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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 1:01:47 PM

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actually I would rather see them at their worst.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 1:08:10 PM

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I always try to put my best foot forward when meeting someone for the first time. By this I don't mean dressing up in my Sunday best, but I try to wear a flattering outfit, nice shoes, have my nails relatively freshly done (not necessarily painted, but at least clean and evenly trimmed or filed), hair and make-up done nicely, etc.

This to me says that I think enough of the other person, and of myself, to take the extra trouble to look nice, and if they haven't done the same, it makes me think a little bit less of them.

You only get one chance for a first impression, after that, you can't get it back!

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 1:34:28 PM

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I think that appearance is very important; as well as making a good impression. However, I don't think that always wearing 'nice' clothes is as important as how well a person takes care of themselves. A person can make a good impression on me in jeans and a tee-shirt just as well as they can in a 3 piece suit.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 2:21:59 PM

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as far as appearances goes, i go for the natural look myself meaning i wear very little and/or no makeup at all however i will get a pedicure/manicure and my hair done. for first dates/meets (depending where we are going), i do dress for the occasion and i expect my date to be properly shaved, showered and dressed too.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 2:23:32 PM

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For me...I want to look presentable and pleasing at all times, but especially when meeting new people. And though I wear very little makeup (lip gloss is the only thing I wear), I like to keep myself maintained (like pedicures and eyebrow waxing once a month, keeping my hair done and looking nice at all times, making sure my nails are always done, my clothes accentuate my best assets--but not show everything). And I would hope that if I'm meeting someone, they would care about their appearance and keep themselves up (in some way) also.

Looks are not the most important thing, but as they say, you never get a second chance to make a first impression. And I want my first impressions to be good ones. That's why I'm careful what kind of pictures I put up on my profile (I want ones that show me, and the type of personality that I have just from what they see and read), and the kind of information I give. I never know who is checking out my profile.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 2:54:51 PM

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This is something that relates to Doms/Dommes and subs, equally.

How much do you put into the value of appearances/first impressions?

I know that when I intend to go out to meet a potential sub or maybe a fellow Dom/Domme, I want to look My best. I know that if I do, I have a sense of self-confidence, a feeling of empowerment and, generally speaking, a sense of well being.

Also, if I see that a submissive has gone all-out to look her best, I am eager to see how the rest of our encounter will go.

Any other thoughts?

i'm the same way, when i first met my Dom i made sure to look my best, as if i was going into a job interview.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 3:44:18 PM

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Depends. For a first date at the movies where I know we aren't going a resturant afterwards, I might wear my paint-stained but unripped jeans with a shirt that I feel cute in. If we are going out afterwards, I'll wear my one pair of "nice" jeans. Or, I'll decide to put on lipstick, eyeliner, throw on my heels, garter stockings, skirt and sexy blouse. It really depends on who it is. Valyraen isn't impressed by heels, make-up or skirts. He likes me best in my ripped jeans and sneakers. They are practical.

And really, unless we are going to a nice resturant, there isn't much point in wearing anything but a nicer verison of what I normally wear. I'm an art person. I'm generally covered in oil paint, plaster dust, liquid nails, and sometimes burns from various glue guns. My clothes are the same way except the ones I put aside for the very specific "I have to look nice now" occasions.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 4:47:34 PM

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I am not that shallow, to summise an opinion on someones attire/appearance alone. It is only the wrapping, and clothes can conceal or reveal alot about a person.

The strive for perfection, hides hidden agendas.

To be well groomed, and comfortable in ones skin, should suffice.

In contrast when I attend a fetish market event, I usually go along casual, reason being I am usually head to toe in latex,leather or pvc midweek lol.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 5:05:36 PM

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As a fashionista, it's extremely important to me.

As a pragmatist, it's even more important that they manage to look good AND appropriate for the event.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 7:32:12 PM

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I think I would dress nicely, slacks and a buttondown shirt, because I can wear jeans and a tee any day. I don't wear a lot of makeup, because I still tend to poke my eye out trying to put on mascara, but if I'm in the mood, some lipstick and eye shadow. I'm not necessarily dressing to impress, but dressing because I don't often get the chance and I like to on occasion.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 7:36:15 PM

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For me, it is about "where" I place the value. Certainly by the time I will meet personally with someone I know what they look like, and visa versa. Appearances are statements. Of personal taste, of how another may percieve that I see them, how someone sees themself, and even thier outlook on thier relation to the world around them.
Certainly when someone takes the effort to make a good impression, I think not only that it reflects on them, but I see that they are thinking of me also.
Someone being themself. That is best impression that I think can be offered.
That, I appreciate and value.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 7:40:52 PM

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i know for myself i always try to look my best when going out and especially for "encounters".
although dont take that as i go out in heels and a dress everyday..i have a very casual style but it always has something attractive to it...when it comes to me viewing others..i would love to claim looks mean absolutely nothing but thats a lie for most ppl to state.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/22/2007 10:40:17 PM

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Overall physical appearance is important to me but not so much commercial beauty but as in good health. Healthy people are more attractive. I am not talking about issues the person has no control over, serious ailments that some of our regulars deal with. I am talking about things within all of our control. Healthy eating, good physical activity, no drug use, no drinking problem, good personal hygiene, and for me, not smoking. All of these things affect aspects of a persons appearance and physical abilities.

