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RE: Similarities - 3/26/2007 9:59:06 PM

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I change diapers at work (PCA). If I had a partner who wanted me to change diapers, I`d make him pay me. Lol

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RE: Similarities - 3/26/2007 10:55:01 PM

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It would seem that the most 'hated' of all BDSM activities is Diapers...which I assume to mean the act of diapering your partner...

People with nothing in the Hard Limits section always seem to find room for this one area...

My question I pose you is why? I ask that a lot....

I would assume because most people equate it with scat play...also one of the most common hard limits...for reasons of both squick and health/safety.

Scat play in and of itself is a limit for me, but diapers is on my 'curious' list. I would not, however, be willing to soil a diaper. Wear, sure. Wet, probably. Make dookey? No thank you. Too much risk of cross-contamination for me. But I personally don't see as how the one automatically must follow the other.

As for diapering &/or changing another? Eh. I've changed a loved one's colostomy bag a few times. Only gagged a little (on the outside) and still managed to keep her dignity intact. I'm sure I could do it, but it wouldnt be my first choice for date night.

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RE: Similarities - 3/27/2007 1:04:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Smileyking1

I took a little bit of time to go through various member profiles and noticed a striking amount of similiarities as concerned to what people in this lifestyle like and don't like...

It would seem that the most 'hated' of all BDSM activities is Diapers...which I assume to mean the act of diapering your partner...

People with nothing in the Hard Limits section always seem to find room for this one area...

My question I pose you is why? I ask that a lot....

1st I don't like the mess.... at least that kind of mess
2nd it reminds me of the whole "adult baby" thing which I'm just not into

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RE: Similarities - 3/27/2007 3:02:21 AM

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I wear nappies sometimes, it's not a biggie to me. It's not a fetish at all for either of us, but they have their uses.

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RE: Similarities - 3/27/2007 3:04:51 AM

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ok... I can tell you why it's fascinating:

Toilet training is one of the very first and most deeply ingrained social constructs all of us have experienced. It is probably one of the deepest constraints of behavior we have. To offer that up, do battle as it were against this social constraint and put it in the hands of someone else is pretty extraordinary. In our minds we hear "you're a big girl/boy" for using the toilet and without realizing it, we struggle against the opposite of that. So, to be willing - not to mention able - to offer that up...I can see where those who enjoy this practice get their enjoyment. There's submission and humiliation and helplessness and the struggle over something that we ultimately have no control over. No matter how hard we try, eventually, we're going to do the deed, and there's just no getting around that.

As to why I choose not to engage in this...I made the mistake of tallying up my diaper changing years. Three times around, and the total came to 11 years. Add to that my propensity for UTI's every time I even think the words and the possibilities of health problems for me is astronomical, no matter how careful my partner in this play might be. So, based on those two reasons, diaper play for me, is a hard limit even if I understand it.

Oh yea, I forgot. There's one other reason why I'd rather not engage in this form of play. Diapers really really can mess up the fall of a skirt. (Talk about your panty line!!)

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 12:44:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

ok... I can tell you why it's fascinating:

Toilet training is one of the very first and most deeply ingrained social constructs all of us have experienced. It is probably one of the deepest constraints of behavior we have. To offer that up, do battle as it were against this social constraint and put it in the hands of someone else is pretty extraordinary. In our minds we hear "you're a big girl/boy" for using the toilet and without realizing it, we struggle against the opposite of that. So, to be willing - not to mention able - to offer that up...I can see where those who enjoy this practice get their enjoyment. There's submission and humiliation and helplessness and the struggle over something that we ultimately have no control over. No matter how hard we try, eventually, we're going to do the deed, and there's just no getting around that.

As to why I choose not to engage in this...I made the mistake of tallying up my diaper changing years. Three times around, and the total came to 11 years. Add to that my propensity for UTI's every time I even think the words and the possibilities of health problems for me is astronomical, no matter how careful my partner in this play might be. So, based on those two reasons, diaper play for me, is a hard limit even if I understand it.

Oh yea, I forgot. There's one other reason why I'd rather not engage in this form of play. Diapers really really can mess up the fall of a skirt. (Talk about your panty line!!)

juliet

I must say that is quite the neat story, and the best reason I've seen to have diapers as a hard limit out of anyone here!
What made you ponder so deeply into this kink? was it just all the years you changed diapers for children?

