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Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:25:11 PM   
ron2421


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Status: offline 		I want to discuss with my beautiful, loving sub wife that I sometimes would like to flash her to certain of our friends by, for example, lifting up her skirt. Our friends are presently not in LDD or D/S relationships as far as I know.
Like with other doms, I would gain satisfaction out of sexually humiliating her in public.
Am I crazy or cruel for wanting this? Are there subs out there that actually don't mind this treatment especially if it pleases their doms?
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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:28:56 PM   
GeekyGirl


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Status: offline 		Just remember that if said friend doesn't want to see it, you are exposing them to something they are't consenting to....I personally would feel violated if one of my friends exposed themselves to me without my prior permission/knowledge.

Also, if these are friends she has to interact with or deal with in a vanilla fashion on a daily basis, it could make for an uncomfortable situation.

Also, are these friends single/uninvolved? If they are not, you should also make sure their spouse/partner is ok with them seeing another person's "goodies".

But yes, there are slaves/subs who enjoy such treatment.

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:30:00 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:30:36 PM   
MasterKalif


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Status: offline 		You are not crazy for wanting this, on the contrary quite sane as you wish to do this among friends or people you trust at least....however I am not sure how you feel explaining to them your lifestyle choice and her position in this; I would be very uncomfortable telling friends not into the lifestyle about this, personally...you also may not want to expose them without warning, might make them uncomfortable, at the very least....many subs have these fantasies as well as many Doms as you said, so its not so "out there"...

In any case, make sure you discuss it with her first and see if that is her kink too...its all consensual, that is the key word.

Have fun and good luck, keep us updated on how it goes!

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:34:38 PM   
timorous


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Status: offline 		What difference does it make whether there are other subs who like it or not?
Either you're in charge or you aren't.

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:48:34 PM   
DoctorDubious


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ron2421

I want to discuss with my beautiful, loving sub wife that I sometimes would like to flash her to certain of our friends by, for example, lifting up her skirt. Our friends are presently not in LDD or D/S relationships as far as I know.
Like with other doms, I would gain satisfaction out of sexually humiliating her in public.
Am I crazy or cruel for wanting this? Are there subs out there that actually don't mind this treatment especially if it pleases their doms?



Greetings all perverts, and welcome Ron 2421....

>> like to flash her to certain of our friends

When you say "certain" of our friends,
it sounds as if they might have previously
been informed of your situation, either explicitely or implicitely.
and sympathetic/supportive of your mildly nasty desires.

I suggest explicit, specific conversations
of what they might see at your next dinner party....

That would be the most elegant and mannerly
way to handle this little exposure-kink of yours
(which I share in a really major way, by the way)

>>I would gain satisfaction

To quote Bart Simpson.... "Well, Duhhhh"


>>Are there subs out there that actually don't mind this treatment especially if it pleases their doms?

Context my dear man, context. 
The discernment of which is up to you as a leader... wot?

Oh... I was wondering....

RU in control of this relationship?
Or only directing her to do what she
already wants to do.

DD
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It ain't bondage until she really, really wants to be released.


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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:48:55 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Yes, I am sure there are others who like it, but as most on here have said, make sure that her friends are ok with it and that SHE is ok with her friends seeing her like that.  As one person said, if these are vanilla friends, it may make a continued relationship somewhat difficult.

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:50:09 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with Geeky Girl, if you have not the consent of your friends or their partners, then you are in essence taking away their choice as well, in fact some of them may seek to avoid you later if you choose to go through with this...Tempting

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:54:45 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		For all those who are asking who is in control...IF they have discussed this prior and the wife doesn't have a problem or IF she knows or knew that this might happen sometime or IF he happens to know that humiliation is her kink, then whatever. However if humiliation is a hard limit or IF the friends are uninformed about this or IF they may have to work together and it would be too uncomfortable, then stop with the who's in charge.  Any responsible dominant would be sure that his sub was ok with it too,

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 3:57:06 PM   
MasterKalif


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quote:

ORIGINAL: timorous

What difference does it make whether there are other subs who like it or not?
Either you're in charge or you aren't.


well you are forgetting this lifestyle is all about consensual.....has nothing to do with power or not, you should read up on that...I am in charge of my submissive and she enjoys it very much.

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 4:14:36 PM   
ron2421


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Status: offline 		Yes, just for the record, it would be friends prepped for such an experience. I would never do it to her straight vanilla or business associates or anyone we agree would make her or them uncomfortable.
I would likely "break her in" by first exposing her at one of the area S/M and spanking clubs.
Thanks for all the thoughtful replies.

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 4:18:29 PM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		It's a great idea if you do it in a consensual forum! Take her to a swing club, dungeon or place like folsom. http://www.folsomstreetfair.com/ Invite your friends to the house after telling them that your wife will be serving them topless. You can humiliate the hell out of her in acceptable ways. However, non consensual exposure is a very bad idea. If any of your friends are involved in a relationship, exposing your wife to them unexpectedly disrespects not only them and yourself, but their marriage and their own relationships. You've taken away their ability to choose to only view their partner in a sexual or intimate way. What type of friends would treat each other like that. If someone I didn't expect it from (we do have friends that are casually nude in their own home and we have no problems with that.. knowing before we visited that it was the way they are) exposed themselves to myself or my husband, they would lose our friendship immediately. I'm sure some of your friends would love to ogle your wife. Invite them. Have a strip party with her as the entertainment. Keep it consensual and have fun!

