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D/s outside of your relationship

yes

37% (20)

44% (24)

yes, but... (explain please)

12% (7)

no, but... (explain, please)

5% (3)

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/9/2007 9:14:36 AM

daddysprop247

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well i'm glad someone pulled this one back up, i wasn't here in '04 dangit lol.

for some, D/s is how they interact within a relationship and nothing more. for others, D/s is just their overall nature/personality, so it carries over into all aspects of their lives. i would be in this latter group. i am "a" submissive, not simply my Master's submissive. so i have a very passive, people-pleasing, timid nature out in the real (offline) world. my eyes are usually at my feet, i have a tiny, soft squeaky voice, i'm constantly apologizing, whether i'm at fault or not (some stranger just drops her groceries, "oh i'm sorry!" as i scramble to pick up her things), etc. this can be both good and bad. bad, because i have often been abused and taken advantage of by people because they knew i would put up with it, and good, because some people, even total strangers, sense my submissive nature and rather than want to use it to their own advantage, they become protective over me.

but as a slave, and specifically as my Master's slave, there is a certain code of conduct i am expected to follow, even with vanillas. all men older than me must be referred to as "Sir," i am never to speak without first being spoken to, always serve others before serving myself, never walk beside or in front of any man, etc. but these rules were very easy to pick up since they fit my nature anyway.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/9/2007 2:43:13 PM

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For me, D/s is something I do within the context of my relationship.
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I have a reputation amongst my vanilla friends and coworkers for being bossy and domineering and have even been asked, "Are you one of those dominatrix women?" by coworkers. I tend to be a bit on the rude and bitchy side.

As for jobs, I am a jailer and my entire job is to supervise others. I spend 40hrs a week telling grown men when to pee, poop, shower, eat, etc and making sure they follow the rules. I'm told I have a very dominant presence at work and have no problem gaining compliance from inmates.

I only turn into SuperSub after I get home ;)

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/9/2007 4:31:09 PM

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i work for a radio station and am in the public eye about 3 nights a week so i don't behave like a submissive howerver Daddy does expect me to be a well-mannered lady. since my lifestyle is out in the open, i don't have to hide it from my bosses and co-workers. Daddy has called me while on air and i like showing off my collar at the concerts i review. no one at my UMs' schools batted an eye upon seeing the metal ring around my neck.

yet while i'm with my close family and friends - it's a different story.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/9/2007 4:49:55 PM

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LMAO, as a fellow computer tech, I can SO relate!
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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/15/2007 8:26:16 AM

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Are you D/s outside of your relationship?

I mean within reason: if you are a sub/slave do you call grocery clerks "Sir"? I doubt you "get on your knees, bitch" for anyone who asks. If You are a Domina (or Dom) do you feel the grocery clerk owes you a level of respect without telling him to kneel before his superior?

I would only submit to my Dom and no one else. Just because someone else is a Dom or a sub doesn't mean that they have to respond to others in that vein. When I meet other Doms I treat them the same as I would anyone else--with courtesy and respect--but I would not submit to them.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/15/2007 8:43:05 AM

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Just like within the community of D/s where each person has a different way they think and would like to be treated, so it is with the outside world. Since one never knows, and I have My own ways too, simple curtesy and basic societal rules apply [you have rights up until it infringes another's rights]. Just be yourself, but respond according to how others react [if you act like a b*tch and someone cowers, maybe calm down a bit; if your nice and someone slams ya put on the b*tch face]. Even within this question, one sees how one interacts with others, and how it turns out.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/15/2007 9:20:23 AM

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I call more people a day Sir/Maam then my submissive does actually lol, course with my job and just how I treat people in general thats just how it is.

Everyone I meet starts with a certian level of respect and from there they are free to build on that or tear it down as they see fit to. I do not expect the entire world to kneal before me nor do I expect or encourage my submissive to kneel before the world.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/15/2007 9:50:38 AM

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Being their own, my submission is only to Mistress Jennifer and Sir Stephen.
But a submissive personality is a submissive personality and subs are generally people-pleasers.. I think that almost every interaction involves one person being dominant to another-- it's such a continuum. it dosn't have to be even noticed, I think of dominance and submission it such a broad way, most subs, (although not nesissaraly bottoms) it's just a personality trait to be submissive.. not BDSM, just the quality of being submissive.

so I'd say yes and no.

just my two cents..

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/15/2007 10:41:27 AM

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The terms Sir and Ma'am come second nature for me, it is just the polite thing to do and the way I was raised. As for being submissive, I have been a firefighter for over ten years, a Lieutenant for the last four of it and for most of that, the only female on my dept, so being openly submissive was never an option.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/15/2007 11:16:09 AM

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Cute question, I guess I am a bit submissive at work, if not I would not have a job!
But isn't that true in general? Almost everyone with children has to be submissive at times.

Usually with children I have to be a switch, LOL.

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RE: D/s outside of your relationship - 2/15/2007 11:27:54 AM

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Cute question, I guess I am a bit submissive at work, if not I would not have a job!
But isn't that true in general? Almost everyone with children has to be submissive at times.
Usually with children I have to be a switch, LOL.

I'm in a leadership role in too many areas of my life to be a submissive in all of them, frankly. And that's probably one of the reasons why I enjoy being a submissive--I get a break to be myself.

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