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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 10:00:53 AM

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if i was kept in a constant state of readiness, i would be a total pain in the ass. all that pent up physical and emotional frustration focused on my Master would be very hard for him to bear.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 10:05:20 AM

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if i was kept in a constant state of readiness, i would be a total pain in the ass. all that pent up physical and emotional frustration focused on my Master would be very hard for him to bear.

Yup-this would be the reality.

I think too many people are reading the story of O.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 10:37:59 AM

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First, sexual mood or not isn't limited to subs, or slaves, Switches and bottoms and butch people, well every one, of any orentation, may at one time or another have low sexual interest.

Secondly.It usualy requires my partner lavishing a ton of four play of my desire type on me. I also have the right to say no to sex if I wish with no repercussions if I am simply not able to get into the mood, in our relationship he has no desire to force sex on me if I don't want it.

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Hi. i have some questions that go out to both doms and subs (and/or slaves).

How realistic is it to tell someone that you will always be ready for sex? i mean i love sex and I love to please, but admittedly im not in the mood for it all the time. And sometimes when I'm not, i just can't get there.

are there subs out there who have had this problem? are there subs who ARE in the mood for it all the time? And if you aren't in the mood then how do you get into it?

thanks very much for your replies.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 11:20:39 AM

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if i was kept in a constant state of readiness, i would be a total pain in the ass. all that pent up physical and emotional frustration focused on my Master would be very hard for him to bear.

Yup-this would be the reality.

I think too many people are reading the story of O.

It depends on the level of power exchange and a couple’s agreement in this area. Some will perform if they can for the other or some need everything perfectly aligned up. This is not much different then “regular” relationships. It is up to the couple’s and an each their own thing.

In terms of being ready, I reread the thread and those poking fun at people who say always being ready are living a fantasy I suggest looking in the mirror. I do not think anyone who mentioned ready thought that at all time the woman should be freshly bathed, dressed sexually suggestive, have candles lit everywhere she is, be properly lubricated in both holes below the waste and be so aroused that a few thrust from their magnificent Master will have them squealing in ecstasy.

I think ready means, at least to me, that when he orders or just starts up to be in a mental position not to go “what the hell are you doing” or “no way not now” and any other type of negative mental or physical reaction that regular society pounds in our head is fine. To let go and not make it about ourselves and to let them enjoy us for them is what I think most of us are referring to.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 11:22:33 AM

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Now see, I did read it as someone needing to be sexually aroused/ready at any moment.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 11:30:18 AM

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You know, it was that way with me too. My x used to pressure me and act like a jackass when I said no, so I'd get angry and fridgid and wasn't anybody getting sex then. However if I said no and he offered me attention and tlc and things that I generally liked, with no ulterior motive, just to make me happy, then usualy we ended up having sex and every one was happy. But to choose not to be understanding and harrase me about it, never worked. Something he never really learned.

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That comes full circle...the more supportive He is the more often I want sex.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 1:05:07 PM

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Maybe this is the reason rape fantasies are so popular with Doms?

I think we have a winner! What about rape fantasies being popular with the female submissives (and switches) too?

What about rape fantasies with submissive men?

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/25/2007 2:55:02 PM

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Maybe this is the reason rape fantasies are so popular with Doms?

I think we have a winner! What about rape fantasies being popular with the female submissives (and switches) too?

What about rape fantasies with submissive men?

Rape fantasies are popular with Doms because of that seductive siren song of power. Think of it in drug terms. Theres a lot of ways of getting high; but some forms are way more potent and quicker than others and rape fantasies are the equivalent of crack, without all the nasty side effects. Actually, theres little difference emotionally speaking wether its men or women getting a rape fantasy, the power trip/powerlessness thats being experienced is the same regardless of the rapist/rapees gender.

To the OP, I view being "ready all the time" in the same light as Toservz. Most of the time both people are going to enjoy, I can imagine there may be times when the Dom agrees even if he's not really in the mood. For a sub to agree to being ready all the time means shes saying she willing too, even if she doesn't want too.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/26/2007 12:54:16 PM

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Same here, infact me being constantly hungry these last few weeks, started a fight a couple days ago.

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if i was kept in a constant state of readiness, i would be a total pain in the ass. all that pent up physical and emotional frustration focused on my Master would be very hard for him to bear.

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RE: Is it really possible? - 9/26/2007 1:06:07 PM

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How realistic is it to tell someone that you will always be ready for sex?

When He told me that, I didn't think it was realistic. He's since changed my mind. At first, my 'readiness' was independant of my own want or need. I'm obedient enough to go with it, so gave him the benefit of the doubt, but over time, not only am I ready, I'm also an eager little...erm...well, you know where I'm going with that. :)

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