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RE: Help !!!!!! what questions should i ask a new Dom? - 4/12/2007 3:15:26 AM

phoenixinchains

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"What's the sound-tract to your life?" I'm shy but have worked in nightclubs and find this phrase very effective. It gets the other person thinking if you need to bide time, and whatever answers they give can easiely broach into a new topic. hope this helps- Phoenix

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RE: Help !!!!!! what questions should i ask a new Dom? - 4/12/2007 5:20:19 AM

Twicehappy2x

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

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Can he pay the Troll rent?

I thought you were going to ask if he can loan out his slave to trolls?

Nope. CM ID = owned by FukinTroll.

Geez man, don't you watch the polls?

I played detective today, here is a reference list to above subject "cm id = owned by Troll

http://www.collarchat.com/m_940012/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_828710/mpage_1/key_Troll/tm.htm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_831769/mpage_1/key_troll/tm.htm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_814500/mpage_1/key_troll/tm.htm#815099

http://www.collarchat.com/m_870258/mpage_1/key_troll/tm.htm

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RE: what questions should i ask a new Dom? - 4/12/2007 9:34:06 AM

MasterWilliam55

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You only need ask one or two questions with a virtually unlimited amount of sub questions: Why? - What?

For example...

Why he is attracted to a non-vanilla lifestyle?

Why does he identify as a 'Dom'?

Why is he seeking a submissive?

Once done with that begin with the 'what' questions.

What is a Dom?

What is a sub

What are a Dom's responsibilities?

What are a sub's responsibilities?

You get the idea.

Mercnbeth....that was a productive answer to the OPs post.

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RE: Help !!!!!! what questions should i ask a new Dom? - 4/12/2007 10:04:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Can he pay the Troll rent?

I thought you were going to ask if he can loan out his slave to trolls?

Nope. CM ID = owned by FukinTroll.

Geez man, don't you watch the polls?

Ehhh? I don't follow the polls? What am I missing now? Did the mighty Troll become Slave (pussy) whipped? (joking said of course)...

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RE: Help !!!!!! what questions should i ask a new Dom? - 4/12/2007 10:41:05 AM

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Have you been prescribed any psychotropic medications?
Have you received psychological therapy?
Have you had any substance abuse or addiction issues?
Have you been physically or emotionally abused, including childhood?
How did your parents get along?
Were either of them abusive or substance dependent?
How much love did each of your parents show you as a child?
How did your previous relationships end?
Do you know what narcissism is?
How is your manifestation of dominance not narcissistic?
Can you immediately stop thinking, and clearly observe your outer environment, and inner feelings?
What work have you done to master inner dominance of your mind?
What part of your self is your source of self will?
What part of your self is your source of feeling love?
How does exercising dominance inspire an experience of fulfillment for you?
How is your manifestation of dominance not the subconscious transference of other anger issues you may have?
How are control and surrender the same, and how are they different?

The list goes on and on...

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RE: Help !!!!!! what questions should i ask a new Dom? - 4/16/2007 3:18:30 PM

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most of those questions have been covered in previous conversations ... anyway thanks so much for the replies it went really well he was pleased that i asked some stuff and was amused when i asked what his favourite film was after id ask about ice cream flavours

anyway we met up again on saturday and he had a couple of questions for me that he needed to ask face to face and apparently i gave him the reactions he was looking for ......... so we are now offical ...thanks for all your help

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RE: Help !!!!!! what questions should i ask a new Dom? - 4/16/2007 3:54:37 PM

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ok i have been talking to a Dom and he wants me to think up a list of questions to ask him ........ i've been talking to him for hours every night for 6weeks so i kinda know a lot about him ... but i think he means in a bdsm way ....... i know a lot of what he likes and how he is (we have already met) ... i dont know what i like so theres no issues for me... we have only just decided we want to take things further.

but i need to ask him some questions or hes gonna think i'm not interested ........ i just cant think of anything to ask that i dont already know about him

so what should i be asking a prospective new Dom ?

Of course, I'm not looking for a Dom...me having an "outie"...I'd be looking for a Domme...however, these are the same questions I would ask of a potential Domme (if you're my potential Domme...be prepared):

1) How much money do you make?

2) Are you capable of taking care of me in the style I've become accustomed to?

3) Do you have extremely (massively) large gazongas?

4) Are you willing to be totally nekkid when I walk in the door...and if not, are you willing to subject yourself to a daily financial penalty equal to 20% of your annual income for not doing so?

5) What are the minimum size heels you're willing to wear on a daily basis (particularly when I arrive at home...any questions...see #4 above)...and if your answer is less than "4 inches...minimum"...please be aware...you may need to recieve your mail at a distinctly different address other than my own.

6) Be aware, I don't give a flying fuck if you can cook...really I don't...(see #'s 1 - 5...your answers to those questions may actually hold your entire future).

7) Wet hair and glasses are a good thing.

8) I'm willing to pay extra to have a plumber come in and put together a really nice spray machine that you can walk through just before I arrive that sprays liquid cocoa butter on you just as I walk in the door.

9) I think that pretty much covers everything.

10) I have to sit down now. I'm a little winded.

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