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kc692 -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (2/14/2007 5:50:24 AM)
The local group is Dothan Adultfriendfinders....you should join the local group, smiles, we have a meet and greet this Saturday at 8 pm, with about 40 rsvppd and I am very open in the local group and my slave attends the meet and greets with me, smiles. (Everyone knows she is my slave also.....)

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (2/14/2007 7:25:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MastersChild I've been contemplating posting a profile that subtly and tactfully hints at the darker side of me on a vanilla dating website. Has anyone tried this? If so, what kinds of results did you get? i have posted on another vanilla adult site and had to change my profile about 3 times because i discovered if you mention the following words "submissive" and/or "dominant", you will get the most unwanted responses in your mailbox. after 24hrs of joining, i had over 100 messages from desperate guys with sex on the brain. some the messages i received - a guy who thought our "first date" should be a gangbang in a hotel with a few friends ...a "Dom" who was looking for a subbie to train as his full-time toilet ...vanillas using the title "Dom" as a sex kink ...other requests asked if i had large breasts for bondage and/or to abuse. the art of getting to know a woman was very lacking on this site because most were looking for a one-night stand and my profile clearly stated in bold letters i wasn't looking for type of relationship. one good thing came out of that site - i met Daddy there. i did eventually delete my account on this site. my advice - clearly state in your profile what you are actually looking for on the site you join and look/read carefully every profile that contacts you ....never give out any private info about yourself unless you feel very comfortable with this person. so will send you all their private info in their 1st message to you (enough to open an account in their name)- had one guy tell me he wanted to meet him alone at his place, i quickly turned him down.

mattwayn -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/29/2009 5:06:54 PM)
Hello, my name is Matt, am sorry if i bother you though is just that i kinda like you...you look good and gentle. can you use those tools on me?...love to be beating real hard

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/29/2009 5:23:21 PM)
To OP: I was on PLENTY of FISH and tried different things.. I listed things in the interests section like rope.. female led relationship... I indicated I was a "take charge woman".. and I got a LOT of questions...rudeness and really socially inept responses from those seeking one night stands.. also many who wanted to talk on and on about "what woudl you do to me?" *WHEN I put Venuson Top as my user name..refered to the website( for which I was eventaully deleted from the site) I got some really GOOD responses from genuine and serious men..* some knowledgeable..some curious..I met 2 and ended up with one as a PT playmate for a while.. If you do this then you need to be QUICKER at weeding out or discerning possibility..and to know MANY will not know anything about polite protocol..or manners I also feel and have been told that sites such as the above ( and yes CM too)are filled with abusers who can lure in the naive and curious with a bit of BDSM talk... I talked to one man who is on CM and POF who had a young woman under his spell and servicing his buddies and him for months when she DID NOT WANT TO...thinking this was how a BDSM relationship worked.. GQ

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/29/2009 5:30:01 PM)
Is this dull crayon KIDDING ME? it's a friggin thread from 2007 for fucks sake and he only revives it to hit on some chick.

WyldHrt -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/29/2009 9:53:07 PM)
LMAO, Subtle! You beat me to it! [:D][:D]

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/29/2009 10:24:55 PM)
[:o]well I am embare assed.....

DavanKael -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/29/2009 10:40:51 PM)
Lol, I noticed the yummy photo and was distressed by the poor use of the language...didn't notice the dates until I scrolled down a bit further. Davan (Who is sometimes distracted by eyecandy)

LadySweetOrSour -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/29/2009 10:44:18 PM)
"dull crayon"[sm=rofl.gif] Sorry for keeping this going, but Butters, you kill me!!!

aBondageTop -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/31/2009 7:23:19 PM)
It works great... but if you can't live without kink, I suggest telling your partner before you become intimate.

aBondageTop -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/31/2009 7:30:14 PM)
Sorry, I didn't quite read your post... no need to hint... just post a vanilla ad and soon enough you will meet a compatible partner

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (5/31/2009 10:00:37 PM)
i did it once on E-Harmony a long time ago & they said they couldn't help me at this time. lol Then awhile ago i had an ad on craigslist before i met Sir on collarme.com. Well, the ad itself was very, very subtle with hardly even any hints, but the header said "Looking for Local Dominant." It was on for two days before it got flagged and bumped, then i put it back on and it got flagged and bumped again in two more days. In four days i got 31 answers, all but one from local Doms in my town. For one reason or another, W/we just didn't click......personality differences, some were still married, W/we were looking for different things, etc etc. Anyway, i got fantastic number of responses.

Apocalypso -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (6/1/2009 7:03:05 AM)
If you're going to use any of the 'nilla sites, I'd recommend OKCupid. It's far more kink (and poly) friendly than the others.

IronBear -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (6/2/2009 7:13:09 AM)
When I post a profile on a vanilla site, I just alter the one I have here regarding who I am and what is important to me. The kink and lifestyle stuff is mentioned under: 1. I live a Pagan and Victorian Period Adult Lifestyle. 2. I am married and we are a poly home with both my wife and I being dominants. 3. I am seeking a lady who is by nature submissive. 4. My interests include: Body decorations with needles. Rope, Leather and Chain art. I get people contacting me seeking additional information but so far, although there have been a number of possible good replies none live in my area. I have found that leaving out the terms: BDSM, slave and other defining kink references means I have no rejects from the site management.

CopperheadRd -> RE: Posting a Profile on Vanilla Websites (6/2/2009 10:25:23 AM)
Just added this to an ad at a vanilla site: In most aspects of my life, I'm very easy going. In others, very domineering. If you tell me to do something, I'll smile and act like I didn't hear you. If you ask nicely, most anything can be arranged.

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