductive little slave girl spinning yarn at my feet.  The only thing I want to do after orgasm is rest with her head in my lap, petting her hair, or other non-kinky interaction. This decidedly non-kink refractory period lasts for hours, and, sometimes, after an entire afternoon of kink, even for a day or two, amazingly.

Is it just me, or do others lose all their erotic creativity after orgasm?



Interesting comment.

I have, several times, had the entire solution to the whole anti gravitational thing completely dialed in...and then....

Someone gave me a fucking ORGASM!!!! And out it went like a bad 40 watt bulb on a cold snowy porch!!!!

(So...the fact that we're all still driving land vehicles....can all be blamed on some woman that CLEARLY didn't give a SHIT about our current energy crisis!)

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/28/2007 5:40:47 PM   
pompeii


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Status: offline 		I must confess I used to be multi-orgasmic - if you count the fact I could cum twice or three times an evening when I was in my twenties. Alas ... much more fun later ... I don't know if it's the fact I've done it ten thousand times or if it's the pure age ... as the excitement is still very much there ... but I am good for once in a long set of hours nowadays. Generally once an evening.

I guess the good of it all is that I can go for many hundreds of in-out strokes, having counted in the past up to about six or seven hundred complete cycles when she was all tied up and I wanted to use her for as long as I possibly could. However, the minute I moved away her gag to stick my hands in her warm mouth, I couldn't hold it back anymore ... so I gotta remember to stay away from things that feel too good! :)

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RE: Is it just me or do we all lose our erotic creativi... - 10/28/2007 5:58:01 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		Okay, here it is again...
I'm not a male and I'm insatiable so having one really big orgasm will slow me down for a couple of seconds while I'm feeling the aftershocks BUT after a few seconds its like starting from the beginning.
After all, orgasms are foreplay..aren't they?

So its really just a matter then of delaying your own orgasm if you can't be a multiple male.

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and as a side note:  Where does one FIND a multiple orgasmic male????   oh never mind... I'll just have to find a second ... and a third...

Psy

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