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m0rgan -> RE: respect/trust - (5/3/2007 6:22:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I thought about this one for a little while, since I seem to be looking at it from a different view.
On both counts (trust and respect) there are different levels within the path of the relationship with another. There's a big difference between where those levels sit between meeting for the first time and after getting to know someone for a while. As was mentioned, it would be foolish to trust someone with your life that you've only known for five minutes, but many of us have people in our lives that W/we have known for lengths of time that this wouldn't be a far stretch.
Having said that, trust, to some level, is given to a small point when I meet someone. Afterall, at first meeting, they haven't given Me a reason to distrust them. Over the course of time, different events will show if that trust should increase. Are they a person of their word? Do they do the things they say they are going to? Are they prone to gossip? How is their honesty level? I think those examples illustrate the point.
Respect is another matter. I happen to make the distinction between respect and common courtesy, since they are really two different things. Almost everyone, in My eyes, deserves common courtesy, until they prove otherwise. Respect is more something that is given over time as I find admirable traits within a person's character. Are they knowledgable, skilled, devoted, loyal, honest, trustworthy..... on and on? In other words, why do they earn My respect? On that, I definitely say respect is earned.
Edited for a spelling error, though there was probably more than one.
ex-fucking-actly, my sentiments entirely, courtesy is a separate but intertwined thing, but probably without starting with that (courtesy), maybe the other two (trust and respect) just don't happen, and the others build on that, sort of a series of steps, broken somewhere within the series is always going to create problems that are difficult, but not impossible, to repair?
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