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Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 1:27:06 PM   
Mystique567


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Status: offline 		I wonder if anyone has had experiences with long distance relationships? Can they work? 
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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 1:29:24 PM   
SunNMoon


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Status: offline 		Yes, we've been long distance for almost 2 years. It just takes a lot of work and talking.

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 1:31:15 PM   
greeneyes1962


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Status: offline 		I am in one right now, with plans to move closer in July, when all necessary arrangements have been completed. I wouldn't be able to be in a LDR, if there wasn't an end in sight.

We talk several times a day, and see each other as often as possible. Good thing we both have the same cell company, or the hour to hour and a half calls would be very expensive :).

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 1:38:20 PM   
mystiquenz


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Status: offline 		Greetings Mystique,

LDRs .work for some and not for others, if you do a search under LDR on the search page, you will see many threads. 

For myself, i wouldn't hold my breath, for hemispheres coming together, but for some, they do.  I have friends who are a D/s couple who were very successful in their union!  There are stories out there, with successful unions, and there are some horror stories as well.  For me, location, location and location!  lol

Tread carefully!  That is my advice to you.


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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 1:42:59 PM   
NakedGirlScout


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Status: offline 		Yes, yes, yes, yes! They work... I mean, they CAN work, or some of them work, or they'll work if your relationship is strong and you have a plan in place where it won't remain long-distance forever (I know some people don't want to move in together ever, but I can't see a forever-relationship staying long distance personally, unless both people are ok with no cuddles and no sex and no gazing into each others' eyes).

Last year I "imported" my Master from Texas to Canada after a very, very frustrating few months but we never lost sight of our goals and he is now here in person and we could not be happier! Married and living together, just had our 1-year anniversary! I can't say it was ever easy but I would not change a thing. Warmest wishes and good luck to both of you!!

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 1:48:35 PM   
Tuomas


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Sorry, couldn't restist

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:07:25 PM   
Mystique567


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Status: offline 		Thank you, It just seems like time and distance can make all of it difficult. I wish there was a fail safe way to figure out if in person people can be as compatible as they are in IM and on the phone.

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:13:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Mystique567

I wonder if anyone has had experiences with long distance relationships? Can they work? 

yes - currently in one for 8months with Daddy. it's perfect for us because we communicate daily and have other interests outside our D/s dynamic.


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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:23:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		They can work because there are people in them and they are together long distance.  i think it all depends on what your needs are.  Can you be happy with very little, perhaps no, real time together?  It must be very frustrating to be in one and long to be with them.   

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:24:17 PM   
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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:28:20 PM   
mystiquenz


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Status: offline 		Maybe Mystique, local is better than internet and phone! 

I have met people who I warmed to online, met face to face, and zero chemistry. 
It's the luck of the draw. 

Please don't set your sights, unrealistically.  But if you are dead keen on persuing this LDR, then please ensure you take care for yourself.  You spend a lot of emotion, and giving on line for nil return quite often.  I had a bitter experience of an online affair, very early on the peace, and it transpired he was very married, he was not the widower that he purported to be.  So ... people lie, people deceive, people play head games, but sometimes for others, they have fairy tale endings.  Just tread carefully, and don't put all your eggs in one basket as they say, keep a part of the candle for you in reserve in case you need it.

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:28:21 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: Mystique567

I wonder if anyone has had experiences with long distance relationships? Can they work? 


Can they work... Yes

But... really.. does this answer what you really want to know?

what if I tell you that the success rate is 99 percent... would you run out and have a LDR?

what if I tell you that the success rate is 1 percent... would you run out and have a LDR?




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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:34:25 PM   
mystiquenz


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Status: offline 		Greetings KOM, Sir,

Lovely to see You ...

What's LDR anyway, same country, different cities, different countries, same hemisphere, or opposing hemispheres?

As a footnote: The Master I am speaking with is living in my country, just a different city ... and to me, that is a LDR ... until Wwe can meet, I am treating it as such.  Who is say if there will be chemistry.  It feels good though, but I am a realist, I give Him my undivided attention but actions speak louder than words.  Sometimes feeling is not enough.

*smiles* ...

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:36:59 PM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		If you both want it to work enough it will work.
I would rather have the right person some of the time than the wrong person all of the time.
But that's just me.
And things can change over time.

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 3:47:55 PM   
BalletBob


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Status: offline 		Yes I had and it does work. I am hoping to find another one soon, so I can find a freiend, and someone to have some fun with.

Searching, Sub BalletBob

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 4:07:14 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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ORIGINAL: velvetears

Can you be happy with very little, perhaps no, real time together?  It must be very frustrating to be in one and long to be with them.   

it's not frustrating being in a ldr with my Daddy and i don't long to be with Him because i have permission to meet and date other men with His prior approval of course. i'm happy having very little real time however that doesn't make me less of a submissive than those who are in rt 24/7.

what makes our ldr special is we don't live the D/s dynamic 24/7 - there's a time and place for that plus we have outside interests that we enjoy.


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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 4:07:39 PM   
Mystique567


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Status: offline 		No it really doesn't, what I really wanted to know is how they work. And how I can convince him that it could.

Mystique 

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 4:08:53 PM   
Mystique567


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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 4:13:38 PM   
Mystique567


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mystique567

I wonder if anyone has had experiences with long distance relationships? Can they work? 


Can they work... Yes

But... really.. does this answer what you really want to know?

what if I tell you that the success rate is 99 percent... would you run out and have a LDR?

what if I tell you that the success rate is 1 percent... would you run out and have a LDR?





I have been in a LDR that has been unsuccessful. I just wanted to know if it can be successful and fulfilling for others.

Mystique

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RE: Long Distance relationships - 3/31/2007 4:21:08 PM   
Mystique567


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ORIGINAL: mystiquenz

Greetings KOM, Sir,

Lovely to see You ...

What's LDR anyway, same country, different cities, different countries, same hemisphere, or opposing hemispheres?

As a footnote: The Master I am speaking with is living in my country, just a different city ... and to me, that is a LDR ... until Wwe can meet, I am treating it as such.  Who is say if there will be chemistry.  It feels good though, but I am a realist, I give Him my undivided attention but actions speak louder than words.  Sometimes feeling is not enough.

*smiles* ...


He does live in my country, although about 2000 miles away, and at least on my end there seems to be amazing chemistry. In the end you are right though sometimes feelings aren't enough.

Mystique

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