When I meet someone how I dress and present myself depends on the time, and where, we are meeting. I have met people for lunch or dinner during the work week. Obviously they are going to see me as I am for work. I have met people on a Saturday for lunch, a different mode of dress and more time to get ready....which means less chance of ink smudges. Once to go antique shopping, yet another mode.

I just know that anyone I should be interested in is going to present themself in a manner I do find attractive. Clean, healthy, moderately well groomed and dressed in what suits their personality and the situation. Unless it is a rather formal event to see someone that has worked too hard to look perfect would cause me to do my best to put them at ease and relax. I would appreciate all their effort most certainly but would also want them to realize it was not all necessary either. I am comfortable in the most casual or formal of situations so whatever the event calls for I am up for it.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

As a fashionista, it's extremely important to me.

As a pragmatist, it's even more important that they manage to look good AND
appropriate for the event.

LaTigresse.... I love your post, especially the above paragraphs. Very well said.

And LuckyAlbatross....I have not read a post from you, one liners and more, that have not been impressive and right on, this one included. I always look forward to reading them.

I have to admit that I dress it up a notch, the level depending on the location of meeting. Out to a nice place for dinner? I am wearing the little black dress and heels. Starbucks? It's Oregon, so my "dressy" hip hugging jeans with my black heeled boots and that classy, just a little bit sexy, shows glimpses of my belly button, sweater. Makeup and hair done.

There is plenty of time further in the relationship where I will be seen with pillowcase lines on my face in my old, thin, faded t-shirt with the rip in the shoulder, or my baggy sweatpants, just running to the store look.

First impressions....I want to have that moment where my heart stops for a second and I go "wow". Not about looks, but the realization that this person feels sexy and confident and took the time to put thought into looking their best for me. Huge turn-on.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/23/2007 3:03:06 AM

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I definitely always aim to look my best however my best will depend upon where we are meeting, a munch, expensive restaurant, pub etc. At a bare minimum my best includes shower, teeth brushed. clean clothes - skirt, jeans etc depends upon where I am going, hair washed, clean nails, the amount of make-up I will wear will depend on where I am going and also if I am going out during the day or night. I ensure that I will arrive on time or a little early. The one thing I never leave home without is my smile!

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/23/2007 6:24:39 AM

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I'll be honest when I was looking I had a very narrow and strict set of criteria.

Appearance mattered but not nearly as much as age(had to be over 40), education level, zip code, had to fall on the extreme end of dominant and sadistic, and he had to be an attorney.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/23/2007 10:06:39 AM

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Of course, always when I'm meeting somebody new, whether that be a potential dom or a vanilla date, I try to look good and dress accordingly to where the date is to take place. Freshly showered, clean clothes, combed hair and a bit of make up is enough. I feel it is almost equally akward to overdress as to underdress so no gala dresses for me. I of course expect the same principles from the guy that I'm meeting. Clean, shaven and clean nice clothes.

I once met a potential dom over coffee. He was very likeable when we talked online so I was very excited to meet him in person. When we did, he came unshaved, greasy hair, reeeaaaallly dirty and stinky clothes and just in the first 10 seconds of our meeting my mind was made up. Nooo freakin' way!

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/23/2007 10:17:35 AM

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We should all meet nude and cut to the chase.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/23/2007 10:23:57 AM

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Looks may turn My head.... but it takes a great deal more to hold My interest.

If I am meeting a young lady for the first time and I can see she hasn't made and effort.... then she obviously doesn't consider the 'potential' to have been important enough to put in the effort. That also aplies to making 'some' token gesture that she has noticed from any discussions what preffrences I may have mentioned, something as simple as wearing her hair up after I have commented I prefer it down, WILL be noticed and evaluated.

But these are all signs of attitude, effort and attention to detail rather than simple physical attractivness.

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/23/2007 1:41:08 PM

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We should all meet nude and cut to the chase.

Hehehe.... A massive meeting *would* be alot of fun...

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RE: The Importance of Appearance - 4/23/2007 2:07:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterLebeaux

This is something that relates to Doms/Dommes and subs, equally.

How much do you put into the value of appearances/first impressions?

I know that when I intend to go out to meet a potential sub or maybe a fellow Dom/Domme, I want to look My best. I know that if I do, I have a sense of self-confidence, a feeling of empowerment and, generally speaking, a sense of well being.

Also, if I see that a submissive has gone all-out to look her best, I am eager to see how the rest of our encounter will go.

Any other thoughts?

i don't try to look my best; i just try to look like me, because in the real life world, i want someone who can see me at my best and my worst and not run for the hills!

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