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online training - 4/4/2007 1:19:20 PM   
eengli1


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Status: offline 		im very interested in this lifestyle and have had a short experience but dont understand how online training can work? it doesnt make sense?
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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 1:23:22 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Depends on what you are training. Play, certainly not. What we did online while still in a LDR was focus on being open to each other. He began training me to trust him by never responding inappropriately. Same thing he did in person.

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 1:29:41 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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internet training

http://www.collarchat.com/m_514363/mpage_1/key_online/tm.htm#514671
Online relationships

http://www.collarchat.com/m_243191/mpage_2/key_long%252Cdistance/tm.htm#243396
Online or Distance relationships

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 1:48:08 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		well broad question my friend.....lets start with, what would you like to be trained to do?

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 2:32:02 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		Profile says anything....please don't make me answer that one....it's never something nice i suggest....

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 3:25:08 PM   
MasterHyde


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eengli1

im very interested in this lifestyle and have had a short experience but dont understand how online training can work? it doesnt make sense?


Think of it like a correspondence course. You can learn anything online that you can learn from a book. Maybe a bit with a teacher who is focused on your needs and adjusting your curriculum as you go along. But are you ever going to know what it feels like to be bound? To really be controlled by another? Probably not. To be truly effective, I think any "book" learning needs to be accompanied with some hands-on experience.



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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 3:37:11 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		If you are honest you can learn to obey and follow orders online, a webcam helps.

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 3:43:31 PM   
krikket


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Status: offline 		I've heard it compared to an interactive correspondence course...

For myself it was a great way to explore the mental and spiritual aspects of the life, exposing me to things i had never heard of before, much less thought about (i lead a very sheltered life before that..lol).  It takes a great deal of communication and an even greater supply of trust to make it work.  If one even doubts the other (just like r/l), the relationship, imho, is doomed.  i won't argue that it's better than r/l because it's simply not, but..sometimes it's all we can have, and it can serve it's purposes.

Good luck...

jimini


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ORIGINAL: proudsub

If you are honest you can learn to obey and follow orders online, a webcam helps.


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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 3:46:35 PM   
Elorin


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Status: offline 		Online training can be many things, but it is a trust builder, a way to get to know one another, and a chance to broaden your knowledge base before meeting one another in person.

You can send someone articles, talk about limits, consensuality, define terms, explore interests. There is a lot that can be done, and a lot that cannot.

When I work with someone online I try to find out what their knowledge base is, and then expand it. I set reading assignments and writing assignments. I set tasks to be accomplished with a writing assignment at the end. I recommend books to buy, and do reading and writing assignments from them. If the sub is willing, I assign things like attending a munch, or joining a local Yahoo group.

Many different realms can be explored this way.

~E

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 3:48:09 PM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		Correspondence course is a good way to think of online training as long as you do not have to sit in front of a cam with no clothes on while some old man watches and gets his kicks which is most of the time will happen.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 3:54:55 PM   
daddysliloneds


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"play with yourself slut"
"don't cum until i give you permission or command you to"
"now bark real loud"
"spank your pussy/cock"
"sorry, i gotta go, my mom needs the computer"
"oh yeah, you may cum now"
"good girl/boy"





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ORIGINAL: eengli1

im very interested in this lifestyle and have had a short experience but dont understand how online training can work? it doesnt make sense?


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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 7:58:30 PM   
xolarkinxo


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quote:

Think of it like a correspondence course. You can learn anything online that you can learn from a book. Maybe a bit with a teacher who is focused on your needs and adjusting your curriculum as you go along. But are you ever going to know what it feels like to be bound? To really be controlled by another? Probably not. To be truly effective, I think any "book" learning needs to be accompanied with some hands-on experience.

I agree.  I'm sure you could find plenty online about how to drive a car; but, reading about it is not really learning or knowing the experience.  I also believe that knowing I can connect with a person in real time is the first step.  After knowing I am compatible "vanilla" wise, then we can move on to the d/s aspect.  I do not learn to trust someone by following their online instructions.

