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notnewnotexp -> Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 5:49:19 PM)
Hi. i have some questions that go out to both doms and subs (and/or slaves). How realistic is it to tell someone that you will always be ready for sex? i mean i love sex and I love to please, but admittedly im not in the mood for it all the time. And sometimes when I'm not, i just can't get there. I haven't been in a relationship yet where this is a problem, but it worries me that I won't be able to always be in the mood. are there subs out there who have had this problem? are there subs who ARE in the mood for it all the time? And if you aren't in the mood then how do you get into it? And to the Doms... Is this something that is really expected of a sub on each and every occasion? And if you can tell that she is not responding well, what do you do? i am really embarrased for asking about this but it does weigh on my mind that I just might not be able to live up to it. And it would help to know if there are others who have this problem. And to hear from those who don't! thanks very much for your replies.

camille65 -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:01:00 PM)
Hi not and welcome to the forums. [;)] If you haven't had the problem then why are you worrying? [:-] I can't answer on if every dom wants sex on each/every occasion but I can tell you that I've met doms that don't push for that. It's an individual thing. Some yes, some no. For me I don't want sex every moment of the day and he knows that. He understands that and doesn't get upset or angry. Btw it is a good question and I hope you don't stay embarrassed, it's great having a place to ask I think!

onmykneesb4Him -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:05:54 PM)
my Sir doesn't ask. i am expected to be ready at any moment. And truthfully, all He has to do is whisper in my ear, grab my hair, or something similar and i'm ready. Yes, i have a high sex drive, but it's more than that, its Him. Having said that, He is sensitive to outside obligations, time pressures, etc, and would never decide it was time for sex when it would cause problems in some way.

AEslaveM -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:16:48 PM)
What onmyknees4Him said reads very true for me, as well........... My Master expects me to anticipate His needs, and lucky for me, i find myself in such a high state of arousal all the time, a look from Him, a gesture from Him, and that's all i need. It is ALL Him.........

slaveluci -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:31:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: notnewnotexp if you aren't in the mood then how do you get into it? As His slave, it's really not required that I BE "in the mood."[;)] What was that brilliant thing LA said a few days back? "It's ok to not feel submissive all the time. The important thing is being submissive all the time." I'm paraphrasing, of course, but that's the gist. Kind of applies here too, I think. I may not always be in the mood 100% of the time but that's not a prerequisite. As someone else has already said, it doesn't take much to get me in the mood though. Certain words, a whisper in the ear, pulled hair or a faceslap and I'm there! So, in my opinion, it's not so much always being "in the mood" as it is always just doing what He desires when He desires it[:)]................luci

AquaticSub -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:48:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: notnewnotexp I haven't been in a relationship yet where this is a problem, but it worries me that I won't be able to always be in the mood. are there subs out there who have had this problem? While I'm in the mood, or can put in it about 98% of the time, there are some rare times when I'm not in the mood. I let Valyraen know and he goes "Ok". Chances are, he wasn't planning on us on having sex that particular day anyway. If he did, well... shrugs quote: And if you aren't in the mood then how do you get into it? I can usually get excited enough to enjoy the act just by what he is doing. Not every time needs fireworks for me. quote: And to the Doms... Is this something that is really expected of a sub on each and every occasion? And if you can tell that she is not responding well, what do you do? Valyraen usually won't want sex unless I'm up for it too. If only he is going to be enjoying it, he finds going solo in the bathroom to be more practical and he enjoys watching me enjoy myself. Not sure what you mean by each and every occasion though.

MDTopCouple -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:50:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onmykneesb4Him my Sir doesn't ask. i am expected to be ready at any moment. And truthfully, all He has to do is whisper in my ear, grab my hair, or something similar and i'm ready. Yes, i have a high sex drive, but it's more than that, its Him. Having said that, He is sensitive to outside obligations, time pressures, etc, and would never decide it was time for sex when it would cause problems in some way. I second, third, and fourth that statement. It's that connection. Also, in my case, He loves it when I am not ready for Him. Something about inflicting more pain, listening to me struggle. I also agree that He can be sensitive as well... He just chooses not to be very often! -Daisy

breatheasone -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:55:28 PM)
Hello Not and welcome to the boards...I personally haven't had the occasion to not be in the mood as of yet...When I am in my Masters presents, I'm wet...I can't help it...If this ever did become an issue I'm confident I could speak with my Master about it, and He would be understanding.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:58:01 PM)
Well for us it isn't about me being in the mood but wanting to please him. I personally have never not gotten in the mood once he gives a look or a little touch.

