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MasterGremlin -> RE: Saying "I hate you!", Name calling, and Fighting (4/11/2007 8:42:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Passion357
Greetings, All,
Saying "I hate you!", Name calling, and Fighting, among Master and slaves.
I think it's good to get these feelings OUT.
So if anyone anywhere from any side of the Umbrella that is BDSM would like to share experiences of telling their Master or slave "I hate you...", name calling, screaming, and out right fighting, NO MATTER what it was/is about, please feel free.
I, for one, do not intend to judge or call you out. This is more of a support/rant/let it out thing.
However---If anyone starts flaming, bashing, etc I will request of the Mods this thread be closed and I will stop posting on it. Period.
If you have ever told your Master "I hate you"...why? What was the history? Did you feel justified or wrong? Was the issue resolved?
Have you ever told your slave "Get out"...? Why? What went wrong? Did you feel justified or wrong? Was the issue resolved?
I know Master and I went through a period ( year ) where I was close to leaving him because things were so wrong, I was so sick, (flu-strep throat- tonsilitis) and he was just wasting away working all the time.
During this time I cried way too much, especially since I am not a crier. I got so depressed...well..I'm still recovering!
But, so is he.
We found interesting ways to defuse our fights...and just the other day heard on the radio a broadcast about them.
Suddenly it's healthy for a Husband and Wife ( or let's say Master and Slave) to have seperate rooms, sleep in seperate beds, etc etc etc ...
They even went as far as LIVING in seperate residences.
Master and I seperated our house about 8 months ago. I have my own room, bathroom, den, half of the office. He has his own bedroom, bathroom, den, half of the office.
We split the kitchen, dining room became workshop ( for leathercrafts, my candle making, foosball <sp?> table etc) and obviously split the office.
We have a formal living room and dining room, and a seperate den, that is how the split was so easy.
So you know those times when you want to knock the stars out of him/her???...but you should walk away and BREATHE???
Well...GO To YOUR ROOM!
[:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]
Thank you, E, this is going to be healthy I think.
Well Wishes,
~Passion~
There was a time in O/our marriage a few years ago that things went south and W/we said the "D" word. He moved to another part of the house and I took myself back for a short while. Fights were many, hurtful things were said. It was very unpleasant. But I don't think either of U/us have ever said "I hate you" in a situation like that. W/we said "F U!" alot though. W/we both agree that there are times W/we dont' like each other a whole lot, and that is normal. Talking was really the key in keeping things together.
Now, on the other hand, W/we do alot of mock or play fighting. Master is a button pusher and lets face it, I am one big red shiney button[:D] So, for example, I am 5'1" tall, and one day long ago I found a single hair on my big toe and was aghast and plucked it instantly....well, according to Master, I am a Hobbit with hairy toes [:o] and He never misses a chance to push that button to get my reaction. Occasionally, my reaction is to tell Him I hate Him, or call Him an asshole or something similar, but it is all part of the "game" so to speak. It isn't something serious.
W/we also use this play/mock tactic with things before they become issues. W/we work on them early on and that way things don't build up and explode into nastiness later. W/we also don't get offended easily as neither one of us is very "politically correct" . It just happens to be the way things worked out for U/us and it works well for U/us.
Cordially,
minxy[:)]
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