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findmedaddy -> Submissive Male Daddies? (2/13/2007 6:05:43 PM)

The point was raised in another thread that there are submissive men who are also Daddy types or Daddy dom types. Are there? A man from this site with whom I exchanged messages for a few months last year said something similar, and I admit to not understanding it then, either. At the time I figured it was his pretense for taking a powder, but I'd love to be enlightened, if I was wrong. So, any male submissive daddy doms out there?




MasterFireMaam -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/13/2007 6:23:14 PM)

Some people have both Dominant and submissive traits. They feel these energies with different people, usually. I know Masters who are boys and slaves who are Tops. I know Masters who bottom, as I sometimes do, as well. For some people, things are a bit more fluid than for others.

Master Fire




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/13/2007 7:09:40 PM)

My partner is :)




DiurnalVampire -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/13/2007 7:11:59 PM)

I know a few sub males who are Daddy types, but they are defiantely not dominant types.  They have a fatherly predisposition to interacting with anyone younger than they are, in or out of the lifestyle.

DV




findmedaddy -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/13/2007 7:27:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I know a few sub males who are Daddy types, but they are defiantely not dominant types.  They have a fatherly predisposition to interacting with anyone younger than they are, in or out of the lifestyle.

DV


Thanks. I can understand that. The traits *are* less fluid for me, I think, than for many others here.




StacyCat -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/13/2007 9:07:14 PM)

OKay, there can be daddies that spoil their girls, but still discipline or punish them.  And, there can be daddies that just spoil :-)




dadeesgurl -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/13/2007 9:27:44 PM)

Well, I had a daddy that to others at times, seemed like he was sub...hardly not the case.  He had an extreme desire to spoil me, and whether in the company of other Doms or nilla people wrote his own rules.  He was very stern if I crossed the line.  I guess I can understand what they mean by sub Daddies, allthough I am stretching my mind to get there.  lol




twicehappy -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 5:48:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: findmedaddy

So, any male submissive daddy doms out there?


To my mind with that description they could be a switch but would most likely be a dominant (personality type) who liked to bottom.




CelticPrince -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 6:25:18 AM)

fmd,

after cruising thru the responses, I think twice happy is preety close to the point.


CP




MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 6:45:19 AM)

I did own a switch several years back who was a Daddy type to submissive women.  He had a fatherly, authoritative, yet caring way with them.  When he interacted with me, though, the dynamic was entirely different.  He was not fatherly or authoritative, as I have no need for that, but he was was very caring, eager-to-please, and doted on me. 
 
Lady Topaz




Aine -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 7:00:40 AM)

Well, I have to say that I think it is possible.

My boyfriend is a switch with at times a strong submissive side.  Hell, most of the time both sides are completely mixed from one moment to the next (as are mine).  He definitely has Daddy traits (whether he recognizes them or not as such...we're still slowly breaking the ice on that subject for various reasons) and he takes care of me and is very much what I think a Daddy Dom is, yet still at times does things that I guess some people would see as submissive.




topcat -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 7:01:22 AM)

Takes all kinds to make a scene, and the labels we apply usually limp...
 
There is also the Rarely seen 'Service Top' - a Top whose focus is on meeting the needs of a bottom, whose interations are driven by the desire to please their partner's masochistic needs, rather than fufulling thier own sadistic urges...




Aine -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 7:04:10 AM)

I'd have to say at times that is also part of my current relationship since he's not really a Sadist, and me being a masochist...we tend to make compromises with what he's comfortable with doing to sate my masochistic urges.




stockingluvr54 -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 8:23:05 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

quote:

ORIGINAL: findmedaddy

So, any male submissive daddy doms out there?


To my mind with that description they could be a switch but would most likely be a dominant (personality type) who liked to bottom.


You talking about me...??? LMAO!

Thanks for the card and sent ya a note....

PS...happy V-day to you and yours!




dadeesgurl -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 11:13:08 AM)

Humm....Service Top.  Have heard it before but never questioned its meaning.  Thank you for defining something I didnt think could be defined.  That makes sense, he was definately a Service Top.  His thrill was watching my machosistic ways being brought to light, spoiling me, or just anything that made me happy....yet he dished out when and if I enjoyed such things.  He had no interest in being a sub, so it was rather confusing to try and explain.  Thank you for the lesson.




topcat -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 11:20:07 AM)

Dear DG-
 
you're quite welcome.
 
Stay warm,
Lawrence




SwitchCurious -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/14/2007 6:12:04 PM)

I am kind of a daddy sub to a girl I met in a class I was taking. We were supposed to be teaming up on projects. She had all these guys offering to team up with her. I was surprised when she asked if she could team up with me. She told me she was smart enough to know that these guys didn't give a shit about her project, they just wanted to hit on her.

I started getting a distinct vibe that she was coming on to me. But I'm married, twice her age, etc., so I just tried to act like I didn't notice. Then one day we were in a study room together. At first we were sitting on opposite sides of the table, but then she came over and sit next to me. I was so distracted I couldn't think. Finally she asked me about it and I told her.

She told me she knew how to take care of that, and just reached opened the top of my pants and slid her hand in. She started telling me how she liked the way I was always a gentleman and not trying to get into her pants, even though I obviously wanted to. Before I knew it, I was coming. She held me tight until I calmed down, giggled, slid her hand out and said let's get back to work.

Well, we did things like that and more until the class was finished. I figured I wouldn't hear from her unless we took another class, but we still get together every few months. But the focus has changed from helping her focus to pleasing her. Usually she thinks of something she wants to try and I arrange it. One time we went up to the city to Good Vibrations. She bought several vibrators and played with them while I drove home. Then when we got back home she had me get on my hands and knees and used a wand vibrator up my ass to bring me off.

So I'm kind of like a Daddy, in that I help her and encourage, but I'm definitely submitting to her needs, without knowing whether mine will get satisifed. And if they do, it will probably be in a humiliating or uncomfortable way.

But it's worth it...




twicehappy -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/15/2007 4:34:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stockingluvr54

You talking about me...??? LMAO!

Thanks for the card and sent ya a note....

PS...happy V-day to you and yours!


Lol, and there he is folks, my favorite dominant who likes to bottom. Hugs babe, i'll answer your note today.




SusanofO -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/15/2007 4:50:38 AM)

SwitchCurious: That is a hot story!

- Susan




findmedaddy -> RE: Submissive Male Daddies? (2/15/2007 5:00:37 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

fmd,

after cruising thru the responses, I think twice happy is preety close to the point.


CP


Really? That's interesting, because to me, with my orientation, topping is not really in the cards. I've done it, and it somehow takes the magic away for me, to be on the other side.




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