WhiplashSmile
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I would have to say look at the "context" of how the word fake is being used. From what I've seen it's somewhat like the word "fuck".
fake = Liar
fake = not the One
fake = an illusion that was believed in
fake = was not real
fake = something I thought was real, but did not turn out that way
fake = not a real person
fake = wanna be BDSMer
fake = poser playing things up
fake = 50 year old man pretending to be a 22 hot babe.
fake = 60 year women pretending to be 26
fake = game player
fake = time waster
The list goes on and on. It's hard for somebody to really know what happens when you simply cut off communication without explaination. Generally many people value having a "real explaination". How can I see, if you were more of a "Real person" you would have taken the time to let them know, regardless of the drama risks. If anything say "Bye Bye" and "why" will somehow magically make you more real.
However, you are right about the Drama potential. At least this is what I've come to understand about being on this site if you are a sub/slave type.
I had somebody within this last week, that I was getting along and was really into very much. They went Poof on me, the actually put me on block. No Dear Dom letter or nothing. It actually hurt and confused me evern more not having a Dear Dom letter. To me being put on block is something one does when they are offended. At least this is how I use block.
I came online here and started up a thread about this. Yes, I suppose there can be drama in telling somebody no, but in telling somebody no and why. To me, I can only speak for myself, if I'm into somebody and they tell me that it's not mutal for them, I can respect and accept that. I might ask a couple more questions, just to make certain there was no misunderstandings that led to this event.
Sometimes, people will walk away from another because of misunderstandings, so if I ask questions it's to probe a little, and double check for this. Not for the sake of giving one a hard time. Some people will and have Walked away because of some stupid misunderstanding. Online it's even easier to have mistunderstandings too. There's no tone of voice or body language. If there's no misunderstandings, what can I do? nothing! If there is a misunderstanding, I'll try to clear things up as best I can. If they don't wanna talk about it, well that is their problem and not mine.
But Not all Doms on this site are like me, they will attempt to become Uber Doms. Kind of like a Massive show of how Dom they can be. Personally it's just an impressive show of BS and in part not dealing with rejection and hurt very well. The word FAKE mindlessly comes out of their mouth.
While I don't call others fake, to me I value explainations, actually it makes me value the other person as being more "Real", because they treated me as a REAL person by taking time to explain it to me. So you always have to look at this from two sides of a coin.
What if you started to fall for somebody, and you started to feel little heart pangs, and they simply blew you off without explaination? You you have respected and felt they treated you like a real person with real emotions, if they simply took the time and consideration to let you know Sorry and give you an explaination.
I think too many people have become burned out by Drama from others, that's it made them a little less human. Perhaps even a less real human. Not every Dom/me is the same. Not every Submissive is the same. Not every switch is the same. I don't think it right for people to pay the price for everybody's else bad or poor behaviors. This is about all I have to say on this subject.... I'm trying to keep it REAL.
< Message edited by WhiplashSmile -- 3/21/2007 7:06:27 AM >
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