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RE: Slipping through your fingers - 6/20/2007 8:32:53 AM

goodgirl85

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed
I don't regret anyone slipping through my fingers. What I regret is staying with the wrong person in the hopes he would change and letting it hurt me

That is my biggest regret as well. Though, I do not regret meeting him as I wouldnt be in this lifestyle without him. Everyone comes in your life for a reason and a season or something like that. And each one opens a new door full of possibilties.

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RE: Slipping through your fingers - 6/20/2007 9:11:00 AM

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I have one who slipped through my fingers. Sort of. I tried to convince him of how good we would be together. It didn't happen, we were at different places in our lives and for that reason it was not meant to be. I will probably always think the world of him. I sometimes long for what we had, but I think a big part of that longing is that I romanticized that relationship and him (it was some firsts for me and I was awed by it) and I enjoyed the physical fireworks so much, it just doesn't happen with me, like that, often. No regrets though.

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RE: Slipping through your fingers - 6/21/2007 1:38:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Ever let a great potential partner slip through your fingers and then you found yourself regretting it for a very long time, if not forever?

This thought came to me not because anything bad happened to me, but because I started to realize how hard it is to convince a dominant woman that I'm sincere, or for more generalities, that any particular submissive is sincere. Many of us find ourselves put through some really high placed hoops to show that we're not just wannabes.

little sarbonn,
I need to say my own sadness is the experience of something along the lines of what you wrote in the above quote.

Not a regret, exactly. I don't regret time spent with anyone.
Like you, I am wistfull. ( my judgement of your expression here, but you do write so well, maybe I do identify) I often feel insecure.

Perhaps what led you to accept one Dominant rather than another -who you may have been better suited for - was not your fault or choice? Did you have all the information needed to make the best decision at that time?

I ask because sometimes, people don't communicate as well as would be ideal. Numberous reasons could be...

Me? I am a doormat.

Sometimes dominants don't communicate as to hold power. They can even be shy. Maybe they didn't have the information they needed to step forward ( no fault of yours). How many factors there could be?
Infinity.

Doormat is such a negative adjective.
Could that word be a judgement call of those who don't understand a very submissive person?

Interesting topic, littlesarbonn, thank you.

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