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KnightofMists -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 2:07:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I admire your master and his philosopies, while I don't always agree with them in part and parcel, I think he is able to control the myst he sees.



Thank you Ron.... your comments are appreciated as well as your continued cryptic insights.



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 2:08:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

When all else fails just substitute  "suck my dick" and you'll be really close to what he's saying.  [;)]


I do believe that was the first translation I figured out, [;)] even though the post was about me eating the last piece of pecan pie at Thanksgiving.  Ronspeak translation..... Eating pie = sucking his dick.  Or maybe sucking pecan pie off his dick.... but  it was definitely something in that general train of thought. [sm=lol.gif]



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 2:24:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn
Good afternoon,
  This is probably a repeat thread, but i couldn't find anything. My question is though: i had a conversation the other day with my Dom in regards to who decides the most when it comes to sceneing. Meaning do both of you decide on a scene? Or does one or the other take control? i hope this makes sense, if it doesn't i'll try to clarify to further if needed.
  Thank you

Depends on the scene.

If it's a first time scene and we've just met five minutes ago, we talk about mutual likes, we pull out a few toys and go over preferences and ideas, decide on a mutual general plan and go from there.

If it's a 2 day scene involving a lot of spiritual connection, multiple people, rituals- then we'll talk a lot more and I'll want a lot more input from the other person on where they want to go and how to get there.

If it's a general scene with someone I've played with for a long time, then I can just grab em, throw em down and start going wherever I want to go.



mstrjx -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 4:37:42 PM)

In a 'play' setting, even amidst a relationship, I generally don't let my partner know what's going to happen ahead of time.

Since a lot of what I do plays on the psychology, not talking about it prior just adds to the headspace.

I don't necessarily plan out play, anyway.  I have enough different implements that no two scenes in a month, playing daily, would be the same.  I just pick some 'easy' stuff, some 'medium' stuff, and some 'nasty' stuff, and go from there.

Jeff



WhiplashSmile -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 5:18:37 PM)

Here's what I do, and I speak for myself here.
  • Come up with ideas for scenes, share this in part or partial with the sub, look for a reaction.
  • Ask the sub for ideas for scenes they'd love to try.
  • Take the information from above, think about it, scheme up a plan.
  • Wait for awhile, act like everything was forgotten about.
  • Then spring it on them when the least expect it.

Sometimes, I might fish or make suggestive remarks regarding small specfic
details that are part of a scene I've come up with in my head. Not enough
information to spoil it, but enough to test the reaction.

I'm always keep my ears open for little suggestive remarks or comments
they have as well.  Humor sometimes is a great element for luring them
into inadvertantly revealing things, they are into as well. 

Now, I have to kill everybody on this board that knows my secret!
Just kidding about killing everybody... That was a joke!




hisannabelle -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 7:25:33 PM)

it depends. pretty much all of our sexual activity is based around s&m and power exchange and such, so it's not like we set up specific times for "scening" or anything like that. generally we just take things as they go and let our desires lead us. often he'll ask me what i want, and if it pleases him that will take us somewhere. usually where we end up is nothing like what we would have imagined had we tried to plot things out.



marsman -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/10/2007 7:44:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

Good afternoon,
This is probably a repeat thread, but i couldn't find anything. My question is though: i had a conversation the other day with my Dom in regards to who decides the most when it comes to sceneing. Meaning do both of you decide on a scene? Or does one or the other take control? i hope this makes sense, if it doesn't i'll try to clarify to further if needed.
Thank you


My submissive will set her limits and indicate her preferences, but then I choose what exactly to do.
I always decide what to do and then control the scene.

Safety is always an issue when deciding what to do as I have to temper my fantasies.

And usually I make sure that both of us are sexually gratified.



Celeste43 -> RE: Deciding on a Scene? (3/11/2007 9:50:14 AM)

Usually he does but I have been known to wander in wearing my school girl outfit and wait for a response. I almost always get an OTK spanking but whether I get bound over a desk and we do a whole role play thing is up to him.

I'm not very good about speaking up which is something he's still working on. I have this horrible fear of rejection. I prefer not to ask outright but instead leave no doubt to what I want. That way, if I didn't ask for it then I don't feel hurt and unloved should he say no. He's also careful to give me whatever he can whenever I do ask outright in order to encourage me to continue to speak up.



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