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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 7:30:24 PM   
toservez


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ORIGINAL: BondageTopJere

Besides a few exceptions, my thought for the majority of fem subs is...... why bother? Theres enough Doms on here or other sites willing to do something like that for free.


I agree with this.

Economics 101, supply and demand, if a man could get it for free most would. Women can find someone for free and professional does not make them more skilled. There is more to domination it is mental and when the options are greater so are the criteria of one looking.

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 7:35:43 PM   
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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 9:04:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		first this is NOT the place to find a pro-I come on here for fun, all the reputable Doms/Dommes are on real pro websites-try eros or max fisch.  Second-woman always tend to have the upper hand, Domme or sub, like it or not-I have seen women who would scare the dead get much better looking partners because they are willing to take a very heavy beating-we really are able to make the rules since we can get endless cock with what we have!
never forget ladies there is NO cock shortage-you can replace anything you have lost with something bigger and better.............

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 9:07:00 PM   
MissHarlet


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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 9:10:18 PM   
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I'd say yeah, they are. 

I don't have an statistics on hand...but I've got this crazy hunch that guys tend to be a bit hornier than girls. 

And yes, I know, "BDSM isn't aobut sex, it's about the spiritual journey of devotion and blooming into the wonderful lifestyle of nurturing your inner D/s destiny to become blah blah blah."  Most guys get into BDSM because it gives them a hard on. 

That and guys tend to have more money. 

That and I'll bet guys tend to get more satisfaction from from bottoming without a relationship. 


omg could we be anymore sexist?   I think the answer is women don't find themselves in a position where they have to pay for sex very often.

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 11:06:45 PM   
Damocles809


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ORIGINAL: laurell3

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ORIGINAL: Damocles809

I'd say yeah, they are. 

I don't have an statistics on hand...but I've got this crazy hunch that guys tend to be a bit hornier than girls. 

And yes, I know, "BDSM isn't aobut sex, it's about the spiritual journey of devotion and blooming into the wonderful lifestyle of nurturing your inner D/s destiny to become blah blah blah."  Most guys get into BDSM because it gives them a hard on. 

That and guys tend to have more money. 

That and I'll bet guys tend to get more satisfaction from from bottoming without a relationship. 


omg could we be anymore sexist?   I think the answer is women don't find themselves in a position where they have to pay for sex very often.


And why would women find themselves in that position if men, on average, were no hornier than women? 

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 11:26:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I dunno.......I always found the reaction to not wanting pussy from an arrogant woman to be amusing-when they thought I should. hell hath no fury?

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 11:35:21 PM   
chellekitty


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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 11:37:32 PM   
laurell3


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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 11:44:16 PM   
chellekitty


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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 11:46:06 PM   
laurell3


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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

yes....but they tend to cater to male bottoms actually


(looks down) yup I'm not one of those

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/25/2007 11:46:42 PM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

yes....but they tend to cater to male bottoms actually


Right, because the men will actually make it worth while.

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 12:28:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: RRafe

I dunno.......I always found the reaction to not wanting pussy from an arrogant woman to be amusing-when they thought I should. hell hath no fury?


Amusing is right. 

Last time I told a girl I didn't want to have sex, it made me, as she eloquently put it, a "faggot tiny dick fag!!" 

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 12:59:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		That assuming the person is het, or that gender matters to them.

I think few women do because few women have a need to. That being, feel such a strong desire for a scene over a relationship, or if they want to scene just to scene - well, they have an easier time of finding partners. All most women have to do is say come hither, and there's generally a line.


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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 4:24:39 AM   
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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 6:23:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

Are men more apt to go to see a ProDominant than women? If so, is it because there are few Pro Doms ...

 
I get asked fairly often by women if I can suggest guys they can play with and in absence of having a male top them ask me to or see a gay leather master... read women as = the average woman in the street and self identifying kinksters/subs/slaves ...so yeah, in my corner of the world the lack of (het) male pro doms is a factor ...
 

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 6:38:37 AM   
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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 6:57:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: laurell3

(looks down) yup I'm not one of those


are you sure? i do free boobie checks

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ORIGINAL: Damocles809

Last time I told a girl I didn't want to have sex, it made me, as she eloquently put it, a "faggot tiny dick fag!!" 



i also do free cock measuring with my throat and/or pussy....

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ORIGINAL: pompeii

Hey! Hire me .... uh.... for free even!
:)



and see...straight MaleDoms do it for free....

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 6:58:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would go to a professional hetero Dom in a heartbeat if I could find one AND He had excellent references.

Why? Because I have never served or submitted before, and at my low points I'm wondering if this is all some sort of fantasy need. So I would pay handsomely for a Dom who knows what He's doing to help me figure this out.

Yes, I'm sure there are Doms in my area who would gladly "do" me for free. I'm sure I could also mislead Someone into thinking I have a lot more experience than I actually have, and start going down the road with Him regardless, hoping my lie wouldn't make a big difference (which it would).

But I like to think I have more integrity than that. So yes, I would go to a professional hetero Dom first.

~pmg

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RE: men vs women and use of Pros - 9/26/2007 6:59:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		The power dynamic of men over women exists; it's not something illusionary like most guys seem to think.  But it takes a very careful strategy to maintain it... finding a man that can walk that line is just as difficult as finding a really beautiful woman, and most of those men end up out of casual reach for *anyone*.  All of which is to say, that a Dom that can turn pro for women generally got there by doing things that have nothing to do with BDSM, and he's making much more money and enjoyment that way anyway.


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