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CuriousLord -> RE: respect/trust - (4/19/2007 6:44:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: marylynn
Do you feel that trust should be given freely? if so, why..
Do you feel that respect should be automatically given? if so, why..
It's hard to answer these questions.
For the first one, about trust, it's not something that people can really decide for completely one way. You'd be silly to trust someone completely at first glance, but it'd be impossible to have someone perfectly earn trust within the length of a human life.
I try to find a compromise. I trust people, to a certain degree, yet considre everything said. I do not use information given to me based on trust without stating the assumption before putting it back out again until a power trust has been established.
Respect certainly depends on the type.
For the first moments of interaction with another, I respect them as another individual- which doesn't say much, but much isn't necessary in the first moments outside of common decency.
After that, if I find a person to be lacking in disagreeable qualities at a level and scale I find dissatisfactory, I respect them as a person.
This is my typical "respect". I can respect th way others live as it serves them and their right to live this way. Their way of living, however, is either not in my path, or young in it, and thus less effective in arguments vital to me.
I respect very few as equals. I doubt many passionate do. I place high values in the things that matter to me, and, thus, have worked hard to achieve them. I have relatively few equals in my chosen fields. However, it's not impossible. One particular poster on these boards, actually, earned this sort of trust from me last week, not that I imagine I've made it clear to this individual.
I hear their thoughts, ideas, and opinions on a level approximate to my own (cases may make it slightly less or more). This is more than most people consider "respect". This is a warm and amiable feeling as well.
I respect extremely few as superiors. This is a category few have ever achieved. I yield to superiors. Their decisions outweigh mine. Their thoughts, opinions, and ideas are carry more girth than mine own.
I have met few superiors in my life. I've always been rather gifted- one superior to me is, in my eyes, virtually a god. Most of my superiors were from early life, when I began my studies, and they obviously touched levels beyond me. However, in late life, I've pretty much caught up to and surpassed these individuals.
This is far more than respect. It's awe and admiration.
It should be mentioned I am not pig-headedly Dominant. I simply am because my logic is typically far stronger than that of others, and, bluntly, Reason is my God. I'm high-ranking in this field. While I doubt I would enjoy being submissive, I would not enjoy dominating a superior. I have seen it in the eyes of others, in my youth, that- that which I suspect my slaves and friends see in my own eyes- this calm understanding and the fury to pursue it.
I'm finding myself nearing my practical limits in my chosen fields. I can no longer grow my leaps and bounds. I well-expect to find a future youth to look up to me, as I had others, then surpass me. I'll help them, as much as I can, as others have me.
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