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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/7/2007 1:08:49 AM

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ah ah ron, now we don't know if that was his chat speak and she's quoting him, or if its her doing the chat no quoting needed, so ya can't really say who needs the spelling procedure at this point.

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tell all concerned that this master will require some spelling procedure before he allows anyone involved in this to meet.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/7/2007 3:42:17 AM

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Yeah, that was a pretty silly attempt to act Domly if you had just started talking with him. It reeks of “on your knees, bitch.” A meeting like that would work if you had talked for a long time and knew each other well. Like some mentioned, it can be done.

I did find it interesting that he used more than a few psychological ploys in his conversation with you. He would meet you if he wasn’t busy. He won’t see you if you don’t do it his way. You will never get to play with him now. Next, he will block you. All this is designed to make you want him and contact him again.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/7/2007 7:31:22 AM

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This does serve as a good example of the difference between a Dom and an Ass. You made a wise decision to pass on the meeting.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/7/2007 8:14:10 AM

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Once again i would to thank Aall for your thoughts and replies, tis nice to hear opinions of others *s*

Vancouver_cinful *hugs* and hope to see you out at the next event.

FelinePersuasion > i think that if you read my previous posts to the forum you can see that i do not use that lazy way of spelling, i abhor that kind of spelling especially coming from a man of 51, i did not alter the chat text, it was copied as is from the emails.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/8/2007 6:12:58 AM

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greetings ocean

as a bad speller not but choice. but the last thing i would be worried about is his spelling he sound dangerous. the one thing i think of is the hand cuffs. once someone has you in a postion that you can not just get up and walk out is dangerous. you were right not to even go anywhere near this man. i had a mal friend who is a submissive. he trusted a domme to be good to him but the same d.s and bdsm things but she tied him so tight. and he is not a small man he is 6'2 . she tight him so that he had no way of moving or getting out. then she raped him with a strap on. this change him forever. i explain to him that rape wherther it is a man or woman is rape she made sure she hurt him and terrorixze him. he is still frighten of that happen again but he knows not to trust so easy again. that man you turn down was not right in the head and this is my opinion but nope never go somewhere alone no matter how long you had know a person. i see you did not long him long at all good and very smart to turn him down .

spelling is a big thing here and i understand this. but even if he wrote well he still was strange. i have to learn about submissive and others by how they write and i read between the lines of the writer and some who write very well are as nuts a the days are long and no mnotte i am not speaking of you . i have come across many who writting are perfect and one or two post and i know them like a book, this is how i stay safe from nuts they always will say something. i do not know how to explain it but it happen and wow. when it does i happen once i was speaking to someone online and i swear things started to fall behind me it scare me silly when i stopped talking to him it stop. so watch out for all things when talking and planning to meet someon ok

good luck and take care
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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/8/2007 12:34:25 PM

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I just quoted you so I could slurp ya!

Slurp!

I was wondering where you got off to.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/8/2007 1:32:38 PM

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Hey! Good to see you back around!

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/8/2007 1:38:10 PM

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always always always meet in public the first time, not at his home. second always have your first session in a place where someone else can hear you safety word (like a dungeon or play party). third safe calls are a must, before, during and after. be safe!

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/8/2007 2:56:58 PM

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OsideGirl has a good point about his tactics. He obviously think that making commands without depth is what some like. Where he is wrong there is that no two people are alike. Another thing I find interesting is that he must have known you were looking for a relationship, and yet he responded like this would be a quicky play meeting. So IMO, you did the right thing. Stick to your guns and you will find what you seek.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/8/2007 11:08:26 PM

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ocean, I haven't seen any of your other posts so I didn't know, plus I don't make assumptions if it's a quote or a way ofsomeone's chosen speaking lol. :d

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FelinePersuasion > i think that if you read my previous posts to the forum you can see that i do not use that lazy way of spelling, i abhor that kind of spelling especially coming from a man of 51, i did not alter the chat text, it was copied as is from the emails.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/9/2007 1:05:28 AM

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What makes a subs procedure wrong but a Doms procedure right

So this Member contacts me here, and what begins with emails goes to IM. He is local to me as in right across the river, we discuss a meeting so on...

The conversation goes something like this:
This dom hasnt had plans for playing cards confirmed yet, so may well be able to get together with u.
If i am able to see u, sir will call u no later than 7pm. U will then be given sirs address, and the time u are to arrive at my home. U will wear what i request u to wear. U will bring your favorite toy with u.
Upon arrival, u will have wrist/ankle cuffs, and a collar put on u. U will then be brought upstairs, where u will kneel before me. U will then do as i ask of u.
After doing as i ask of u, u will be offered a late dinner, if u desire to have dinner with sir.
If u are not ok with my request, let sir know, and u wont be called to get together

So i say in turn that i am not ready to accept your expectations of a first meeting. The first meeting should be a more relaxed time where we can get to know each other.

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Thats fine. I was trying to make it work tonite. I simply dont work the way u have suggested. Therefore, i guess i will have to pass on meeting up with u. This dom has his procedure. Nobody has ever been dissapointed by it. i thot it sounded pretty exciting myself. U wudda been free to give my address to anyone u wanted. U have chosen to pass on it, so i guess that will be your loss. If u change your mind, let me know, otherwise all the best to u.
The Dom pool just got shallower in BC!

If this is how you communicate, I'm not surprised things don't go as you'd like. This is like sending eachother morse code.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/9/2007 3:57:31 AM

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It sounds to me like this man just wants some quick sex. He wants to skip dating and relationship altogether.

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RE: First meeting procedures - 4/9/2007 4:52:31 AM

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It sounds to me like this man just wants some quick sex. He wants to skip dating and relationship altogether.

Males want sex, females want rerlationships so what's new?

Males pretend to want a relationship to get sex, females use sex to get a relationship and so the world spins.

There are women who really want sex but use the cloak of a relationship to pretend to themselves they aren't really a slut but hey, sluts are best, they laugh, joke, drink and have sex and all they want in return are a few good orgasms. That sort of woman is the best to be mixed up with.

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