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Pimping for your dom? - 2/24/2007 11:52:34 PM   
fusion


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Status: offline 		I have been baffled by the numbers of submissives on collarme who have been given the task of recruiting new women for their so called masters.  If a person claims to be dominant, or a master, that would imply they consider themselfs  superior to their others.  More attractive by their self confidance and charisma.   So how is the most dominant of jobs given to the submissive?  I consider that to be  a SHAMEFUL THING BEYOND WORDS!  How does one given that job still see her master as anything but lower than the lowest cheating husband they at least don't ask their wifes to help them out!
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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/24/2007 11:55:44 PM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Fusion, it is the girl, afterall, that has to be the most comfortable with the new girl. That said, I feel it should be the responsablity of both, or all, to screen the new girl. Which may be the case, you just aren't privy to the dynamic.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/24/2007 11:56:36 PM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		My Daddy doesn't tend to favor this practice at all, either - but it seems to work for some folks okay. If they're okay with it, I don't care. I'd feel uncomfortable with it, but I can see both "Pro" and "Con" reasons for it.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/24/2007 11:56:50 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		It's just another service a Master might have his slave/submissive perform for him. I see absolutely no harm in it. Quite often, it's the best way to go as it ensures the slaves/submissives in your household can get along with one another rather than try to force together personalities which just don't fit and such can help keep the peace for the Master in the house.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/24/2007 11:57:44 PM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		Ok I have my own reasons for not likeing Doms that ask their slaves to find them more slaves but come on I really wana know who you think you are "Doms are Doms because they consider themselvs supirior" Please tell me this is a joke.. I know my Master doesnt see himself supirior to me. We are different in our needs and wants and that makes us compadable because what I seek to give he wishes to get and what I seek to get he wishes to gives so it works nicely... But I would never ever be with someone who thought they were supirior to me.. You are rather full of yourself and I cant wait to see you fly aroud the room when someone takes a pin to that ego of yours.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:03:47 AM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		i would personally like to be a call girl, with Him finding clients and setting things up, etc. (which i suppose would make Him my pimp, and it IS something we've seriously given thought to), but i think He'd find it hilarious for me to seek out a third for us on a website. it's something we've considered, just for play, but we haven't been very active in seeking a third so i suppose if it's to happen it'll just have to fall into our laps

that said, i don't find this particular practice any less weird than anything else. i mean, i'm owned but i'm seeking dates and play partners...not everyone on cm has to be seeking a primary partner of some sort. hell, if we ever DO have a third, it'll probably be because of my seeking...like celest mentioned, it's a service like any other service.

that said, i also fail to understand your point about dominants and superiority...He doesn't consider Himself superior to anyone (except perhaps me, in some ways, but He still considers us intellectual equals, etc.) just because He is a dominant.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:05:02 AM   
hisannabelle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fusion
How does one given that job still see her master as anything but lower than the lowest cheating husband they at least don't ask their wifes to help them out!


here's a thought: maybe poly was an agreed-upon dynamic in their relationship. not everyone who has multiple partners lacks fidelity.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:09:53 AM   
juliaoceania


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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:10:02 AM   
azzmaster


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Status: offline 		i have seen it done for a long time. i think in a way its just humiliation. most subs don't REALLY want someone else around, some doms just manipulate them n2 it. not my style, i rather get my own, and not put a sub in that position. i prefer one on one stuff to 3somes anyway tho.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:11:44 AM   
hisannabelle


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ORIGINAL: azzmaster

i have seen it done for a long time. i think in a way its just humiliation. most subs don't REALLY want someone else around, some doms just manipulate them n2 it. not my style, i rather get my own, and not put a sub in that position. i prefer one on one stuff to 3somes anyway tho.


this is true, but it doesn't discount the fact that there are a number of submissives who find it just as enjoyable as the dominants do. not everyone is a cheating, nonconsensually humiliating bastard. hopefully. ;)

that said, i personally wouldn't like a "sister slave," and if we ever DID have a third, it would be a primarily sexual thing and she wouldn't be expected to take on a submissive role in the relationship. we're happy practicing D/s only with each other, as that's what works good for us. but it doesn't keep us from seeking out other types of relationships, either...my main point earlier was that poly can come in all shapes and sizes and that yes, there are people who cheat and who are assholes, but not everyone cheats and is an asshole. :)


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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:12:13 AM   
susie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fusion

I have been baffled by the numbers of submissives on collarme who have been given the task of recruiting new women for their so called masters.  If a person claims to be dominant, or a master, that would imply they consider themselfs  superior to their others.  More attractive by their self confidance and charisma.   So how is the most dominant of jobs given to the submissive?  I consider that to be  a SHAMEFUL THING BEYOND WORDS!  How does one given that job still see her master as anything but lower than the lowest cheating husband they at least don't ask their wifes to help them out!
                                 Fusion, who does his own hunting,,,


Firstly my Master does not claim to be anything. He is dominant and he is my Master. He certainly does not see himself as superior to me, he understands that I am a person with a whole lifetime of experience which he acknowledges and uses to our benefit. Just because someone calls themselves a Master or Mistress does not make them superior to anyone.

