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Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:16:18 AM   
SilentHunter


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Status: offline 		Why do many males, and not just subs, think its ok to cheat on their spouse, when they get their jollies, but then the wife wants to do the same its suddenly not acceptable. I ask this because i read alot of the posts on here, where male subs, cheat on their wife to a pro Domme, and male Dominants have a fling with another sub, but then they look at their partners doing the same, and suddenly its wrong.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:20:34 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		god d*m good question.....i always wonder that myself.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:26:20 AM   
gandalf0297


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Status: offline 		Cheating is cheating is cheating. PERIOD.End of story.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:26:26 AM   
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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:32:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		It is called a double standard regardless of the sex of the person or the role.

Men in general terms have a more innate approach often citing "it didn't mean anything it was just sex" while a woman involvement will be more related to the emotional sort with the sex as the cherry on top.

Men are more visual as women as a generalization are more emotional.

More men than women enjoy video tapes of pornography where women would rather read it.

However some do have arrangements of don't ask don't tell...not rubbing their spouses' noses in what is going on.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:34:58 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Yep double-standard.  I've talked to Doms who've stated that they would have other girls; but I couldn't have other guys (not that I'd want to be part of that sort of relationship), but when I mentioned that what's good for them should be good for me they'd get all pouty about it.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:35:37 AM   
Driver1961


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Many moral people subscribe to the website, 'Do as I say, don't do as I do'   There's a whole bunch of members.

http://www.doasisay.com/  only go here if you're a subscriber to this belief!

< Message edited by Driver1961 -- 3/19/2007 6:39:24 AM >

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:39:15 AM   
SirKinkster


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Status: offline 		It all has to do with integrity ,as a Dom I believe it is important to have it.how you can ever have the trust required for this L/s if you start out full of shit....I do not play with married women unless husband is present.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 6:39:30 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Yep double-standard.  I've talked to Doms who've stated that they would have other girls; but I couldn't have other guys (not that I'd want to be part of that sort of relationship), but when I mentioned that what's good for them should be good for me they'd get all pouty about it.

Reminds Me of the subs they have "under consideration" as they shop about finding a better deal and ones to put on the side while he keeps one on the back burner....the harem for example...the notch carver..

Women want to be the only one when they are involved for the most part.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 8:09:53 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Trust me, females are cheating just as much as males around here.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 8:26:17 AM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Trust me, females are cheating just as much as males around here.


A big ol' echo to that!!! 

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 8:36:09 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Because it doesn't usually hurt when you cheat on someone but it does hurt when you're cheated on. And people are selfish, they want what they want but they don't want to lose what they have. The old have your cake and eat it too.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 8:38:22 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		my very first Dom was like that. technically i wasn't his submissive but would be the only one he wanted to train because he preferred to look for other women to "test" (sleep with them) their submissiveness out. 

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 8:43:21 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		This is one reason why I keep saying that I want to do non-sexual service. I have nothing against being sexual, but not with a married man when his wife does not know and approve. It tends to keep the married men away, though not always.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 9:55:45 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Trust me, females are cheating just as much as males around here.


Yes I know this to be true of a few that I have sessioned with.

All was just fine and hot during with lots of follow up emails and voicemails from them.

One decided to get attention from some locals and claimed she was raped and was photographed and that I was using those pics to blackmail her by threatening to tell her husband.

Little did she know I archived all the voicemails and emails.

Some one later confronted Me with what was being said and I sent her the emails and offered the voicemails.

After reading them she realized what was happening on the attention seeking track covering subbie. 

In her emails and voicemails she was wanted Me to set up a website where she would cam for guys willing to pay to watch.

After a while I realized that things that were said to Me were also the same script almost vebetumn being said to other doms.

Still at the risk of being caught by her husband she continues....but what is sad is the trail she left in her wake with others. 

So one might be cautious when playing with married subbies as they seem to enjoy pointing the finger at others for their actions and decisions.

Just becareful on who you trust and just how far you caqn throw them.

Some have NO rights in knowing much more than the fact that you are a dominant.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 10:43:02 AM   
SilentHunter


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Status: offline 		Thats what i find r eading the boards, where mainly Doms want to have loads of slaves, I mean come on is this like the car thing, the bigger the car the smaller the dick thing? Where it should the more slaves the better the Dom? To me small is better lol, you know where you are, what eachother is doing, and generally works out simpler (not that i can knock the multi part, I did it what i first started out, but not my bag). I just wanted an opinion, as it seems that more want multi, without first seeing what just one is like.

Thanks for your time everyone, the input is great, I like reading what others think lol.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 10:45:47 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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But would enjoy an XKE if given the chance

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 10:50:49 AM   
LadyAnnabelleLee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43
The old have your cake and eat it too.


What good is cake you can't eat?!

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 11:38:40 AM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		Another problem with those who cheat is when they do not tell you up front what you are getting into. Since a lot of Domme will not deal with a married sub (who wants to play second fiddle to some guy's wife?) they try to hide their married state. When I last was seeking full service subs (sexual as well as service) I learned most all of the tell tale signs. The most obvious is the phantom wedding ring.. aka the untanned band of flesh on their finger where their ring usually sits. There is also the ole.. "I can't have marks because the guys at the gym see me shower." And the "I work at night so you have to call me during the day".. and when you call during the day it is obvious that they are at work.

Even as careful as you are, they can sometimes trick you. I had a sub for five months. I was able to mark him as I wanted and call him any time day or night. He took me to Las Vegas for the weekend, and just as we left the strip to come home, he got a phone call. His cell was turned up loud so I could hear the entire call. It was his live in girlfriend calling to complain that they'd gotten paperwork from his wife telling why she'd not agree to a divorce. (I guess that was important enough to break the no calls edict he'd placed on her.)  The SOB not only had a girlfriend, but a wife! Oh boy was I pissed. He got to spend five hours in a car with a Domme who was more angry than she'd been as far back as she could remember. It was the last time I ever saw him, While he'd been a decent sub otherwise, I could not overlook his penchant for duplicity!

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 11:54:20 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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Status: offline 		One for the women is when they need to leave or arrive...which is usually about the same time that school hours for their kids are

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