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MadameDahlia -> RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? (3/5/2007 2:44:58 PM)
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As we grow up we're taught to love each other - or at least respect each other.
I'm taught I can love both of my parents, my grandparents, my aunts and uncles, my sister and still have room in my heart to love people I call "friends".
But the moment I start looking at others as romantic possibilities I'm told that, like in Highlander, there can be only one! And I asked myself... Why? If I can love both mom, dad, my sister and numerous others... why do I have to limit myself in this regard?
Will there be jealousy issues? Possibly.
But aren't there in any relationship? People talk about being "a mama's boy" or "daddy's girl". Does that mean that they love one parent more than the other? Do you think the other parent gets jealous? Not if they're secure individuals, I'd guess.
And that's what it all comes down to. Poly works if the people involved communicate and stay on top of shifting feelings. Will everyone involved always be one hundred percent content? No. Hormones, issues, misunderstandings and a whole host of other things may and can crop up. That just means it's time for another family discussion to see if the issues can't be resolved. And, like with just about any infection, it's better to get things healed quickly. The longer something sits and festers the deeper a wound or divide it will create.
Communication, as we've all no doubt heard before, is key. Understanding and patience are right behind communication in this marathon.
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