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 4:24:01 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		Exposing her to people in the lifestyle who are likely used to this sort of thing is one thing.

But were I not in the lifestyle, I don't even know if I could come up with something to say if a friend said, hey, I wanna show y'all my wife's naughty parts next time you come over for a barbecue. 

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 5:26:39 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It's not cool to use your friends to get your fantasies off.  Specially if you're doing it partly as a way to show off to them.

Go to a kink event, a swingers event, hey even a nice crowded night club full of strangers.

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 5:43:19 PM   
MasterC70


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  • I agree with GeekyGirl.  If a person isn't into such things then you are violating their right of consent (to not be exposed to it).  Also you have to be certain that you don't violate the laws of your community and find yourself behind bars for indecent exposure or something.  That's without the possible reprocussions of losing friends who can't handle the embarassment you may have put them through.  
  •  I believe there are public events aren't there?  Do the rules allow you to have her expose herself at one of those?  Then you could still humiliate her and avoid the negatives. 
  •  If you just have her wear a short skirt without panties so that there is just a chance something may show (even if it doesn't) would that work?  That way you would know that she could suffer the humiliation (even if it doesn't happen, and she would know that you know she could be exposed.


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    ORIGINAL: ron2421

    I want to discuss with my beautiful, loving sub wife that I sometimes would like to flash her to certain of our friends by, for example, lifting up her skirt. Our friends are presently not in LDD or D/S relationships as far as I know.
    Like with other doms, I would gain satisfaction out of sexually humiliating her in public.
    Am I crazy or cruel for wanting this? Are there subs out there that actually don't mind this treatment especially if it pleases their doms?


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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 5:50:28 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ron2421

I want to discuss with my beautiful, loving sub wife that I sometimes would like to flash her to certain of our friends by, for example, lifting up her skirt. Our friends are presently not in LDD or D/S relationships as far as I know.
Like with other doms, I would gain satisfaction out of sexually humiliating her in public.
Am I crazy or cruel for wanting this? Are there subs out there that actually don't mind this treatment especially if it pleases their doms?


If your friends are not in the know, you will more likely be viewed as being completely inappropriate and culgar, rather than Dominant. While you might like the idea of humilating her... you have to understand that involving those who are NOT voluntarily part of things may be equally mortified. Is the fantasy of humiliating her worth losing those friends? Even after being prepped for the sitaution, you still run a risk.

There are plenty of subs that want that sort of attention.  You might want to find out of yours is one of them. Does SHE wish to be shown off this way to make you hapy?  Or are you doing this from just your side of things and not taking her desires into consideration.

I agree with most of the others.  Go to a club, and show her off to those in the lifestyle who wil still have the sme results on your end and hers. 

DV

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 5:51:03 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		How are you going to deal with it when said friend tells another friend what a slut your wife is?  Or what if he reaches out and grabs here thinking she is offering herself.  Or are these "other" friends female and ones you want to fuck?

It ain't the act, it is the motivation....

And to me your motivation sounds like short dick syndrome.

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 7:40:46 PM   
touchthesky


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Status: offline 		i used to be with someone who would do that kind of thing. it didn't bother me much cause i am not self conscious, but all that happened was people felt bad for me cause i had a weirdo BFand they started avoiding him

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/18/2007 7:53:02 PM   
Sinergy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

Just remember that if said friend doesn't want to see it, you are exposing them to something they are't consenting to....I personally would feel violated if one of my friends exposed themselves to me without my prior permission/knowledge.

Also, if these are friends she has to interact with or deal with in a vanilla fashion on a daily basis, it could make for an uncomfortable situation.

Also, are these friends single/uninvolved? If they are not, you should also make sure their spouse/partner is ok with them seeing another person's "goodies".

But yes, there are slaves/subs who enjoy such treatment.



I would agree with GeekyGirl.  Your friends did not consent to this and I would consider it rude.

On a related note, the female instructor I was working with this weekend indicated to the students to wear appropriate clothing (sweats, bike shorts, etc) to class.  She made the comment that the male instructors tend to not like getting beaver shots during our classes.  I agreed and said that my job creeps me out enough as it is.

The high school girls were all nice enough to wear sweats and long pants.

Sinergy

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RE: Exposing my sub wife to friends - 2/20/2007 3:26:01 PM   
DoctorDubious


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterKalif


well you are forgetting this lifestyle is all about consensual.....has nothing to do with power or not, you should read up on that...I am in charge of my submissive and she enjoys it very much.



So, Master Kalif....

>>this lifestyle is all about consensual

Are you suggesting that all of us in "this lifestyle"
all follow the same rules....
and that we all have the same understanding
of what "consensual" means in every context?

I don't recall appointing you as my spokesperson.

Did The Grand Council of Doms
have their annual convention and
finally pass

Bylaw 173.82 
The Meaning And Universal Regulation Of Consent

at long last?  They been trying to pass that one for years.

Fuck.... I knew I was missing critically important shit
by playing in my dungeon and not keeping up to date here on CM.

>>has nothing to do with power or not

Nothing to do with power, eh?
Nothing at all?

Jeeezuz... The Grand Council of Doms
changed more than one bylaw.

I am sooooo out of date.


>>>you should read up on that

Some of us didn't learn this shit
out of a book, website, or even
The Manual Of Well Regulated Domination, revision 3/07.


DD

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