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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 2:43:24 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I would tell him I am getting a second job and going back to school and don't have as much time to serve his cheap ass.  Seriously, you USE a truck, I would imagine you spend a lot of time serving him, this just rubs me wrong a bit.  I wouldn't say it is jealousy eating at you, I think it is the smart part of your brain saying "what the fuck?"

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 2:46:16 PM   
mixielicous


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I would tell him I am getting a second job and going back to school and don't have as much time to serve his cheap ass. Seriously, you USE a truck, I would imagine you spend a lot of time serving him, this just rubs me wrong a bit. I wouldn't say it is jealousy eating at you, I think it is the smart part of your brain saying "what the fuck?"


hahaha, youre too funny. yea, well someone understands me, LOL

but in reality i am already in "the best of the best" for my line of work [high-end gardening] which is not going to change - ever!

my work

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 2:49:07 PM   
mixielicous


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Would you feel better if He coudn't afford those things and was in a similar position as you are now?

no of course not, but this is theoretically impossible [His family is pretty "comfortable"]

i would never wish ill will on anyone, especially D

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 2:53:01 PM   
drawntothedark


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Status: offline 		Is this more of a "I just don't understand him issue"? You don't sound all that jealous to me, just a bit perplexed as to "Why"?

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 3:28:08 PM   
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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 4:24:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Work hard and save your money then you can buy yourself a new pickup one day if you want one.  That's how I got everything that I own and lots of other folks have do. As for the jealousy well basically you have to suck it up and try to focus on positive things like saving money.

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 7:01:45 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I'm confused.  You felt happy and proud and submissive to offer him your paycheck.  Now you are upset with what he does with it?

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 7:36:03 PM   
blushingflower


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Status: offline 		See, this is hard for me to empathize with, because I hate pick-ups.  Though obviously, if I needed one for practical reasons, I'd rather have a nice one than a crappy one.  I'm slightly envious of Daddy's Prius (though I want a blue one, it's prettier!), but since I don't really need and can't afford a car, I deal with being able to ride in it.
I think there's a difference between envy- "I really like what you have and wish that I could have something just like it!" and jealousy- "I want the exact thing that you have.  I either want to take it from you, or make it so that if I can't have it, you can't either."  (this is especially true with relationships- looking at a relationship and saying "that's sweet, I want something like that some day" v. "I want to be with the person you're with")
If you wish you could have a shiny new truck, then that's one thing.  If you think there's a reason why your master shouldn't have a shiny new truck, that's bad.  I get that you see no practical purpose, and so it's hard for you to understand the expense, but if it makes him happy, that's what matters.

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 7:45:17 PM   
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so, how do you deal with jealousy geared towards your D or /s. i know i am only human, but i feel so out of place with this & its effects on me [jealousy].


I wouldn't say I get jealous of Valyraen a lot. Except when it comes to his computer. Custom built and very pretty. My jealousy went down a lot when he helped my Mom picked out a very nice laptop for me. I wouldn't worry about it though. As long as you don't let it interfer with your relationship, just own the fact that you envious and accept it. I would imagine it would fade in time. Of course, my other suggestion is to just start saving up for a shiny thing of your own! 

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 7:48:14 PM   
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ok, well this is mostly how do i deal with jealousy? i dont encounter it often, and i dont really know how to deal with it.

i am in the green industry by trade [lamens: outside & dirty] and i have my nice, dinky, 1989 ford ranger.

my D, is a Sr. software engineer and has His nice, posh, oldsmobile alero .....


or so i thought.

it dies, and He is now car shopping. He has pretty much decided on a 2006 chevy silverado extended cab with suicide doors.

[rip]

that was my heart ripping.

i am soo jealous. i dont know what to do. i am almost even offended [since He sold His motorcycle - He cant even name a reason for buying a full size PU] granted its the cheapest "car" lease out there, but i [grrrrr] cant even stand myself for being so envious and resentful [mostly b/c i feel He doesnt deserve it OR have a use for it]. He knows how i feel, but i dont know how to get over it.

so, how do you deal with jealousy geared towards your D or /s. i know i am only human, but i feel so out of place with this & its effects on me [jealousy].


