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RE: The Depths of Our Darkest Desires - 3/17/2007 2:32:52 AM

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Have you truly accepted ALL your most perverse desires?
Yes

Are there still some things which make you flush with shame when you think of them?
No

Despite all the other kinky activities you enjoy, are there certain ones that still carry a stigma in your own mind?
No

Have you conquered all your demons of desire? How did you do it?
Yes, by self-awareness and acceptance.

Is all this even making sense ?

Yes

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RE: The Depths of Our Darkest Desires - 3/17/2007 2:37:57 AM

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Nothing shocks me anymore - I am a Pisces, lol (and an older Pisces, to boot). That probably sounds stupid, (and I don't actually know if this actually is because I am a Pisces), but I have a pretty brazen imagination. I might not actually ever do all of the more extreme bdsm things I sometimes think about, but I am not ashamed I think them. Nor would I flinch, or make someone else feel ashamed, if they told me their absolutely strangest fantasy - in fact, we might actually end up having a little contest, lol (how fun!).

I might do them, I might not - but I consider them all just plain human.

I used to, occasionally, think of bdsm scenarios that freaked me out. Time, and realizing I don't have to do these things if I really don't want to, plus realizing a lot of other people think along some of these lines, helped me deal. I just don't worry about it. You probably don't need to, either. Don't worry.

One other option (seriously): If you can feel somehow comfortable enough to do it - write them down, market them, and make some money selling bdsm short stories.That way, you can maybe get some of the darker fantasies out of your system (safely) plus make some cash, too. Why not?

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RE: The Depths of Our Darkest Desires - 3/17/2007 2:47:13 AM

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Those naughtiest of fantasies that we fear to admit even to ourselves, or to others in the Lifestyle, let alone to our vanilla companions.

How do you deal with these things? Have you truly accepted ALL your most perverse desires? Are there still some things which make you flush with shame when you think of them? Despite all the other kinky activities you enjoy, are there certain ones that still carry a stigma in your own mind?

Has anyone else experienced this feeling? The feeling that certain desires are hard to admit even to yourself?

Have you conquered all your demons of desire? How did you do it?

I recognize fantasies as just that, a fantasy. Sure I have had dark thoughts, I've wondered about some things that crept into my mind. But just because I have a thought or fantasy doesn't mean that I want them as a reality.
Much like rape play, play yes.. actual rape no. Since I know I won't act on them I have no conflict.
Fantasies are great and wonderful things to have, just keep reality in mind as well.
Shame? Never shame, because again I know I wouldnt turn nor want them turned to reality.

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RE: The Depths of Our Darkest Desires - 3/17/2007 3:43:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
Those naughtiest of fantasies that we fear to admit even to ourselves, or to others in the Lifestyle, let alone to our vanilla companions.

How do you deal with these things? Have you truly accepted ALL your most perverse desires? Are there still some things which make you flush with shame when you think of them? Despite all the other kinky activities you enjoy, are there certain ones that still carry a stigma in your own mind?

Has anyone else experienced this feeling? The feeling that certain desires are hard to admit even to yourself?

Have you conquered all your demons of desire? How did you do it?

I recognize fantasies as just that, a fantasy. Sure I have had dark thoughts, I've wondered about some things that crept into my mind. But just because I have a thought or fantasy doesn't mean that I want them as a reality.
Much like rape play, play yes.. actual rape no. Since I know I won't act on them I have no conflict.
Fantasies are great and wonderful things to have, just keep reality in mind as well.
Shame? Never shame, because again I know I wouldnt turn nor want them turned to reality.

I am so glad someone else thinks this way. Some of my thoughts get so off the charts I wonder if I can seperate from fantasy. But I do, like I really would not want to do a lot of things, and know the society rules that somethings are just not done.
I recognize fantasies as just that, a fantasy. Sure I have had dark thoughts, I've wondered about some things that crept into my mind. But just because I have a thought or fantasy doesn't mean that I want them as a reality. Playing with a soverenign type master, that does whatever he likes? That right there scares me to no end.
Also having a family/poly thing going on around me is often hard. One never knows whose fantasy the next go-round would be. The Masters, the other slaves, mine?
Naughty fantasies seem to haunt me the most.
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RE: The Depths of Our Darkest Desires - 3/18/2007 5:50:18 PM

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I've accepted all of them in my own head. But in some cases the aura they once held as being too extreme, too perverse, or too whatever still makes me squirm. And those are the ones I'm (very) reluctant to admit to others, the ones you have to earn my trust to get to.

And yeah, I also feel like a hypocrite sometimes because I know these are things that plenty of other people enjoy or think about too, and I'm a big proponent of honesty, and being as fully oneself as circumstances will allow, and the judgement of others be damned and blah blah blah.

But none of that makes it any easier to actually say them out loud. lol

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