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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 8:32:41 AM

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Yawn...Tributes are essential part of keeping a well fed Domme fat and happy....Do you think they actually possess any skills that could make them any type of a valued commodity in the real world?....Give and give often!!...a Pro Domme is a horrible thing to watch waste away!!!

I have no problem with Pro Dommes, wouldnt visit one myself.
My problem is with so called lifestyle Dommes

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 8:34:02 AM

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To reiterate, some are genuine, some are not....you have to remember also, there are just as many fakes on both sides of the kneel, and there are a lot that say that when they become yada yada yada, their property will become yada yada yada,and try to string a domme along for wanks, etc. till they have to put up or shut up, then guess what, they dissappear. There are dommes that are genuine that require tribute up front for that and other reasons, and there are fakes out to get your money.

You, as an adult, are expected to either try to be able to ascertain the difference, or find one that does not require it. Sorry, that means wasting your time READING profiles, some of which are long and will waste your time if you don't want to invest the time to read them.

*shrugs*

edited to add: Do you find this as much of a problem on your other profiles, or just this one?

Touche!!!!!!!

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 8:42:25 AM

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Why is it the mean poor boys always start on about how those big bad mean Dommes are all fakes and are all looking for tributes. If she is spending time and money on you then why should you not do the same for her. I will talk to anyone who messages me but if they want to take it further then yes I do ask for a tribute. Free gifts are the ones we appreciate the least so I want to make sure I am always appreciated.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 9:06:27 AM

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Smiles, I admire you for answering me, most would have ignored my comment. Honesty is well valued here, and it seems at first glance you may have a bit.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 9:11:47 AM

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Why is it the mean poor boys always start on about how those big bad mean Dommes are all fakes and are all looking for tributes. If she is spending time and money on you then why should you not do the same for her. I will talk to anyone who messages me but if they want to take it further then yes I do ask for a tribute. Free gifts are the ones we appreciate the least so I want to make sure I am always appreciated.

It must then be the issue that Dommes are unable to support their vice.....If you think that by giving you something means that you are "appreciated" you are deeply mistaken....It just means that you have been bought....Makes little difference to me how you choose to conduct yourself....Just wanted to clear up the misconceptions that you might be harboring.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 9:12:58 AM

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 9:25:38 AM

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Tributes to a person one has never met seem to be a con... why not meet and find out if there is any spark before talking about finances?

Problem is most who say they are "lifestyle" want tribute just to talk. No chance to meet beforehand.

I'd say that means you haven't come across one worth talking to.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 9:37:24 AM

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to me i would rather pamper then tribute it makes things more creative and more enjoyable lol

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 9:41:55 AM

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funny thing of it is everything in this lifestyle is an investment. you only get out of something what you put in to it

That is true of life in general and not this lifestyle in particular.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 9:44:11 AM

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but like anything in life if it fits then it works lol for every nut there is a proper screw

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 10:04:35 AM

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but like anything in life if it fits then it works lol for every nut there is a proper screw

And one of the better definitions for "pain" (not the good kind) is to try and thread a nut with the wrong screw.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 10:12:34 AM

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Simple answer...No. Tribute does not = genuine.

There are fakes on both sides.

There are Pros who live the Lifestyle or They live the Lifestyle and are a Pro also,however You
want to put it We are not ALL about money.
I know there are a lot of them out there who are just about money,a couple of bad apples
doesnt make the whole bushel bad.

The more obnoxious a "submissive" is the less likely they will get the time of day with Me
never mind a session and I dont care how much money you offer No means No...dammit.
While I dont charge to chat, I'm not going to waste My time with someone
looking for wank material. To be honest nothing gets rid of a wannabe faster than a dollar amount.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 10:20:59 AM

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this is very true lol

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 12:40:48 PM

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I agree with the above posters that tribute != genuine, as anyone can lie. In my honest opinion someone who asks for tribute is actually proving themself to NOT be genuine. That is for the simple fact that if both parties were geniune, they would take this as anyone takes any relationship, they would interact and share mutually their skills and talents to benifit each other, for example say the submissive is an excellent carpenter, and the dom/me would like a new piece of furniture to use with them. They ask and it gets built, in a sense it is a form of tribute but over all it isn't really because it was using ones skills for the mutual benifit of both.