I can't help you on your post....however, the title to your post brings me to remember that many people have been envious of my penis.

(Although I choose to refer to it by the Royal title conferred on it by Queen Elizabeth, the 2nd...."That which is really big, and larger than many....so big that it defies gravity....so big that it is...did I mention how big it is?")

(QE2 was always kind to me).

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 7:59:31 PM   
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the root of all jealousy is the feeling "i am not enough"


Tigress, that's a VERY insightful comment.  Hope it'll help Mixie deal with hers, and hope it makes you feel good that thinking about what you wrote REALLY helps me deal with mine (frequent jealousy, envy, and all).  Thanks !

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 8:05:08 PM   
lovetokissnylons


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Status: offline 		Mixie, anybody who looks as good as your pictures look, and who displays the kind of smarts that you do in a lot of your posts (with all of 23 years to accumulate that wisdom, no less) AND who does as nice work as your "my work" website shows ...... tell me again why you have reason to be envious about ANYTHING ????

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 9:04:05 PM   
daddysprop247


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I'm confused.  You felt happy and proud and submissive to offer him your paycheck.  Now you are upset with what he does with it?


ditto on the confused bit.

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/11/2007 10:13:34 PM   
Devilslilsister


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Status: offline 		ah ha - so its not really jealousy. 

Its the fact that you need a truck and he doesnt, because you would actually utilize one for your work.  Its that he, with his desk job, can utilize a smaller car.. and you with your gardening job.. needs a truck.. or could really use a truck.....

Not jealousy, its about practicality.  Especially if you are giving him your pay check.  You give him your paycheck - he takes something he wants over what you need.........  yeah i'd be wtf too. 




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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/12/2007 6:09:56 AM   
mixielicous


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I'm confused. You felt happy and proud and submissive to offer him your paycheck. Now you are upset with what he does with it?

oh no, its not my money! lol - cars arenot what it has been alloted for [my pay]

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/12/2007 6:13:39 AM   
mixielicous


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Mixie, anybody who looks as good as your pictures look, and who displays the kind of smarts that you do in a lot of your posts (with all of 23 years to accumulate that wisdom, no less) AND who does as nice work as your "my work" website shows ...... tell me again why you have reason to be envious about ANYTHING ????

ah thanks! yea sometimes i forget to count my blessings!

Devils lil sister - well i guess i can only assume its not my money - thinking about it i guess theres no way to really know but, considering a recent promotion of D, i dont think its the case

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/12/2007 6:16:31 AM   
mixielicous


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Status: offline 		well, sleeping on it, i see that my judgment was hazed, and i should be happy for Him, and i will be. i guess, i am more envious than jealous, although i coulda sworn that was the case, but i would never want to actually take the truck from Him, or outright say to Him that He doesnt deserve it, coz i know damn well how hard He works for where He is now.

plus- i also learned its only a 14 month lease, and by then i will prolly be the only one with a truck in the d-way again

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/12/2007 7:38:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I find car leases in general to be wastes, but I'm an apartment renter with no desire to change that anytime soon so there you go :)

Mixie perhaps incorporate this within your understanding that finances = his domain now.  If you have questions or feelings, go to him and discuss them, let him know you're feeling jealous and irked.  But use it as a way to let it go.

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RE: slaves with penis envy [of sorts] - 4/12/2007 10:21:28 AM   
ownedgirlie


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I'm confused. You felt happy and proud and submissive to offer him your paycheck. Now you are upset with what he does with it?

oh no, its not my money! lol - cars arenot what it has been alloted for [my pay]


Oh, okay...I was left with a different impression from your financial slavery thread.

I think the point is, however, to be able to work through issues of entitlement so you can overcome any of these negative emotions that block your path to submission, be they envy, jealousy, resentment, etc. Entitlement was not an easy one for me to overcome, but once I did, I let go of most of my struggle.

In time, you will not be disturbed by what he does with his money; you will be happy for his choices. 

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