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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 8:33:18 AM

Cloudz

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I just cannot help myself...Yes, courtesy should be shown...however as someone else mentioned, we of the Dominant persuasion get a LOT of mail. I try to respond with courtesy...when I get a courteous email.

That means I won't reply if your comment is simply "Hi" or "Here is a list of what I want will you do these things to me."

I am a whole person...and if someone addresses me it would be helpful if they addressed the whole person...not just the high heel wearing, whip wiedling part.

I understand your frustration...honestly I do. I have felt that way myself from time to time. Having perseverance helps. I have met some wonderful people here, and if you give yourself some time you may also. Try reading some of the positive experiences, it may give you hope.

I wish you luck on your journey and welcome to the boards.

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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 8:46:37 AM

WinsomeDefiance

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First, I thought fursuits was a typo! Its the first I've even heard of that particular fetish. Come to think of it, I wouldn't be opposed to being buried under an avalanche of fur, is that a fetish? Fur, leather, warm squirming flesh. Its all good.

Second, I find negativity a big turn off. While I understand frustrations, and I can feel your pain (I really can,) after reading your post; I would not have an overwhelming urge to contact you. It is the positives that attract me.

Third point, this is only my personal belief. I can only speak for myself, after all. It might be helpful to express your frustrations in a personal manner, rather than making judgements toward the masses. Ranting about others and coming to conclusions such as you have, can easily alienate the very ones you are wanting badly to attract. If you say "most are fakes" then someone reading your profile who identifies as a Domme/Dom might have an initial bad first impression of you, that could easily narrow your chances down.

So, there you have it. My thoughts on your rant. While I can and do feel your pain, I don't find your approach appealing. Whether or not I represent the majority, is questionable.

Good luck and the very best of wishes in your search. I always feel badly for those who want something so intensely, and feel frustrated in their search toward acquiring it. It is something I can relate to.

Charlotte

< Message edited by WinsomeDefiance -- 9/22/2007 8:53:44 AM >

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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 9:01:43 AM

kdsub

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I understand where you are coming from and as stated above it is a common complaint.

No one has admitted his or her guilt but I will bet we are all guilty of not returning messages at least now and then. Sometimes I am just not in the mood or have the energy to answer a message in a timely manner. I fully intent to do it but I sort of let it slide.
Not right but human nature…especially if on the Internet.

If I do it…a kinky sub with age…lol…. I can imagine a desirable dominate man or woman with many daily messages may be even more inclined.

There is another factor…I wonder if anyone has figured the ratio between dominates and submissives. I’ll bet it is at least 10 to 1 or more. Usually the sub is contacting the dom so that means they may be getting 10 times the messages we subs are getting. I would imagine it would take a lot of time to answer every message…I understand this and don’t worry about it. I do believe they at least read my message so my task is to make my message interesting enough that they will want to answer me.

Now if I could only figure how to be interesting!!!!

Butch

< Message edited by kdsub -- 9/22/2007 9:03:22 AM >

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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 9:12:48 AM

nyrisa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

And one needs to be aware of the background when
snapping those pics, he's got a clock sticking out of one side of his
head, and something else sticking out of his neck. i immediately
began humming, " i'm a little teapot short and stout. "

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 9:16:13 AM

grlneedstolearn

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he's got a clock sticking out of one side of his
head, and something else sticking out of his neck. i immediately
began humming, " i'm a little teapot short and stout. "

Ok, i'm trying hard not to be mean and i apologize, but the way you put it is funny

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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 9:42:51 AM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

quote:

ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

... however ranting on the boards probably won't help.

I wouldn't say that.

He's just announced himself to every domme who reads this that he is real and available and seeking.

Can't hurt

I dunno. Whenever I ever see people ranting about fakes, it generally lowers of my opinion of them. If I were single, I wouldn't go for a dominant ranting about the fake subs. Course, dominant women may think differently than me.

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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 11:11:38 AM

iammachine

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Feel better?

Just one note, please do note that there is not neccessarily a correlation between being genuine and compatible. It might make ya feel better to think that someone that isn't into you just isn't serious, but it is far more likely, that they simply just aren't compatible with you.

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RE: Sound off - 9/22/2007 2:03:08 PM

xoxi

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quote:

ORIGINAL: iammachine

Feel better?

Just one note, please do note that there is not neccessarily a correlation between being genuine and compatible. It might make ya feel better to think that someone that isn't into you just isn't serious, but it is far more likely, that they simply just aren't compatible with you.

SO true.

Quoted for emphasis.

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 8:21:30 AM

e01n

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Y'know... I see Winsome, Machine and Xoxi all on the same thread, I pretty much have to be intrigued enough to respond.

And then I read the OP... <sigh>

1 - It IS possible to meet people on CM. But you MUST stay friendly, polite and respectful.
2 - No response to you is still a valid response. Somewhat rude, but valid.
3 - What's been proven to work: get into the threads and join conversations much like you would in real life. No falsehoods or fakeness - just be yourself.
4 - Be patient. Perserve. Success will come.

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 9:26:23 AM

sammiebabygirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

stick around on the message boards, makes the time pass faster....heck, i loose entire days at a time on here now

Please, don't tell me that's still true. i have been on the boards for 3 days and have lost 2 nights' sleep already. i figured it was just because it's new.

jen

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 9:49:57 AM

breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: katmaninva

I know this is going to generate a lot of thoughts and what not, so PLEASE don't PM me with your response. I have tried many Dommes seeking submales off of Collarme.com and have had only 2 or 3 three decent answers. A couple of Dommes are looking for money for their services, not listing themselves as Professional Dommes. Many don't even both to answer notes sent to them. Frankly, I think a good number of them are fakes, saying that they are into the scene/bdsm but really aren't. This is purely my observation and thought. Maybe they are into it but some courtesy shown those who make an interest it them should be shown back. Yeah, I know there are a lot of idiots out there, but I'm not one. With me, it is what you see is what you get. I'm really getting of the fakes that are on here. Thanks for letting me rant!