Asking blindly for gifts or money is just screaming, "Thats all I want is a living breathing checkbook." Now some people like that and I respect others ideals even if I do not agree with them.

Well thats my advice take it or leave it.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 12:50:08 PM

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Fetishes are like drugs. Believe it or not, some women do get off on taking your money. Think of your most intoxicating kink...if you could have it instantly would you? Everyone wishes for an instant supply of their greatest desires.

Dominant people make the rules...

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 12:52:09 PM

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Personally, i think Tributes show sincerety when the submissive offers without being requested to do so. When the dominant requests tribute, there are a few reasons as to why.

1. Maybe the dominant is not seriously intrested in said sub, but would be willing to play on a pro level for tribute.
2. Maybe the dominant is a gold digging person, and basically wants to request money for the sake of their own pleasure.
3. Maybe the dominant has spoken for a while with this sub, and decided that they wanted to do a test before making the decision to create a contract with this person.
4. Maybe the sub wishes Online Dominance, this i personally dislike cause most subs wanting to be subs via the internet dont take it seriously. personally, in this situation i DO tend to ask for tribute because the truth is i dont want to waste my time on som eone who isnt real and if they ARE real then they will be happy to show it by giving tribute in respect. Tribute doesnt HAVE to be money, if you havent got money but wish to give tribute, ask the dom if there is something else you may give to show your sincerety, if the dom is real they will be more then willing to discuss the matter. If they are only after the money they wont care if you are wanting to find something you CAN give, because they will only care about the money. Be creative, a creative submissive catches our eye, causes us to give them our attention. Be willing to think outside of the box - not having money doesnt make you less valuable as a slave, it just means you gatta think outside of the box in cases of things such as tributes.

Tributes can be a test for a submissive as well as a dominant. If a sub asks to give tribute other then money, they find out if the domme is a gold digger, or is interested in the act of tribute more then money. Think about it that way :)

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 1:40:04 PM

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I've no problem whatsoever with all the fine pro Dommes out there, or even with financial domination (though personally that one's a hard limit). And I think spoiling and pampering the Domme you're with is a great rush for both parties.

But anyone who asks for a cash tribute in a padded envelope after two emails, to prove I'm "worthy", like an alleged Domme did here recently, can expect very short shrift from me. Not because I'm mean or poor, but because my Birth Certificate doesn't have yesterday's date on it.

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 1:47:21 PM

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For Me, it's everything you listed and more - it simply depends on the context. I personally like to get to know the applicant first before we move onto contracts, limits, needs, desires, etc.
Just remember that for every "gold-digging" InstaDomme, there are too many fucking idiot time-wasters.
Wait - are the two conflated?

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 2:01:11 PM

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I think it depends on the context.

If a Dom/me asks for diamonds and furs just to go out for coffee, then I'd definitely raise an eyebrow. For an intense scene I could see asking for a fair amount money (by fair I mean just, not "fairly large") that is predetermined and agreed upon ahead of time by the sub and the Dom/me, or maybe a nice gift -- going out for a fancy dinner, giving an expensive pair of shoes or a high-quality toy, that sort of thing. This is just my opinion though!

I'd be asking for videogames. "Do you want me as your Mistress, little one? SWEET GO BUY ME SILENT HILL 5!!!!!"

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RE: Does tribute= genuine????????? - 9/28/2007 3:05:48 PM

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Two people consensually giving and receiving money? Sounds genuine to me.

Is it something I would do? No.

Do care much for the people who transact such business? Not especially.

Do I buy the argument that it's to determine who's serious and who's not? Hell no.

But as long as there's no fraud, and both sides know exactly what they're paying for, then I'm not going to judge them.

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