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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 1:55:00 PM

BeachMystress

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LOL, that is one I'd never have thought of, since I don't have children or play with women often.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 2:56:52 PM

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Would like to know how many think that a bloke cheating (or a woman cheating) is a new thing?
It is not just for one specific group of people or designated to a specific person, it is either in their nature to do so or not.
I have been on the other end many times when I was unaware that the bloke was doing something he shouldnt have been. If I had been aware of the situation, it wouldnt have happened.
It is not just a Dom/sub thing.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 2:58:57 PM

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As noted elsewhere in this thread, it's likely that just as many women cheat as men.

How do we define cheating? As liberally as "PIV sex" with someone else or as conservatively as Jimmy Carter's "I've looked on a lot of women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times?" How about the "I only have 'sex' with my sub, she knows I 'session' (egad, I hate that bastardized usage) with others."

In my small experience, the notch-carvers are plenty in "the scene." Those who seek the greener grass are easy to find. Those who are brighter cheaters invariably get sussed out in the numbers game whether they are women or men.

For me, cheating is cheating. Intent counts. Personal ethics count. Rationalizations and excuses are crutches for morally and ethically weak people.

Regardless of the preceeding rant, I can only walk my path. Judgement? You betcha. "Judgement" is not a dirty word, it's an examination of another's behaviors and words against one's own moral and ethical code.

The self-examined life and all that, you know (grin). Knowing what one wants from the position of what one will or will not allow into their life is a very difficult thing. It certainly narrows the "playing" field.

The slippery slope is imminent? You decide. Is it possible to judge yet be essentially tolerant?

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 4:14:17 PM

Quivver

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Although I'm not a Dom I ~could~ be considered a Cheater.
I am Married.
I guess this would be year 14 or so. The thing is I have lived on my own w/UM
now for over 5 years. Back in the Nilla days of my yesteryear living under the same
roof with my Husband I wasnt a cheater. The reasons I left arent important, what
is important is I can not afford to divorce him and keep a roof over our heads.
Some I meet understand my circumstance, some assume I'm lying and just using
that excuse for some kinky sex. Others dont understand why I dont just get it over
with by signing it off as uncontested.

Bottom line is I feel, think, and act single and he doesnt care .... but legally, I'm Married.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 5:04:04 PM

azjojoba

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Another problem with those who cheat is when they do not tell you up front what you are getting into.

My policy is to say I'm married right up front. I see no point in getting together with someone who thinks otherwise. It only leads to more trouble. I'm not saying cheating is the right thing to do, but at least I think whoever I cheat with should know what they are dealing with. I'm an honest cheater!

I got a rash of shit for my last post but that's OK. I understand people have strong feelings on this issue, and I don't wish to impose myself on people who don't want to fool around with married men.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 5:24:32 PM

Vendaval

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No, you are not being honest with your wife.

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RE: Dom/sub males that think its ok to cheat? - 3/19/2007 5:26:22 PM

Vendaval

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E gads! What a terrible experience, BeachMystress!
So glad that you are long past that and have your devoted
beach toy.

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