As for searching for another submissive, we are currently looking for a female to join us more for a scene than an ongoing relationship and yes I am doing the initial search and contact with very good reason. Master is aware that I find the concept of another woman joining us difficult so I have been given the task of finding one to see if it is one that I will complete.

Master is very capable of finding other women for himself and does so when he wishes, however, this is a case where he wishes me to do the search. There is nothing shameful in a Master giving his submissive a task to complete, whatever that task is.

Perhaps you need to consider how you post things in future as you come across as very insulting in your posts. Not an attractive trait in a Dom.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:42:30 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fusion

I have been baffled by the numbers of submissives on collarme who have been given the task of recruiting new women for their so called masters.  If a person claims to be dominant, or a master, that would imply they consider themselfs  superior to their others.  More attractive by their self confidance and charisma.   So how is the most dominant of jobs given to the submissive?  I consider that to be  a SHAMEFUL THING BEYOND WORDS!  How does one given that job still see her master as anything but lower than the lowest cheating husband they at least don't ask their wifes to help them out!
                                 Fusion, who does his own hunting,,,


Valyraen does not regard himself as superior to me (though I suspect he may come here himself to tell you that). As the quote says, we are equal yet different.

As for looking for other women, it is not something we are interested in, at least for now. But if we were, I suspect both of us would be looking. After all, she would have to suit both of us.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 12:51:51 AM   
ravenairsprite


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quote:

i have seen it done for a long time. i think in a way its just humiliation. most subs don't REALLY want someone else around, some doms just manipulate them n2 it. not my style, i rather get my own, and not put a sub in that position. i prefer one on one stuff to 3somes anyway tho.


I'm truly insulted by these thoughts but that is just me. I rather prefer polyamorous relationships. Even in non BDSM relationships it's pretty much always been polyamorous.

The reason I have been asked in the past to find partners and/or another long term 3rd part of our dynamic. The reason for this was so that I knew my Doms preference, I needed to feel comfortable with them, We all had to have similar interests, and finally his time was limited.

Limited in the fact that he worked 12 hours a day 5 days a week. He was training when not working. He also had to pay bills. I mean time was rarely a thing this man in particular had.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 1:41:39 AM   
TheGaggingWh0re


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Status: offline 		I gotta disagree with you for a variety of reasons.

For one, like someone previously mentioned, it is the other slave/sub who has to be comfortable with the new one coming in, so it's nice that they try to share some kind of connection.

Two, there are a lot of people out there who pose as if they have another sub, so it might be comforting to the one who is being contacted to at least get a glimpse of a different, undaunting personality.

And lastly, my owner has messaged many girls about joining our group, and he has made the comment that a lot of women's inboxes are filled to the brim with idiots saying "HAY U B MY SLAV AN D SUK ME COK, HO!", so they tend to skim right over the 'blue' names. Where do I get this information? The girls generally mail me explaining that they got my owner's message three months ago, or something like that, and then tell me why they might've skimmed over it. At that point the girl and I have a nice conversation to see if we're compatible or not. Also, my owner reads my mail, so he knows about some of the blind-idiots that message me with batshit-crazy mail.

So all in all, I can't say I blame any of the owners who request that their slave help them find a third party. It's group effort that gets them into the relationship, not just the dom.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 1:43:55 AM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Very good post TGW.

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 1:59:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Fusion, you seem to have a knack for misinterpreting things and screwing up your posts badly. It would seem that if you read the answers to your original post you'd see how wrong you are in your interpretation of why guys do this. How else to insure compatibility???? shove your choice down her throat????? Yeeesh!!!!

George

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 2:39:05 AM   
fusion


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Status: offline 		To clearify when I say dominants consider themselfs superior, I mean to their others; that would for myself  how I compare myself  to other men.  I do not consider the submissive nature as inferior in the least I have said before.  What is easier to be bound to the whipping post or to do the binding.  Takes more courage to stand in a room bound naked and helpless waiting for who knows what to begin?   Or to wear a black leather vest and  humilate your slut?  LOL  In the aggreagate I would say the very quality of the submissives I have meet here and in real life is probably three times that of the dominants I have known, most seem like what I call non competitor run away men.   Sort of like the women who live in Big Sur  a rural place of unreal beauty, close to where I live brave selfsufficent women who have had to settle for the outcasts of life for men.   I am not being judgemental I am shinning light on dark corners of this world.  Fusion


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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 2:43:43 AM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Fusion is this like an online persona you have adopted or are you like this in real life?

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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 3:22:56 AM   
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RE: Pimping for your dom? - 2/25/2007 3:33:50 AM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		While I like the idea put forth that the girl is being put to it for humiliation sake or to make sure they get along, the three times I run into this in real life, the male was barely into BDSM and just trying to maximize his chance of having sex with many different partners while expending minimum effort. In one of the relationships, the only "domination" that took place was him ordering her to meet him in parking lots for blow jobs, after which she'd give him a report on what she'd done in the past week to find him other fuck buddies. Strangely enough, after I talked with the girl and pointed out that there were a LOT of Dom around who actually would love to spank her butt, pull her hair and even tie her up (her main desire) she left him. While three examples do not mean much in the large scheme of things, those encounters did cause me to start taking the pimp-sub scenario with a grain of salt.

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