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grlneedstolearn -> Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 11:22:39 AM)
Good afternoon, This is probably a repeat thread, but i couldn't find anything. My question is though: i had a conversation the other day with my Dom in regards to who decides the most when it comes to sceneing. Meaning do both of you decide on a scene? Or does one or the other take control? i hope this makes sense, if it doesn't i'll try to clarify to further if needed. Thank you

ownedgirlie -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 11:28:10 AM)
We don't use the word "scene" in that he uses me when and how and where he chooses to use me. It just "is." But he decides. I rarely know what I'm in for. There are times I might ask if we can try this or that, but he decides after that, and if he agrees to the experiment, I still don't know when it's going to happen. After awhile I learned a pretty good idea of what "general things" he enjoys doing and knew they would likely happen, but even to this day I am pushed in areas that stretch my mind. Sometimes I will get a hint: "You're going to experience some new things this time, little girl." and I'm left with my imagination until it happens. Gotta love the element of surprise!

mnottertail -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 11:29:40 AM)
do you like to suck on ass? If that isn't a big deal, how about an icepick in the forehead? well that is a little harsh, but a scene as you call it is a temporary thing, you are gonna fuck somebody or they are gonna fuck you---at some point everybody wins or loses what is most important here is to have a cup of coffee, tea, whatever and even though each and every vibration of your pissflaps is not spelled out, is that when you get all done it was SUBSTANTIALLY fun and fullfilling for the parties involved. That is somewhat different but not entirely different than a long term thing we call life. Ron

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 11:32:42 AM)
Thank you. But mnottertail, i was a little confused by your response. Sorry but i didn't quite get it, sorry [8\|]

ownedgirlie -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 11:50:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn Thank you. But mnottertail, i was a little confused by your response. Sorry but i didn't quite get it, sorry [8\|] Stick around - it's a learned language. LOL.

mnottertail -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:05:21 PM)
Ownie, lets make a scene-- you leave your master, because I am really the hunk you want----- negotiation see? Those others looking may go, no---that ain't it, and I can assure you ownie is falling squarely on your side---- That is why I say it must be SUSTANTIALLY fulfilling for both--- You up for translating all afternoon Ownie? XO, Ron

kyraofMists -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:11:45 PM)
It really depends on what type of relationship you are in and what the two of you decide. For me and alandra, he decides everything. There are times that he will ask if we have a preference, but that is rare. Generally the preference is between two toys that we don't like eg In other relationships or interactions both parties can and do decide on what happens during play. There is no one right answer; it all depends on the dynamic between the individuals. Knight's kyra

mnottertail -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:17:24 PM)
miss kyra, I admire your master and his philosopies, while I don't always agree with them in part and parcel, I think he is able to control the myst he sees. but this is a 22 year old asking about fucking, a different plane than relations I think, perhaps you and yours see different and it is easy to say this and that in an experienced and loving relationship--- but I ain't seeing the love---color me stupid but she is asking about getting a nut like the old days and how she can avoid the mistakes, which she can't because------ well, you know---- Ron

AquaticSub -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:28:49 PM)
At a play party or in a relationship? It matters a lot. Valyraen decides what we will do. I may make requests, but it's up to him. For example - My birthday wish was a scene involving his fangs (very sharp and can draw blood). However, they a bit uncomfortable and he is to be in the right mood. So while he is happy to grant my little wish, I have no idea when he will grant it. Now at a play party, I'm in a lot more control of what is going on because it's not a relationship. It's "I'm getting flogged because I like being flogged and my friend also likes flogging". It's short-term dynamic of convience and fun.

Wildfleurs -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:38:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie We don't use the word "scene" in that he uses me when and how and where he chooses to use me. It just "is." But he decides. I rarely know what I'm in for. There are times I might ask if we can try this or that, but he decides after that, and if he agrees to the experiment, I still don't know when it's going to happen. After awhile I learned a pretty good idea of what "general things" he enjoys doing and knew they would likely happen, but even to this day I am pushed in areas that stretch my mind. Sometimes I will get a hint: "You're going to experience some new things this time, little girl." and I'm left with my imagination until it happens. Gotta love the element of surprise! Similarly for us it just is and just happens. Now over the years I've become pretty good at predicting when it will happen (whenever I get naked or we are watching tv or we are in a room or when the sun comes up) and I know that I can ask for it (SM sex shtuff), which I do sometimes. And again similarly, I am referred to at times as little girl. C~

Lashra -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:45:20 PM)
I decide on the scene and incorprate some of both of our fantasies into it. I let him know in advance if its going to be a particular roleplay that way he get the costume/props he might need. ~Lashra

ownedgirlie -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:46:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Ownie, lets make a scene-- you leave your master, because I am really the hunk you want----- negotiation see? Those others looking may go, no---that ain't it, and I can assure you ownie is falling squarely on your side---- That is why I say it must be SUSTANTIALLY fulfilling for both--- You up for translating all afternoon Ownie? XO, Ron Ronnie, Ronnie, Ronnie... It's a nice dream scene for you, dear, hang onto that awhile. [;)] Unfortunately the translation office is closed for the weekend, as this one is hightailing it out of town in about 30 minutes to go see Etta James in SF. Of course my Master asks why do I want to eat a James.....

mnottertail -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 12:50:24 PM)
That's why I love you and am immediately sending you a picture of a cockshot from a magazine and am now reporting from Ghana-----'cause once you see it-----well you know You be safe out there love, My regards to you and Master tell me how it went babe

BeachMystress -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 1:34:57 PM)
I decide what we do 100%. Toy is just along for the ride. It would never occur to him to voice an opinion about what we do in play.

Aileen68 -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 1:44:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn Good afternoon, This is probably a repeat thread, but i couldn't find anything. My question is though: i had a conversation the other day with my Dom in regards to who decides the most when it comes to sceneing. Meaning do both of you decide on a scene? Or does one or the other take control? i hope this makes sense, if it doesn't i'll try to clarify to further if needed. Thank you I prefer to have no say at all in what occurs during a meeting. I start to lose my head space if given choices. It becomes a turnoff for me. If I've shown up, consider it carte blanche.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 1:54:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn Thank you. But mnottertail, i was a little confused by your response. Sorry but i didn't quite get it, sorry [8\|] Stick around - it's a learned language. LOL. Yes it is, and even then there are times you wished you had a "Ronspeak for Dummies" book! [8\|] [;)]

Aileen68 -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 1:58:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn Thank you. But mnottertail, i was a little confused by your response. Sorry but i didn't quite get it, sorry [8\|] Stick around - it's a learned language. LOL. Yes it is, and even then there are times you wished you had a "Ronspeak for Dummies" book! [8\|] [;)] When all else fails just substitute "suck my dick" and you'll be really close to what he's saying. [;)]

princess4Sir -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 2:00:19 PM)
my Dom decides everything about our sessions - He tells me when and where to show up and what to bring with me - this works for both of us - and i wouldn't want it any other way - the element of surprise and new adventures only serve to intensify the session for me

AquaticSub -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 2:03:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 When all else fails just substitute "suck my dick" and you'll be really close to what he's saying. [;)] Just as I've suspected all along...

mnottertail -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 2:04:10 PM)
finally, someone who understands me, and empathizes............

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