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RE: Mentoring aniother Master's sub: - 4/28/2007 9:43:51 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Just to be clear, this has turned from a situation where someone wants advice "for a friend" only to turn out to be "the friend" in question? It would appear as such, but I haven't seen her actually SAY that.

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RE: Mentoring aniother Master's sub: - 4/28/2007 9:49:17 PM

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I lost a sub, who was as new as I to the scene at the time, to another more experienced dominant, found out after the fact and it was quite hurtful, an insult to my trust. If she had mentioned it beforehand then it would have caused a lot less suffering. Just be honest and don't fear to offer constructive criticism nor fear to accept it.....

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RE: Mentoring another Master's sub: - 4/28/2007 9:52:48 PM

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Doesn't sound at all ethical to me. It sounds like instead of delaing witht he problems at hand she going to another thinking that will solve everything. Without realizing it will do nothing but further complicate mattersl . Does not sound at all ethical in the sence you are talking about.

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RE: Mentoring aniother Master's sub: - 4/29/2007 6:28:19 AM

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I'm amazed at how complicated the OP's relationship seems to be, especially after meeting this person only once. Hang onto your seat, unless you are prepared for some drama along this ride. If the relationship is this scattered so soon, what kind of relationship complications does she have to look forward to in the future? For me, it would mean way too much drama, too much energy to invest in such a short time and a warning sign that unless one is into self-induced and unecessary outside influences, this sounds like a soap opera.

Relationship are difficult enough to sustain within the confines of a healthy environment. Why would anyone wish to make things more complicated than simplify them?

Just trying to make sense of this. The OP might ask herself these questions. Albeit, good luck to her.

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RE: Mentoring aniother Master's sub: - 4/29/2007 3:27:24 PM

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What got me was that he was giveing her orders... like not to play with her toys... this is steppiong way to far over the line.. foget that her Master doesnt even know but you "Mentor" is ordering another sub to do things this is bad practise as this conflicts with her Masters position not to mention it is not a mentors place to order such things... It goes past trying to help her out of what may be a bad situation and into him makeing a power exchange relationship between them and trying to take conrtoll that isnt his to take or even hers to give as she has a Master and while she stays with that Master she has no right to give another man that controll (In my opinion anyway) Im glad you got out of it this "Mentor" seems anyhting but honerable..

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RE: Mentoring aniother Master's sub: - 4/29/2007 3:33:44 PM

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I'm sure everything will work out swimmingly, What a great idea to have some other guy without my knowledge speaking to my sub....Everyone should try it!!! It's fun!!!...Now do you see why McDonalds has to label that their coffee is hot...Or warnings on the bottle not to drink Drano....Why would anyone need advice on a question such as this...Remember don't piss on the electric fence or the el tracks!

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RE: Mentoring another Master's sub: - 4/29/2007 6:19:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedViolets

I...................... "Is right and ethical for another Dominant to Mentor another Master's sub?". ........................

Hmmm........ I may be stepping out on the edge a bit, here. Has the 2nd dominant been a submissive at one time? It seems that a person would have to seek out a similar role model to themselves, for mentoring, no? I know I have a great network I can gleam some knowledge from, and never once has it crossed my mind to seek out a submissive to mentor me on more dominant areas of my life. Are you thinking of "training", maybe? Training does happen, and if it is with a collared submissive, it would have been the request of the dominant of the collared submissive, and negotiated. Have a great day.

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RE: Mentoring another Master's sub: - 4/30/2007 3:20:48 AM

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greetings

i think it is not right if he has the wrong thoughts in his head and has not good meansing for her. does anyone want to tell this master of what is going on ?someone should send him a note with a name to let him know.

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