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 8:24:32 PM   
curiouspet55


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From: Indiana
Status: offline 		You can learn not be ashamed, or embarassed of yourself, to be open and honest...communication habits can be instilled, and getting to know one another in a non-sexual way can be done as well.

It is not easy, but it can work.

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RE: online training - 4/4/2007 10:24:12 PM   
wfsubseeking1


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Status: offline 		in my opinion, online training can only teach so much. you can never really know the Master until you meet them in person.    Human interaction is so different than online.

seeking

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RE: online training - 4/5/2007 4:15:43 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		I agree with MissSCD. You can sit in front of a cam and let some old lady watch you play with yourself.

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RE: online training - 4/5/2007 4:58:43 AM   
MistressRouge


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eengli1

im very interested in this lifestyle and have had a short experience but dont understand how online training can work? it doesnt make sense?


I agree totally. Live-sessions are far more enjoyable for both submissive and Dominant alike. The verbals and eroticism can only go so far, and I feel are too limited facing a computer screen. I would find online Domination too artificial for My liking, and it does not interest Me 1 iota lol. To instruct and command instructions via telephone or pc may work for some, but how can you inspect and fulfill all areas of BDSM this way?

How can online Domination cater for : flog, whip, spank, milk, look deep into a subs eyes, hear a subs heartbeat, hear a sub increasing pant and breath, inhale My perfume, feel the brush of My fingernails, kneel and worship My boots, feel My breath at the back of your neck, restrain, cbt, hear My whispers, applying yor own nipples clamps and insertables, exchange in a liberating and rewarding 50/50 scene exchange, tapping away at a keyboard?

http://mistressrouge.webeden.co.uk/

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RE: online training - 4/5/2007 6:07:27 AM   
MariaB


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Status: offline 		Some people will only ever be able to have online relationships and so for those sensible onliners, they learn to make the most of it.
Yes, it could be a dirty old man/woman that are getting their jollies but it could also be a good dominant/submissive that for whatever reason, can only do this online.
I hate the wording ‘real’ because people behind the keyboards are real too.
I only go for face to face meets, I do not do the online stuff because, simply, I don’t have to but if that’s all I had then Id make the best of it.
I think online control is very different to reading a book. For a start its two real people that are showing there individuality to one another.  Words are written back and forth spontaneously and interactions are taking shape through written conversations. You do not have a conversation with a book. You read it, take things on board and go away with an opinion of what you have read, that’s it.
I would of thought that you could learn an awful lot from online control. For a start, a lot of thought has to go into a command and a lot of trust to know that command will be played out. D/s is always a skilful thing, weather done standing next to each other or done as online. The dominant has to use imagination and probably more so online.
The worry, I would of thought, that most online dominants will have are, is the sub really doing what I order him/her to do or are they just telling me they are.
My answer to that would be, does it actually matter? If I was dominating someone online then I hope I would know when I had that subs head. I would have to trust them enough to believe they were attentive to my orders and if they weren’t then I wouldn’t actually know but be getting off on the thought that they were!!!

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RE: online training - 4/5/2007 8:21:09 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I agree with MissSCD. You can sit in front of a cam and let some old lady watch you play with yourself.


Or teenage boy.......

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RE: online training - 4/5/2007 8:24:01 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eengli1

im very interested in this lifestyle and have had a short experience but dont understand how online training can work? it doesnt make sense?

It is called cyber masterbation

So if you meet me
Have some courtesy
Have some sympathy, and some taste
Use all your well-learned politesse
Or I'll lay your soul to waste, um yeah
Pleased to meet you


Ross
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RE: online training - 4/5/2007 8:42:15 AM   
azzmaster


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Status: offline 		i think the whole cyber concept is silly unless u plan to meet... but its a good intro if its going to lead to something in  realtime...gettin used to each other and seein if u mesh... but alot of people like this fantasy stuff... but generally i think that is just married folks lookin for some spice

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