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 6:28:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

ok... I can tell you why it's fascinating:

Toilet training is one of the very first and most deeply ingrained social constructs all of us have experienced. It is probably one of the deepest constraints of behavior we have. To offer that up, do battle as it were against this social constraint and put it in the hands of someone else is pretty extraordinary. In our minds we hear "you're a big girl/boy" for using the toilet and without realizing it, we struggle against the opposite of that. So, to be willing - not to mention able - to offer that up...I can see where those who enjoy this practice get their enjoyment. There's submission and humiliation and helplessness and the struggle over something that we ultimately have no control over. No matter how hard we try, eventually, we're going to do the deed, and there's just no getting around that.

As to why I choose not to engage in this...I made the mistake of tallying up my diaper changing years. Three times around, and the total came to 11 years. Add to that my propensity for UTI's every time I even think the words and the possibilities of health problems for me is astronomical, no matter how careful my partner in this play might be. So, based on those two reasons, diaper play for me, is a hard limit even if I understand it.

Oh yea, I forgot. There's one other reason why I'd rather not engage in this form of play. Diapers really really can mess up the fall of a skirt. (Talk about your panty line!!)

juliet

I must say that is quite the neat story, and the best reason I've seen to have diapers as a hard limit out of anyone here!
What made you ponder so deeply into this kink? was it just all the years you changed diapers for children?

I never once thought "kink" when changing diapers. I've simply had conversations with diapering enthusiasts over the years and they've explained why they love what they do. When they explained why they love it, I've thought about whether it'd be a worthwhile endeavor and decided, for the reasons given, plus a few more, that while I really did understand it, and while it did sound interesting (I really liked the whole idea of "messing" with the first social construct), ultimately, diapering wasn't something I would be able to engage in.

juliet

And MAN! this is an old thread!!

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 7:50:09 AM

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i've met a dom here who was interested in diapering which including soiling themselves, talking in baby talk, bathing them, etc - actually caring for a woman as if she had regressed back to her infancy. he even showed me pics of his "babies".

thanks but no thanks - i didn't want to regressed to back to that point of my life. when he confessed that it was more of a fetish for him, i blocked him. whatever i have listed under my Hard Limits, those are things i will absolutely will not do even if mine wish to push them ...i still won't. it's not my kink and i'm glad my dominants share the same hard limits as i do.

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 7:54:12 AM

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I've noticed the same thing, I don't know if it's the most common hard limit, but it's in the top ten, not a prob, I've changed a hell of a lot of diapers myself, and find nothing particularly erotic about it.

The one that has me curious is masks, mostly on partner - I can see where it might be scary, but I have to wonder how it becomes a hard limit? I do prefer to see my partners expressions, it's a primary form of feedback along with body language - something to do with objectification perhaps? Too exposed?

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 8:32:03 AM

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It does not appeal to me at all. I had 4 offspring and even they could practically diaper themselves at around 9 months. I plan on waiting 40 or so years to get into that fetish.
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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 8:35:15 AM

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WIITWD is sexual to us. If I'm wearing a diaper, then he can't get at my bits. And I know I'm not alone in enjoying sex with my play.

Diapering is a total control thing, no sexual aspects to it. It's heavy humiliation and many people can't handle that. And it involves scat which a lot of people hard limit.

Plus it isn't much fun. For the wearer, it can be impossible to use for it's intended purpose. I've known people dying in hospitals to rouse solely because of the need to get on a toilet, they can't use a bedpan. If someone with that loss of self can't break early conditioning, why would you assume someone in full control of self can? And if you don't void, you invite urinary tract and kidney infections.

The other thing is that okay, you put someone in a diaper. Then what. You have to do everything for them once you've infantilized them. Where's the fun for you in having a partner you can't interact with?

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 8:42:22 AM

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WIITWD is sexual to us. If I'm wearing a diaper, then he can't get at my bits. And I know I'm not alone in enjoying sex with my play.

Diapering is a total control thing, no sexual aspects to it. It's heavy humiliation and many people can't handle that. And it involves scat which a lot of people hard limit.

