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Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:15:27 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		OK as usual this is from another post. Someone mentioned that they would wait a lifetime to find the right partner. How long for you is a lifetime? When does the compromising start?
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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:19:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I grew up I figured I'd be a wandering bohemian since I didn't want marriage or monogamy.

I also had low self esteem and figured no one would really want to be with me.

Thankfully that all changed and I realized not only was I worthwhile, but that I could have whatever type of relationship my little heart desired if I found the right people.

Even MORE thankfully, I found the right people!

I'd still be ok being a wandering bohemian if the right people weren't around.

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:20:04 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I waited 15 yrs before I decided it was time to see if I could find that connection again.  It took 4 more before I found it.
This time around, I know what I want.  I may not wait 15 yrs again, if that connection is possible I would be open to it.
Because this time around, I know what is not acceptable to me, and what is.
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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:24:03 AM   
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I just have difficulty understanding people who 'wait' for anything.
 
'Waiting a Lifetime' - 'Waiting for the -One-' - 'Searching...
 
I prefere to just live and let life progress.  Even I have a need and desire to 'belong' but I wouldn't wait for the bus to take me there if it wasn't turning up on time.  I'd start walking.


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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:26:18 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		The waiting takes as long as it takes to find someone you think you have a chance to be happy with.
Sometimes it cimes fast and for some it never comes.
I don't think we can say Ok I'll wait X amount of time, then I'll have the right mate.
I think often we are over anxious or not patient enough and we do indeed settle for someone who meets most, but not all of our needs.
In the end we find setteling only makes the right situation take longer and can cause baggage.
It's hard for any of us to predict when it's the right person & right time.
suzanne

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:27:09 AM   
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How long for you is a lifetime?
Hopefully at least one day more than it takes to find the right one. If not, it's sad, but it may be one day less then you need to do so.

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When does the compromising start?
When you are ready to accept disappointment and failure.

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:36:53 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I am not waiting for anything or anyone. I am going about my days, living my life, enjoying every god damned moment of it. If someone comes along and we end up sharing our lives with one another, grand. If not, then thats the way it is.

I refuse to compromise just to satisfy some status quo that says we are supposed to be partnered up to be happy in life. I personally think thats bullshit. I have alot of wonderful people in my life. Just because there is no grand passion or wild kinky whatever, does not mean my life is lacking in companionship or is any less fulfilling.


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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 11:45:04 AM   
WilliamWizer


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

OK as usual this is from another post. Someone mentioned that they would wait a lifetime to find the right partner. How long for you is a lifetime? When does the compromising start?


how long is a lifetime? about 80 to 100 years if I'm not wrong.
I can wait that long or more to find that right partner.
better wait an eternity for a right partner that having a wrong partner now.

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 12:10:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Someone mentioned that they would wait a lifetime to find the right partner. How long for you is a lifetime? 
 

Well, I guess it's over after I have drawn My last breath. 

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When does the compromising start? 


Never?

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 12:34:25 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Compromise can be a good thing if NOT compromising means you are so rigid you can not grow and evolve with life changes.

A close local friend of mine does not compromise.  Never has.  Now she is 46, has never had a long term relationship, is realizing she will probably never have kids, and is quite an unhappy person. The other day she said, "Maybe my standards are too high." 

I said let's look at them:

* Must be hispanic
* Must have all his hair
* Must be in shape
* Must never have been married
* Must not have children
* Must be a college grad
* Must be good looking
* Must own his home
* Must be younger than her
* Must make more money than her
* Must always do what she wants and must always pay
* Must always be prompt (by this I mean he hears about it when 5 minutes late)

She is not involved in the D/s lifestyle, but I'm using her as an example of living the consequences of choice.  I have explained to her that it appears she would rather be "alone" than budge on any of the above.  And this is quite all right, actually, except when she starts talking about how miserable her life is because she doesn't have a partner. 

It all really comes down to what's important to you, doesn't it?  In her case, she is choosing to "wait a lifetime" but then she is disgruntled about that choice.  Knowing what I know now about life, I would have been better off unpartnered in my past than to have over-compromised as I did.  But you live and learn.  Balance is a good thing.

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 12:39:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
Someone mentioned that they would wait a lifetime to find the right partner. How long for you is a lifetime?
That will hopefully be somewhere between 40-50years from now.
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When does the compromising start?
I'm not sure you're going to get clear answers here because of the way you asked this...

There are people who go their whole lives doing what they always did, and failing the same way.   There are others who look within and outside of ourselves for answers, and discover that maybe that requirement of "he needs to be 6' tall" is not one of those qualities we need in order to be in a good relationship...  Compromising for me, entails giving up solid, deeper ideals, and changing those things about oneself that make one a decent and worthwhile human being.   Giving up everything else is simply a part of growing up, learning to be better, and therefore not compromising, but indeed a very positive goal to have.   Needless to say that in the first instance, I'll never compromise; in the second, I'm definitely not stuck on how someone looks if he is able to capture my imagination and affection with his kindness/care.   M

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 12:55:42 PM   
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quote:

Dnomyar wrote:

OK as usual this is from another post. Someone mentioned that they would wait a lifetime to find the right partner. How long for you is a lifetime? When does the compromising start?



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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 1:07:16 PM   
adaddysgirl


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Status: offline 		Hahaha
 
Put an few more bottles of wine on that table and a deck of cards, and i might be one of them....lol
 
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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 2:15:03 PM   
thetammyjo


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

OK as usual this is from another post. Someone mentioned that they would wait a lifetime to find the right partner. How long for you is a lifetime? When does the compromising start?


I don't believe there is "the right partner" so this question makes little sense to me.

I think we have multiple people we can be compatible with if we just open up our minds and hearts. It isn't a matter of compromising either but of truly knowing what is important to you and what is merely icing on your cake. Also I think its a matter of being realistic and not allowing oneself to get confused by fantasies or romantic ideals.


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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 2:23:10 PM   
WilliamWizer


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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

OK as usual this is from another post. Someone mentioned that they would wait a lifetime to find the right partner. How long for you is a lifetime? When does the compromising start?


I don't believe there is "the right partner" so this question makes little sense to me.

I think we have multiple people we can be compatible with if we just open up our minds and hearts. It isn't a matter of compromising either but of truly knowing what is important to you and what is merely icing on your cake. Also I think its a matter of being realistic and not allowing oneself to get confused by fantasies or romantic ideals.



for me any and all of these compatible people are or can be "the right partner" but I see your idea.

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 2:25:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would rather be single for a long time then commit to someone just so I would not be alone. I believe that relationships take compromise but you shouldn't just take the first perosn that comes along and shows interest in you.

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 2:34:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: akisha

I would rather be single for a long time then commit to someone just so I would not be alone. I believe that relationships take compromise but you shouldn't just take the first perosn that comes along and shows interest in you.


Why would you assume that is what I meant?

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 2:36:28 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		Well considering I wasn't responding to you I didn't assume that is what you meant. 

Please note:  when you just random post it says you are replying to the person above you or the person that posted last before you started your post, even if you aren't.

< Message edited by akisha -- 3/23/2007 2:38:23 PM >

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 2:47:06 PM   
sjacket


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Status: offline 		It took me 45 years but it was worth the wait.  Now the rest of my lifetime is Hers.

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RE: Lifetime - 3/23/2007 6:20:57 PM   
kiyari


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