Want some cheese to go with that whine....

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 9:53:00 AM

Celeste43

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And how many people do you know who've had three whole dates in their lives before meeting the right one, and then getting married and living happily ever after? And that's with a basic 1:1 ratio male to female. So why do you assume that you can send out half a dozen emails and find the right one, or even Ms Right Now? Especially as domme/malesub ratios are at least 1:10.

And just because someone doesn't like you doesn't mean they're a fake. It just means they aren't compatible with you and are wise enough to know it.

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 4:53:01 PM

laurell3

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mmb1

lmao at chiaThePet as usual..................

ditto

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 5:15:23 PM

Prinsexx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: katmaninva

I know this is going to generate a lot of thoughts and what not, so PLEASE don't PM me with your response. I have tried many Dommes seeking submales off of Collarme.com and have had only 2 or 3 three decent answers.

Welcome to the message boards.
Please don't be offended by what I am going to say....this amswer isn't solely aimed at you it is in part also a response to something that happened to me today.
I want to say, so I will. that your profile appears so needy. I actually feel that very many male subs are needy. Again this is just personal opinion.
What I mean by needy is that they are looking for their sense of worth from having a relationship with a Domme. They have low self-worth or a really hidden deep sense of shame and guilt and a need to be punished or chastised (yes be in chastity) for that apparent wrong doing. It's very off putting. And 'belonging' to someone, as oppose to serving them, is way way different.
I got mailed by a male subbie on here. My profile asks for females at the moment but there he was, so persistent and then we chatted on hotmail and then it was everynight for about a week. My Dom is away and there I was with an apparently sincere sub male wanting to be owned by me, drive me, be collared and serve me in everyway and also desperate to be cuckholded.
I agreed to meet him today. I said casual dress, straight acting please, I am not your Mistress until we have agreed. I went to the affore said meeting place and waited. I knew in my heart that reality was probably too much for him....and there no show. Waste of my precious time and I shall stick to looking for a bi femme sub as I just find their type of service less needy and coming from a sense of wholeness and liberation rather than from neediness and shame.
If you are sick of the vanilla life my advice is this: there still has to be a base line of vanilla on which to sprinkle the toppings. Reality: real life, kids and cats and grass that needs mowing, are all still here and careers have to be run and the bills paid. But at least turn up!
My advice: be happy with far less than perfect and see what you can add to it tomake it fit your dream rather than rejcting all and sundry because it doesn't fit the fantasy in your head.
PS I have deleted him from my meseenger and phone and blocked his mail here.
PPS Be careful what you ask for...you might just get it and then feel overwhelmed.

< Message edited by Prinsexx -- 9/29/2007 5:17:06 PM >

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 5:39:45 PM

amelliagrace

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quote:

ORIGINAL: homedespot

I get a lot of mail...sometimes as many as 25 a day. I try very hard to respond to all of them --except the most hardcore stupid ones (you f'in bitch) or the "hi's".

Sorta makes me glad I'm not one of the popular girls.

-grace

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 5:44:24 PM

amelliagrace

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

If you are sick of the vanilla life my advice is this: there still has to be a base line of vanilla on which to sprinkle the toppings. Reality: real life, kids and cats and grass that needs mowing, are all still here and careers have to be run and the bills paid.

This just became one of my favorite statements of all time.

-grace

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 5:53:58 PM

SeeksOnlyOne

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quote:

ORIGINAL: amelliagrace

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

If you are sick of the vanilla life my advice is this: there still has to be a base line of vanilla on which to sprinkle the toppings. Reality: real life, kids and cats and grass that needs mowing, are all still here and careers have to be run and the bills paid.

This just became one of my favorite statements of all time.

-grace

just say no to kid and cat mowing....i beg of you

(sorry, i blame the herbs)

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RE: Sound off - 9/29/2007 5:59:36 PM

amelliagrace

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ORIGINAL: SeeksOnlyOne

This just became one of my favorite statements of all time.

-grace

just say no to kid and cat mowing....i beg of you

*SNORK!!!*

(sorry, i blame the herbs)

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RE: Sound off - 9/30/2007 4:45:15 AM

Prinsexx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SeeksOnlyOne

quote:

ORIGINAL: amelliagrace

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

If you are sick of the vanilla life my advice is this: there still has to be a base line of vanilla on which to sprinkle the toppings. Reality: real life, kids and cats and grass that needs mowing, are all still here and careers have to be run and the bills paid.

This just became one of my favorite statements of all time.

-grace

just say no to kid and cat mowing....i beg of you

(sorry, i blame the herbs)

Dear seeksonlyone....I know you beg me but it would be better for me if you got off your knees and mowed the grass for me...............

on second thoughts leave the grass and take out the cats first ok?

< Message edited by Prinsexx -- 9/30/2007 4:51:07 AM >

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RE: Sound off - 9/30/2007 4:48:47 AM

Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

he's got a clock sticking out of one side of his
head, and something else sticking out of his neck. i immediately
began humming, " i'm a little teapot short and stout. "

Ok, i'm trying hard not to be mean and i apologize, but the way you put it is funny

Oh too mean.....but also very funny....
mind you I have sunshine coming out of my arse...too bad you can't see it on my profile pic.

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