Plus it isn't much fun. For the wearer, it can be impossible to use for it's intended purpose. I've known people dying in hospitals to rouse solely because of the need to get on a toilet, they can't use a bedpan. If someone with that loss of self can't break early conditioning, why would you assume someone in full control of self can? And if you don't void, you invite urinary tract and kidney infections.

The other thing is that okay, you put someone in a diaper. Then what. You have to do everything for them once you've infantilized them. Where's the fun for you in having a partner you can't interact with?

Having a woman in a used diaper give you a blow job for the privilege of being put into a clean dry one is not satisfying for the Top?

I can't think of anything that says "My pleasure" quite so strongly. I doubt that there would be much of a bar to "interaction" in such a scenario.

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 10:36:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Smileyking1

I took a little bit of time to go through various member profiles and noticed a striking amount of similiarities as concerned to what people in this lifestyle like and don't like...

It would seem that the most 'hated' of all BDSM activities is Diapers...which I assume to mean the act of diapering your partner...

People with nothing in the Hard Limits section always seem to find room for this one area...

My question I pose you is why? I ask that a lot....

It's just that I have had three real babies and diapers (nappies) just got asociated with sick and sleepless nights and screaming and arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrryeeeeeeeeeeeukkkkkkkkkk
what came out of one end looked musch like what went in the other but all liquidised.....but it's just the diapers I can't be bothered with, scat isn't a limit because it's a grown up game.....

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 10:52:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: Smileyking1

I took a little bit of time to go through various member profiles and noticed a striking amount of similiarities as concerned to what people in this lifestyle like and don't like...

It would seem that the most 'hated' of all BDSM activities is Diapers...which I assume to mean the act of diapering your partner...

People with nothing in the Hard Limits section always seem to find room for this one area...

My question I pose you is why? I ask that a lot....

Because a woman doesn't look sexy in some big, floppy diaper.

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 10:56:35 AM

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I respect diaper play, infantilism, scat, and all sorts of assorted body function play as acceptable kinks. I choose not to partake because I don't like dealing with a mess, it is not fun for me, because I have had to deal with diapers of human adults who were incapacitated, and it's just a great big NO. Bathroom control doesn't interest me, either.

We like what we like. Me, I say it's all good as long as no one loses an eye! :)

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 11:16:17 AM

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My only hard limit is archeaology. Hard to find someone who shares my interest in the hatred of this vile pursuit.

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 11:27:46 AM

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after having um's and changing thousands of diapers it is definatly no thrill to be around them. I had 3 in diapers at once (3 in a row, less than 11 mos apart) and lemme tell you it was no walk in the park. Diaper play, neverrrrrr but I do not discount others that choose that as a form of play. To each, his own.

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 12:47:04 PM

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I find it interesting what different people find erotic. Makes me wonder why, what happened, what neuron fired at the right moment, what it is about whatever the thing is.

I find diapers about as erotic as folding the laundry (the towels, not the intimate stuff - LOL). Diapers are something that likely will never, ever enter into play for me. In a similar vein, a friend and I joke about hard limits, and one of the hard limits for both of us is "clown sex." No sex with clowns, ever. The greasepaint, the rubber nose, the big red wig, no no no no no. No clown sex.

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RE: Similarities - 1/6/2008 6:21:53 PM

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Having a stepsister and her partner both being adult babies, I have a more deeper understanding of why many adults enjoy wearing diapers either in play or 24/7. Her and I have discussed this on many occassions and for myself, being placed in a diaper doesn't do a thing for me. I can't really say that is a hard limit for me even though scat is a major ick factor for me. I won't say wearing a diaper is a hard and fast limit, under the right circumstances and with a compatible dom, then who knows?

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RE: Similarities - 1/7/2008 8:47:32 AM

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it's just as simple of myself,my Lord and my Mistress that,diapering is just something we are not interested in at all. and just on a personal point to this,my Lord and Mistress have 8 cats,i scoop litter all day,why would i want to change a diaper or have one on me? i mean if when T/they get older and one of them had to wear adult diapers and basically were no longer capable of caring for themselves i would step up,but for anything outside of than.it's just a no go (sorry if that was a pun not intended)

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