RRafe -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 6:59:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: notnewnotexp Hi. i have some questions that go out to both doms and subs (and/or slaves). How realistic is it to tell someone that you will always be ready for sex? i mean i love sex and I love to please, but admittedly im not in the mood for it all the time. And sometimes when I'm not, i just can't get there. I haven't been in a relationship yet where this is a problem, but it worries me that I won't be able to always be in the mood. are there subs out there who have had this problem? are there subs who ARE in the mood for it all the time? And if you aren't in the mood then how do you get into it? And to the Doms... Is this something that is really expected of a sub on each and every occasion? And if you can tell that she is not responding well, what do you do? i am really embarrased for asking about this but it does weigh on my mind that I just might not be able to live up to it. And it would help to know if there are others who have this problem. And to hear from those who don't! thanks very much for your replies. Maybe this is the reason rape fantasies are so popular with Doms?

MDTopCouple -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 7:05:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe Maybe this is the reason rape fantasies are so popular with Doms? I think we have a winner! What about rape fantasies being popular with the female submissives (and switches) too?

RRafe -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 7:07:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MDTopCouple quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe Maybe this is the reason rape fantasies are so popular with Doms? I think we have a winner! What about rape fantasies being popular with the female submissives (and switches) too? Because can be fun to be a jerk-or jerked around. Long as it's not REALLY real. "Honey, I have a headache...........OWW!!! YOUR"E TEARING MY ASSHOLE!!!!"[:D]

Wildfleurs -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 7:08:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: notnewnotexp Hi. i have some questions that go out to both doms and subs (and/or slaves). How realistic is it to tell someone that you will always be ready for sex? i mean i love sex and I love to please, but admittedly im not in the mood for it all the time. And sometimes when I'm not, i just can't get there. I haven't been in a relationship yet where this is a problem, but it worries me that I won't be able to always be in the mood. are there subs out there who have had this problem? are there subs who ARE in the mood for it all the time? And if you aren't in the mood then how do you get into it? And to the Doms... Is this something that is really expected of a sub on each and every occasion? And if you can tell that she is not responding well, what do you do? i am really embarrased for asking about this but it does weigh on my mind that I just might not be able to live up to it. And it would help to know if there are others who have this problem. And to hear from those who don't! thanks very much for your replies. I have a pretty high sex drive but over the years there have been times where its lagged - stress, being under the weather, or whatever (sometimes it just does). If my libido's lagging I usually say something, although I'm sure its fairly obvious. But just because my sex drive is lagging doesn't mean I'm not expected to be available. Most of the times he'll try to give me a little extra of the triggers that help get me aroused, and sometimes its a service that I'm providing to him and its not about me orgasming and stuff. C~

favesclava -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 7:11:05 PM)
i have to be ready at all times. luckily i have a high sex drive and His presence is all i need to in the mood.

Littlepita -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 7:13:55 PM)
Back during our online days when we were fantasizing about how it would be in real life, he would say things like, "I will always be wet and ready for him." Then real life became a reality and along came my school, his writing, the UM, and PMS. [;)] Fortunately, I have a really high sex drive and he is really good at pushing the right buttons.

apiercedkitty -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 7:20:45 PM)
i have yet to have that happen... i do know, however, that when time permits me to see Him more than i do now, that could change. Like others have said tho - He knows the things to do/say to make me hot in seconds so i don't see it being a problem. If it is, what i want/need/desire isn't always what's important to me anyway... i think i'll be more than willing to pleasure Him - even if i don't feel like being pleasured myself...

Estring -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 7:45:30 PM)
My slave has a very high sex drive so that is usually never a problem. It doesn't take much to get her in the mood, so I do need to be careful.[;)]

daddysprop247 -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 8:08:15 PM)
as some have said, my being in the mood for sex is irrelevant. while i'm not expected to be "ready" at all times in the superficial sense...perfect hair, perfectly shaved/waxed, perfect mindset, etc....i am expected to always be ready in the sense of accepting and surrendering to him. my sex drive is not high, and though i crave sex often, it's not in the sense of being aroused or horny like many tend to think of it. so often when he wishes to make sexual use of my body i'm not in the mood and i don't magically get in the mood. but again that is not important, the important thing is that the quality of my service does not waiver.

Missokyst -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 8:09:27 PM)
I shall only say that I stayed in my marriage 5 yrs passed it's due date because of similar activity. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: MDTopCouple quote: ORIGINAL: onmykneesb4Him my Sir doesn't ask. i am expected to be ready at any moment. And truthfully, all He has to do is whisper in my ear, grab my hair, or something similar and i'm ready. Yes, i have a high sex drive, but it's more than that, its Him. Having said that, He is sensitive to outside obligations, time pressures, etc, and would never decide it was time for sex when it would cause problems in some way. I second, third, and fourth that statement. It's that connection. Also, in my case, He loves it when I am not ready for Him. Something about inflicting more pain, listening to me struggle. I also agree that He can be sensitive as well... He just chooses not to be very often! -Daisy

IrishMist -> RE: Is it really possible? (9/24/2007 8:19:25 PM)
Wellllllllllll To be totally honest; it never mattered whether I was in the mood or not. What mattered was that he was. As to whether or not it’s expected?… that comes down to the kind of relationship that you have with your partner.

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