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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/18/2007 10:12:55 PM

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You, your friend, his cousin and their family and friends are all in my thoughts. This is a time for them to grieve and when they are ready to look back on his life with not only sorrow but also joy for the time they had with him.

I will post some links - you may or may not feel that it is appropriate to pass them on to your friend.

This link has a search function in the USA to find support for um's that lose a parent to suicide.

http://www.dougy.org/default.asp?pid=9113732

another link to other support groups in the USA

http://www.suicidology.org/displaycommon.cfm?an=1&subarticlenbr=55

some information for suriviors of suicide including family, friends and co-workers

http://www.suicidology.org/displaycommon.cfm?an=1&subarticlenbr=48

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/18/2007 10:27:01 PM

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Your humor will be missed. I hope things straighten themselves out for you and yours soon...

Good Luck,
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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/19/2007 9:07:10 AM

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my wishes are with you take care

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/19/2007 9:13:15 AM

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Words fail me. My thoughts go out to you and yours, and if there is any kind of assistance I might render------

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/19/2007 6:16:40 PM

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Be well, FukinTroll, and if there is anything strumpet or I could do to help, drop me an email.

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/19/2007 6:45:08 PM

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my thoughts & prayers are with you also & i hope that everyone can find peace in this terrible time.......

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/19/2007 8:31:02 PM

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Shit happens. Nearly always it are the brain damaged that commit suicide, whether due to disease, trauma or substance abuse.

Your friend is not to blame. He has no responsibility for the decisions made by others. Sure, we are our brother's keepers, but that does not make us the centre of the universe. His cousin must have interacted with tens if not hundreds of people in the few days before he committed suicide. It is silly to hold all of them responsible. Thus neither is your friend responsible.

The situation might have been much worse. For example: he might have decided to take his family with him. He did not. From this I infer that he was responsible to the last.

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/19/2007 8:43:31 PM

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I am sorry FT...my prayers go with you and all those affected..Tempting

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/19/2007 9:15:19 PM

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Thank you all for your support. We may be a bickering bunch of posters, nevertheless when it counts; I know I can count on you all.

My friend is in “anger” mode. I don’t want to make a thread on the details but as soon as official info is available I will post a link.

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/20/2007 11:55:34 AM

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FT, my um's father (my ex-husband) committed suicide Feb. 25/06. They are each still questioning how they could have stopped him. No matter how often I tell them that Daddy was a big person and made his own decisions and it's nobody's fault but his own, they continue to blame themselves. Even with councelling it will be a long, long time before they heal. It truly is a terribly selfish act and the children left behind pay the biggest price of all. My eyes well up with tears, my throat constricts with pain and my heart breaks for his um's and their grief. His ex will be angry and hurt (as I have been) but she'll get through much better than the um's. They will grieve for a very long time and there is nothing worse for a loving parent that to have to watch their um's pain and tears while being powerless to fix it for them. (My um's were 13, 14, 16 and 17 at the time.)

My thoughts and prayers are with his family. I understand all too well how they are feeling.

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RE: Going to be away for a bit - 3/22/2007 9:01:51 AM

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TY poplolly

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