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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 3/31/2007 7:34:47 PM

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The situation might eventually benefit by such a "coming out", but I suspect it would be painful and "bloody" for awhile and some would pay a high price for it. Unlike the gay or lesbian community, BDSM involves questions about consenuality, control, equality, human rights, freedom, dignity, self determination, etc. that previous groups either did not have to cope with or not to the same degree. It creates additional obstacles, some of which are very large. I think it would likely take a long time for things to change, and until then, for those "outted" it could become very uncomfortable. And then of course you'd have campaigns of zealots deliberately outting some... which would likely result in me shooting someone (did I mention I like my privacy to be respected?). Messy business.

Exactly it isnt safe for most to come out as Domanent or submissive. I know for me I couldnt come out it would caust me to much, Thus the reason I cant even have a photo up here. I am currently getting my Masters in education and I want to be a teacher.. I dont want to think how Parent teacher meetings would go if I was open and out!!

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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 3/31/2007 7:53:13 PM

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Why? Because things are judged by their lowest common denominator.

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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 3/31/2007 7:55:10 PM

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Hmm..LOL...My daughter this year did a report for health and safety about self cutting. She came to me to ask about the why's, not from an unhealthy perspective, but from the perspective of a person who likes the feeling of the 'high'.

She's not shy about asking me about this part of my life; and she's not shy about her friends at school knowing...and her friends parents have not one bit of concern about me and my play time activities.

I think too often, we are so worried to think about what others will think of us that we forget that everyone else is also busy living their own lives.

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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 3/31/2007 7:55:48 PM

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Why? Because things are judged by their lowest common denominator.

Unfortunaltly Ma'am this is true and part of the problem... though i do like the way you put it!!

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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 3/31/2007 7:57:30 PM

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Hmm..LOL...My daughter this year did a report for health and safety about self cutting. She came to me to ask about the why's, not from an unhealthy perspective, but from the perspective of a person who likes the feeling of the 'high'.

She's not shy about asking me about this part of my life; and she's not shy about her friends at school knowing...and her friends parents have not one bit of concern about me and my play time activities.

I think too often, we are so worried to think about what others will think of us that we forget that everyone else is also busy living their own lives.

This is also a good point, however there are many spitefull people out there and it just isnt worth the chance of comeing out to those other then my emediate family and closest of friends.

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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 3/31/2007 10:10:08 PM

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You know, I was told once that the ones who look for dirt only do so when they know that there is something there that is hidden.

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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 4/1/2007 2:43:58 AM

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...you might rest much easier if you stopped giving a shit what others think of you....

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RE: How do we keep BDSM from beeing villafied - 4/1/2007 2:03:24 PM

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Interesting Fresh bread but honeslty this thread isnt about me or my inability to come out.. I personaly do think that comeing out would not be the best thing for a lot of people.. I dont think Id do better not careing what others think because others knowing Im a slave and thinking what they think makes it so I would have a real hard time finding a job doing what I want and love to do and that would make me most unhappy and there for it effects me so that is why I kinda have to care what others think.

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